The fish Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I'll forgive everything that happens immediately around me so far in life, on one condition: they admit to what they've done/said. Of course, not much really bad stuff has happened to me or those around me in my life so far, so I don't know how I'll react when something bad does go down...
Daft Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I forgive very easily, but I try and put myself in a position where I don't expect anything from anyone. If someone lets me down I blame myself for trusting them.
My Buttons are Magic! Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 i dont trust easily - so if someone does something to me and i trust that person - then i cant forgive them .. but if its someone i dont give a toss about ill not be bothered i.e if my boyfriend cheated on me ( not that he would i hope :P).. i could never forgive him - couldnt trust him like
Demuwan Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I've forgiven you already, for creating such an awful thread.:p joking
ViPeR Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Most of the time I try to understand why someone has done something and forgive them. However there are certain people I have really really tried to forgive just so I can move on myself and perhaps regain lost friendships but I just can't bring myself to do it. Some pains just go too deep and I do wonder if I will ever forgive them.
Twozzok Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I've forgiven you already, for creating such an awful thread.:p joking You're only really meant to do this when it is a bad thread :P Don't follow blindly, don't obey stupid rules, don't trust anyone who didn't earn your trust. This. I have slight trust issues. So if someone I trust does something, it's gonna take them doing something to regain my trust before I can forgive them. But then, I can think of possibly 2 maybe 3 people I can say I trust, so I'm not sure it overly matters, most people I couldn't give a shit about what they say or do so
Ginger_Chris Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 If by forgive you mean not being bothered to be angry ignore someone, then very. I find it very difficult to be deliberately hostile to someone. However I find it very easy to just not put any effort into making conversation, or generally just treating them as a complete randomer. If someone pisses me off I just don't make the effort of being their friend. If they make the effort to be friendly ill usually be firends again very quickly. Basically, I don't put any effort into anything, ever.
nekunando Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 In my opinion, if you trust someone and they do something to break that trust, you will never go back to trusting them 100% again. You may forgive them (depending on the severity) but there'll always be something in your head making you think '..but oh yeh, remember that time when..' so it can leave you always having doubts. As for me personally, I have this terrible thing where I pretty much always remember when someone has wronged me, or done something I didn't like and, well.. I wouldn't say I hold it against them but sometimes I would start remembering it/ thinking about it and it just gets to me all over again to the point where I probably have to go and bring it up again. That, you can imagine, could lead to unnecessary annoyances and arguments My girlfriend probably knows about that better than anyone.. (I can get frustrated by things that probably shouldn't even matter. For example, I will probably never be able to really enjoy a Ryan Reynolds movie again because of something stupid. But hey.. that's me..) Sometimes it is just too hard to let things go..
GigaPlay Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I forgive everybody for everything. Can't hold a grudge for more than an hour. Life is good.
My Buttons are Magic! Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 In my opinion, if you trust someone and they do something to break that trust, you will never go back to trusting them 100% again. You may forgive them (depending on the severity) but there'll always be something in your head making you think '..but oh yeh, remember that time when..' so it can leave you always having doubts. As for me personally, I have this terrible thing where I pretty much always remember when someone has wronged me, or done something I didn't like and, well.. I wouldn't say I hold it against them but sometimes I would start remembering it/ thinking about it and it just gets to me all over again to the point where I probably have to go and bring it up again. That, you can imagine, could lead to unnecessary annoyances and arguments My girlfriend probably knows about that better than anyone.. (I can get frustrated by things that probably shouldn't even matter. For example, I will probably never be able to really enjoy a Ryan Reynolds movie again because of something stupid. But hey.. that's me..) Sometimes it is just too hard to let things go.. have i ever "wronged" you?
Fierce_LiNk Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Don't answer that! Haha, I love both of you guys, and I don't want an argument to brew.
ReZourceman Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Depends on ; How genuinely nice the person is How truthfully remorseful they are What they did.
My Buttons are Magic! Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Don't answer that! Haha, I love both of you guys, and I don't want an argument to brew. no no no argument.. i dont like arguments
nekunando Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 There isn't gonna be an argument.. it's insane to even suggest that is gonna happen To clarify: magicbuttons has never 'wronged' me and I trust that she never would My post wasn't very clear, unfortunately I was talking about people wronging me in general, not my girlfriend as she hasn't ever, which is great.. but even she will tell you that I get slightly annoyed by 'stupid' things, but it never gets out of hand Everything's cool : peace:
EEVILMURRAY Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I may forgive. But I never forget. Revenge is lurking.
Sanchez Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I am extremely forgiving, to the point where it's let me be screwed over by people multiple times, I'm a nice guy, i'm not going to judge you on what you've done usually, especially if I get to know you. That said, I'm extremely unforgiving online, I still don't like triforce_keeper for some shitty posts he made a year ago, it's not that I don't like him as such, but I instantly assume his posts to be of a lower standard. More things If you have a lot of numbers in your name if you use alternating caps, CAPS, no caps, your real life name, leet and stupid names like VaMPIRESlAyER Your posts lack punctuation Avatar to related to Drugs, an operating system or console I will instantly form a bad opinion of you and look down at you, I won't personally attack you over it of course. For me first impressions are everything.
JoeTrumpet Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I can hold grudges on very minor things if the person just doesn't apologize. However, if they're sorry I can be very forgiving.
Rummy Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I'd like to think I'm a forgiving person, what's the good of holding a grudge? I don't see where it will get you, other than make you bitter. I believe everyone should be allowed to make mistakes, and they should be forgiven for them, but not if they make the same mistake twice. In that case, depending on circumstances, I may or may not forgive them. I say this, but I haven't had anything particularly major happen that I could hold a grudge over, I've done somethings which lead to people hating me, and remember at the time wishing they'd give me a chance to explain or such. In such a case, by the same token, I'd like to be forgiven. If I did the same thing twice? Well, then I guess they're free not to forgive me. I won't bother to waste my time with someone who keeps screwing up though, I'll try not to hold a grudge, but I won't make any effort either.
The Lillster Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 If I had a girl friend who fucked someone behind my back.
mariosmentor Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I never forgive. Thats just the way I am. I may get to a point where I just don't care about it anymore and resume normal conversation again but I don't forgive.
Blue_Ninja0 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I'm more forgiving than i should be, sometimes.
somme Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I'm very forgiving. Too forgiving sometimes. The only person I don't speak to is a girl I was friends with for years. Always craved attention, try to commit suicide countless times, all for attention. Became a lesbian because most of our other friends were gay. I went to Australia with another friend, (a girl) and this other girl slept with her girlfriend, then travelled 9000 miles to tell us. Even after that I still spoke to her when I returned to England, only stopped when she snobbed us all off for her girlfriend, (my friends ex).
BlueStar Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Very rarely hold a grudge and accept that people can change. There are people I really didn't get on with at school who I'm now good mates with, for example. But then no-one's done anything utterly horrific to me so I've not been in the position of being able to forgive someone for something like that so I can't say if I could.
UK Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I've got tons of grudges, but if the person who has upset me is close to me, I'm pretty forgiving.
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