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If you fancy your best friend, but you're scared that if you say something you might lose that friendship, is it a good idea to just keep quiet?

 

Duh... tenbypearljam

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If you fancy your best friend, but you're scared that if you say something you might lose that friendship, is it a good idea to just keep quiet?

 

depends, if you just want em for sex, dont do it, if you love them, go for it.

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If you fancy your best friend, but you're scared that if you say something you might lose that friendship, is it a good idea to just keep quiet?

 

Falling for a friend is a really risky business. I've been in that situation for bloody ages, and it's really hard :( I always try and apply some sort of scientific reasoning to it, trying to work out what would happen if I did something before I do it, evaluating the best way to do stuff. This makes it hard to decide the best course of action when said friend drunkenly kisses you then runs away :blush: And you end up screwing it up. Thing is, you can never know what will happen. People aren't predictable, so you've just gotta do what YOU want. Don't let other peoples opinions or reactions bother you. If people are gonna gossip, let them gossip. Who cares? What does it matter, really? It's between you and the other person.

 

The worst thing to do is half commit to making a move. Telling someone you like them, but that if they don't its fine, we can stay friends, blablabla. It just doesn't work. To the other person, it sounds like you don't really care, that the potential relationship isn't that important to you. This is another mistake I've made in the past. Don't tell them you're ok remaining friends if you're not ok remaining friends! Commit to one or the other, don't try and hedge your bets.

 

Probably not really what you wanted to hear, but it's what I've found out from experience, and what I'm trying to deal with right now. The problem I'm having is how to actually do it, and talk to someone intimately like that. The girl I'm talking about here, I only ever really see her at school or in a group of friends: when will I ever have the chance to have a proper talk? Working that one out is the next hurdle I gotta get past. I kinda know the what and the why, just the where and the when that's proving difficult now!

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Hm, that's interesting. I knew that some straight guys (and presumably girls) find bi people more attractive, but I always thought it was because of the shared interest thing... I guess there must be something else on top of that.

 

I wouldn't really want to get with a bi person because I'd feel like I was never quite satisfying them. And they'd be more likely to cheat on me with a woman.

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Indeed, love is the most powerful feeling there is. It can make you feel like you can conquer the world, and it can make you feel like killing yourself. Like all powerful weapons, it should only be used for good. :)

 

 

Well, no, your partner would have twice as many chances of cheating on you. But I assume that's what you meant. :) Still, that's quite a pessimistic view on things, don't you think? :heh:

 

I think I meant what I said.

 

If you're bi, you have twice the opportunity of cheating on your partner. Potential partners might not like that fact.

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I think I meant what I said.

 

If you're bi, you have twice the opportunity of cheating on your partner. Potential partners might not like that fact.

 

You both said the same thing but from different perspectives. You said it from the perspective of the bi person and dannyboy said it as the bi person's partner.

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Indeed, love is the most powerful feeling there is. It can make you feel like you can conquer the world, and it can make you feel like killing yourself. Like all powerful weapons, it should only be used for good. :)

It is a curious thing.

Are women into threesomes?

Are you under the impression that all the threesome porn on the internet with the ladies are either men in disguise or regular women being forced into some sandwich action?

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Are you under the impression that all the threesome porn on the internet with the ladies are either men in disguise or regular women being forced into some sandwich action?

 

Respectable women then...

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Attempting to organise a date for tomorrow, this is all very exciting.

 

OK!

 

Attempt to organize date turned into 3 hour phone call resulting in phone sex. Not what I expected but very welcome.

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OK!

 

Attempt to organize date turned into 3 hour phone call resulting in phone sex. Not what I expected but very welcome.

 

How does phone sex actually work? It sounds utterly inane. Then again, most the spectrum of human emotion seems inane to me.

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I have to say phone sex seems a bit... weird to me. Don't get how it would work. But then again cyber sex and webcam sex seem weird to me too heh. =P

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So are you just insulting Jim, or are you insulting me for having a bad taste in men? =(

Or both?

 

Jim of course. You know I love you for all your awesomeness :heart:

 

And hey, he has it as a profile picture.

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Jim of course. You know I love you for all your awesomeness :heart:

 

And hey, he has it as a profile picture.

 

Oh but if you're insulting Jim (and not me) then it's alllll fine! I mean, I fully support the insulting and teasing of The Jim! =D


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