Posted January 25, 2009 Why can't it be both? Im a few inches short to use both hands, so i prefer my left. I did it this morning....*not that everyone needed to know that*left handed most of the time, it just feels awkward to do it with my right >_> Its the right tread, no worries lol.I do it when i first wake up, always. Makes me wake up properly. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 In relation to King_V original issue, it could be any number of things, possibly just thinking about it too much causes enough of a mental block that it just wont happen. Like a guy trying to be a pornstar but on his first audition cant get hard once the cameras are on. Think of it this way, most guys would prolly orgasm too early in their first sexual relationship in a sense she should be happy you can "hold it" long enough to keep pleasuring her. It might be due to watching too much porn (i don't know if you do or not, just making a possibility) rather than too much masturbation. Not every girl screams and shouts like the ones in porn vids. If a guy after being used to seeing that, subconciously could be expecting the "porn" reaction, not getting it could be confusing your penis Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 True words Mr. X-C. To be honest as well, if you do get the porn star reaction then she's usually faking it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 *turns on the computer* *checks N-E* *sees another wanking thread* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Is it that hard not to do it? just go to sleep like normal people. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 *turns on the computer**checks N-E* *sees another wanking thread* Now now Dan, we all have different priorities in life. Let them be. Anyhoo, I recommend lots of foreplay, to make sure you're all properly hot and bothered and ready to go before diving in for the main event. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 I know what youre talking about King V. Masturbation is detrimental to real sex. The two feel completely different, and if you masturbate too much you get used to that feeling. I think the other stuff is true also, as porn is nothing like the real thing either, but it depends what you use for material as it were. Porn in general should be a no-no. Moderation is the key though overall, or not at all if you can help it. Sex is incredible when you havn't masturbated, but then theres the age-old argument that if you dont clean the pipes once in a while then they will be drained too quickly when plunged (that sounds awful!). And to those who said it cant be a bad thing to keep going, well that depends on the girl. It hurts their feelings if you cant cum, and thats not a nice thing to see. Makes them feel unattractive etc. Its weird because we as men are expected to cum, wheras with girls, not having an orgasm is okay (not great, but they will never say they didnt because it would hurt our feelings - if said man cared that is, but the girl can easilly fake it). In summary, dont masturbate too much, and certainly resist doing so a few days before anticipated sex. Or dont do it at all. You wont miss it really. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Now now Dan, we all have different priorities in life. Let them be. Anyhoo, I recommend lots of foreplay, to make sure you're all properly hot and bothered and ready to go before diving in for the main event. It's not that I'm against the odd bit of hand to gland combat, it's just another thread I have to keep reading as local sherrif round these parts. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 GREAT advice Jav-NE and Mokong... The difference between sex and masturbation is quite alarming. Very alarming actually. Because I was expecting sex to be totally superior to masturbation on every count. I got no pleasure at all from the looser, wetter feeling of the vagina to the point where I would fake pleasure (closing my eyes, and making SFX). I wasn't disappointed in her but more in myself for not giving her the ...eh magic. And I could see she herself was more sad, thinking maybe she just doesn't turn me on... :/ This is why I despise masturbation AND porn because it has the potential to physically and psychologically mess up a loving relationship. So I'm abstaining from both. I find though, in regards to sensations of the penis, you can sort of "train" it. For example, earlier on in my teen wanking life I couldn't masturbate in the traditional firm hand way but instead the only way i could was by passively straddling on my sheets with my hands pleasuring my nipples (look, we Brits need to discuss this more anyway, so don't laugh), which is indeed less action that a vagina could offer but yet i still came. But there came times when I was deprived from porn in my room and had to view it in say the living room, sitting down. So thats when the switch occurred. Now I find I have to 'train' my penis to be satisfied by the feel of the vagina and its working by abstaining from wanking. But I really want to pass my advice to the single, virgin lads out there, be wary of masturbation (and porn). but then theres the age-old argument that if you dont clean the pipes once in a while then they will be drained too quickly when plunged (that sounds awful!). But I guess a lack of masturbation/ejaculation would activate more wet dreams for semen to be naturally let out. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 aww... poor mods (^__^) i got an email from ann summers the other day ~ they're having a sale to celebrate obama becoming president. why not? the email subject was "oh......oh.......oh.......OBAMA!!!" i laughed. jamba looked at me like this: O_o. but i didnt care. Thats actually quite genius! Plus it made me giggle, so win win. