The Bard Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I think I've just realised that I'm not a relationship person. There's something I really hate about being beholden to someone else's schedule when what you really want is to hole up in your cave for a whole week and do nothing but read and listen to music and indulge yourself without the intrusion of having to come up with something interesting to say to another person. I'm definitely a sex person though, so there are mitigating factors. The problem comes when you realise you're with someone pretty much entirely for who they are as a personality rather than how they strike the tuning fork in your loins.
drahkon Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 There's something I really hate about being beholden to someone else's schedule when what you really want is to hole up in your cave for a whole week and do nothing but read and listen to music and indulge yourself without the intrusion of having to come up with something interesting to say to another person. While I wouldn't use the word hate in that context, I can agree with you to a point. That's why I'm holding off on asking the lady I've been talking about (or any lady, for that matter) out (no, not because I'm a coward :p ) even though I've kept saying I would. In the last couple of days I've come to the realization that I currently don't want to be in a relationship.
The Bard Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 While I wouldn't use the word hate in that context, I can agree with you to a point.That's why I'm holding off on asking the lady I've been talking about (or any lady, for that matter) out (no, not because I'm a coward :p ) even though I've kept saying I would. In the last couple of days I've come to the realization that I currently don't want to be in a relationship. Don't get me wrong, the initial excitement of a relationship is like the best experience ever, but like most awful nerds, I sometimes feel like I have a more meaningful relationship with things rather than people. Occasionally I feel like I need the validation of another human being, being a biologically social creature, but I have a hard time dealing with someone who needs to be around me all the fucking time. I'm also too much of a pussy to break up with people without extreme provocation.
Ashley Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Lately I've been thinking something similar, but rather than saying I "hate" relationships, my notion of what I want from a relationship is incongruous to what seems to be everyone else's expectations. I just want a friend on my demand essentially
nightwolf Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 @Daft Can I come look at him? I need some pretty men in my life.
Ashley Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 @Daft Can I come look at him? I need some pretty men in my life. I'm going to go and gently weep in the corner alongside my guitar...
drahkon Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Don't get me wrong, the initial excitement of a relationship is like the best experience ever, but like most awful nerds, I sometimes feel like I have a more meaningful relationship with things rather than people. Well, again you put it a bit more drastically than I would :p I'm not like you - you know with the 'relationship with things rather than people', it's just that right now, I'm rather alone or just with my good friends than being in a relationship with all the obligations that come with it. But I can understand how you feel, at least to a degree. @Daft Can I come look at him? I need some pretty men in my life. Girl, we have a thread for pretty men. :p
The Bard Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 True. Honestly, I probably only feel that way right now because I've been hankering after some alone time for weeks
Ashley Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Isn't your girlfriend out being far more successful than you anyway? She never seems to be around whenever I speak to you Surely the start of uni will help as she'll make friends and do awesome things and you can go back to your dank pit. And by dank pit I of course mean the thing that lurks in your underwear.
The Bard Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Success is a matter of perspective as you obvs know, seeing as your career aspirations consist of dicking around with paper mache. An ambition tragically thwarted by your rainman-like proficiency at punching numbers into Excel Definite quarter life crisis happening right now doe.
Ashley Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 No it's all objective and she's better than you #oxigenwaste Don't mock my Excel skills. I'm this close to freelancing with that rather than animation right now. Anyway, as I said you'll both be in a different place in a few weeks time. Unless you really feel the need to end it now, see if the UCL-enforced distance helps.
MoogleViper Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I want to be in a relationship so much that I'm starting to find anyone and everyone attractive.
The Bard Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 No it's all objective and she's better than you #oxigenwaste Don't mock my Excel skills. I'm this close to freelancing with that rather than animation right now. Anyway, as I said you'll both be in a different place in a few weeks time. Unless you really feel the need to end it now, see if the UCL-enforced distance helps. Yeah, I'm mostly tempted to freelance with my penis when I get to UCL.
Magnus Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I want to be in a relationship so much that I'm starting to find anyone and everyone attractive. I feel like that sometimes. Masturbating usually solves it.
nightwolf Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I'm going to go and gently weep in the corner alongside my guitar... Girl, we have a thread for pretty men. :p
Ashley Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Well its not like I didn't give you warning. I just wanted someone to tell me I'm pretty. My ego is fragile yo
Daft Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 @Daft Can I come look at him? I need some pretty men in my life. Yes! We can go together. For science.
Paj! Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Holy fuck. I was in the gym as usual. That guy, who is literally the most beautiful thing in and out of existence, is there - standard. He waves at me. I nod and wave back. We've been on waving terms for a few days now; my life is complete. Anyway, we're in the changing room. We both happen to finish our workouts at the same time. I'm casual, whatever, rushing to get back to work on time. I'm heading to the door and he asks me if I come to the gym during my lunch breaks (I'm basically there every day at exactly the same time, so yeah). I'm like, yeah, it's a little tricky but it's the easiest time to come BLAH BLAH BLAH. He asks me what I focus on in the gym. He says I seem to appreciate body weight training type exercises. I'm like, yeah, I started super-setting them more. I used to do parkour, that's when I started incorporating them. I'm amazed, kind of perversely overjoyed that someone who has his shit together when it comes to fitness, appreciates/whatever my routine. Conversation continues. The dude is changing his top in front of me and did I mention just how crushingly hot he is? But I kind of don't care about that at the moment, partly because I'm pretty blasé and partly because he's just really friendly. Got a smile warm enough to thaw the icy surface of Europa. But he's hot. Whatever. Champion. He has this heroic stature. He's exuding confidence. He's glowing...probably because he's just been working out. It's probably the sweat. Anyway, he's finished changing, we leave the changing room together, we're onto the subject of cycling to work. About playing 'the game'; you must cycle faster than everyone on the road. We get to the gym's reception, he's starting work, a personal trainer shift or something. I'm like, it was nice to talk to you. Biggest understatement of the century; if I could marry that moment, I would. We exchange names. We might have shaken hands, I don't remember. I'm just unworthy. He's slightly taller than me so I'm looking up at him, but it's not obvious. I actually make a mental note not to jump him by mistake, instead of saying goodbye. He says he'll see me around the gym. Yeah, he will. I leave, happy that I composed myself in a way befitting of someone who's not insane - which is rare when it comes to godly encounters. I want this story in its own thread. Chapters of this story. Maybe some photos, or perhaps we can illustrate scenes from it as the story unfolds. Goodness me. There better be a part two.
Magnus Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Part 2: Daft: "Welp, he went on for twenty minutes about the bum of a girl who works out at the gym. I guess that's it." Part 3: Dazz: "I don't know, Daft, I think he's bisexual!"
ReZourceman Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I want to be in a relationship so much that I'm starting to find anyone and everyone attractive.
MoogleViper Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I guess I don't want a relationship that much afterall
bob Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Just shag herzx not harrd x Can't shag her if it's not hard.
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