Fierce_LiNk Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Just a question I thought I'd throw out to the boards, and the first thread I've made in a long time. How forgiving or unforgiving are you? Have there ever been situations where somebody has done something horrible to you, and you've been strong enough to forgive them? Have there been times where you just couldn't? Be honest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fresh Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I can forgive quite easily to some extent, however there are some people who did certain things which I can never forgive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ant-Shimmin Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I don't think I have been in the position to not forgive anyone for something major. I think if someone had done something to me, I don't think I could.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Letty Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I try to forgive anything that people do to me, though Ive never had something done to me that warrants a grudge that wasnt an accident. Grudges are the worst. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slaggis Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I can usually forgive people if they do something thats not that bad really, but if what the person did is pretty bad i find it very hard to forgive them. I hold grudges, which I don't like doing, but I can't help it. Though I only hold these if what was done towards me/someone else was terrible and not asked for. there's definitely a point where it just gets impossible to forgive someone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fierce_LiNk Posted June 15, 2007 Author Share Posted June 15, 2007 You guys are so vague. At which point does it become impossible to forgive someone? I mean, what have they done to you that is "unforgiveable"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Bard Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 If someone pisses me off, I can really hold a grudge for a long, long time. But if someone comes to admit they were wrong, apologise and make amends, then I'll forgive them no worries. I don't see the point in just forgiving people as a virtue, and there are some things I can't imagine ever forgiving someone for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DCK Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I'm very forgiving. So much that I can be taken advantage off quite easily actually. I'm really stupidly naive sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goron_3 Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I can hold a grudge for a long time, but i'm too soft and I know it. My ex treated my like shit and i've heard rumours about stuff she's saying about me, but I'd still love to spend 10minutes with her.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slaggis Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 You guys are so vague. At which point does it become impossible to forgive someone? I mean, what have they done to you that is "unforgiveable"? Umm, something like the guy that jumped me and did me in for no reason whatsoever other than the fact he was pissed and felt like doing it and in the doing so missing my exam. Him I could never forgive. Things like that are unforgivable. But when silly little school girls never forgive each other because they both had the same hair style or something utterly retarded like that it's ridiculous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Platty Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Life is too short not to forgive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konfucius Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I'm usually very forgiving if the person truly feels sorry. For instance in primary school we played a stupid trust game. One had to close his eyes and the other would lead him to the wall and back. "And it's no competition!" Well of course it was a competition. So much was clear for all the boys in class - no way was I going to end up last. We were in pairs, I was together with a foreign girl who could but rarely spoke. She was too afraid to let me lead so I was the one closing the eyes. "Tell me when I'm close to the wall." I didn't have a tight grip around her hand and at some point I wasn't sure if she was still there. "You still there?" - No response. "You still there?" - No response. I kept running with my eyes closed. Well she'll surely shout before I run into the wall, even she can manage a simple "Philipp, stop!" I thought and I was wrong. Ended up with a broken nose. She was crying and asked me to forgive her and I did. However, I learned a few valueable lessons that day. Don't follow blindly, don't obey stupid rules, don't trust anyone who didn't earn your trust. These rules actually developed slowly after that accident and I still live by them. Therefore I find it quite hard to trust other people but I'll do almost everything for the people I like and who earned my trust. However if someone disappoints me, he'll lose my trust although I'll still forgive him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Supergrunch Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I alwys tend to forgive people, though after some things I vow never to forgive someone... then a day or so later I forget it. Then again, I haven't had anyone do anything that bad to me before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashley Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I don't trust people so if I forgive them its only going to be to the same level (or maybe less) than I had before, which isn't that great anyway. That being said I can never forgive my brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcj metroid Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I have to admit i have never been scewed around by much people but i think i can hold a grudge for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jordan Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I can be extremely forgiving if the person means alot to me. However, you only get a certain amount of chances with me normally, if you over step the mark, i will never forgive the person. Ever. Hense why I hate my older brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colin Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Life is too short not to forgive. I have the same opinion as Platty here. No point dwelling on things........ Maybe it's because I don't care about things too much, but I forgive people for quite a lot of things, and in some respects expect that back........but we don't all think the same though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
triforcemario Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Probably a bit too forgiving for my own good >_> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UziT Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I find it very very hard to forgive, I have alota anger in me which is straight from my dad... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Bard Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Life is too short not to forgive. Nooo...Life is too short not to have people crap themselves at the mere sight of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strider Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Well i'm sort of forgiving. Someone kneed my in the balls for no reason (well it was a laugh for their sake really) it took me a few days to forgive him, but i did. Sometimes i want to hold a grudge against people like i did with that guy, but most of the time it usually just wears off and your friends again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monopolyman Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 You guys are so vague. At which point does it become impossible to forgive someone? I mean, what have they done to you that is "unforgiveable"? I'm very forgiving. I suppose it's a good thing that I am, as it is part of what makes me a nice guy, buy I suppose in a way, it's a flaw in my personality. To answer you're question in the quote, for it would actually take quite a lot for something to be unforgivable; and I mean a lot. It would probably have top involve something which has postively ruined my life or someone from my families life. This has never happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Stefkov Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Never had the time where I had to forgive someone, so I'm reet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaggle64 Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I find it almost impossible to hold a grudge for more then about a week, even when I really, really try. Though I guess I haven't yet suffered anything major at the hands of anyone else, so I suppose I can't really be sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razz Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 I guess I'm quite, well, bitchy when it comes to grudges for stupid things. But when someone does something momentous (yeah you mum) then no, I'll never forgive them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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