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Also just remember I forgot this in my previous post, tiredness could be a factor? When you masturbate does it last long of short time? Obviously real sex you wanna last long... plus your using more energy in real sex, you know using your whole body rather than just the one hand/arm and for longer. Of course this is an effect of masturbation desentisation(sp?) but also again a mental effect, in that you'll start to think it about and wonder "what's wrong" which is only gonna make it worse. Perhaps try to concentrate on your partner, remember the fact you are there with a naked woman, feel her, smell her, kiss her, concentrate on the things about her that turn you on and your mental block might break. I guess the type of condom could be a factor too... eg: if your using Durex Extra Safe, they are a bit thicker so reduced sensation, you could try the feather light durex, they are thinner than normal ones but I have found them no less safe. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 There's just something not right about threads like these!... Perhaps try to concentrate on your partner, remember the fact you are there with a naked woman, feel her, smell her, kiss her, concentrate on the things about her that turn you on and your mental block might break.... such as people offering sex tips to one another; dunno, just find it a tad wierd! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 I love how King_V doesn't have boundaries as to what he says! Amazing He just says what he thinks. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Its good to share. Women do it all the time, so why cant men? Its nice to know other people think and may experience the same things. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 i think this thread has the same need as a thread for taking a dump. we all do, we all enjoy it, we all have the odd funny story about it, but we dont talk about it in the pressence of ladies. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 i think this thread has the same need as a thread for taking a dump.though we've had those on here as well!Its good to share. Women do it all the time, so why cant men? Its nice to know other people think and may experience the same things.Yeah, though you won't get the women on here joining in on this thread! I agree, I think men should talk and share more, and be able to chat about their thoughts and feelings, but is talking about your wanking habits really even about that? To me it's just not really necessary! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 I've 'faked it' before. Sex can be *shock* boring, repetitive, or annoying just as much as it can be beautiful, romantic, or sexy. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 This is awkward... Suffice to say, it's every bit as big in every boy's teenagehood as school or football. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Its good to share. Women do it all the time, so why cant men? Its nice to know other people think and may experience the same things. Really? I've never shared any of that stuff with friends, nor do they talk to me about it. Sex is a topic we don't ever seem to talk about really. Not that I mind, as it'd just be awkward anyway. Just like this topic. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 i think this thread has the same need as a thread for taking a dump. we all do, we all enjoy it, we all have the odd funny story about it, but we dont talk about it in the pressence of ladies. That's probably the smartest thing from you that I've ever read, lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 That's probably the smartest thing from you that I've ever read, lol. Can't figure out whether that's meant to be sarcastic! I think you'll find that a women are a lot less offended about this kind of thing than you'd think. And the women in this forum were participating in this discussion on page 1 if you hadn't noticed... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 Can't figure out whether that's meant to be sarcastic! I think you'll find that a women are a lot less offended about this kind of thing than you'd think. And the women in this forum were participating in this discussion on page 1 if you hadn't noticed... I didn't say women would be offended by it, it's just that you wont get them discussing it on here!I count 1 women on the first page, and it vaguely had anything to do with thread. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 though we've had those on here as well!Yeah, though you won't get the women on here joining in on this thread! I agree, I think men should talk and share more, and be able to chat about their thoughts and feelings, but is talking about your wanking habits really even about that? To me it's just not really necessary! I'll grant you that talking about masturbation in general is pretty shallow and unecessary. But thats not what this thread was about, more the effect on sexual relationships as a result. Thats not shallow or unecessary. Really? I've never shared any of that stuff with friends, nor do they talk to me about it. Sex is a topic we don't ever seem to talk about really. Not that I mind, as it'd just be awkward anyway.Just like this topic. True. Not every woman will be open about certain topics, i didnt mean to suggest that they are, just that, in general, women share more, and that might include personal topics moreso than between male friends. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 But thats not what this thread was about, more the effect on sexual relationships as a result.To be fair, that was just King_V's thoughts on it, not really what the thread is about... you know what direction this threads ultimately gonna take! Especially just with the thread title of masturbation! But hey, all those who wanna talk about it, discuss away! It's just my opinion that this thread is wierd! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 25, 2009 To be fair, that was just King_V's thoughts on it, not really what the thread is about... you know what direction this threads ultimately gonna take! Especially just with the thread title of masturbation! Yeah, i suppose you're right. But who knows, maybe the N-E community has matured and can have an adult conversation about such a topic without it spiralling into adolescent humour stories and habits. It seems to have avoided it so far. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
