Posted February 25, 2016 What do kids your age do for fun? (/old man) Just ask her if she wants to go to a gig, for a meal, bowling, cinema whatever. Ask her over social media or via text, that way you can take time formulating your words, and it's much less nerve wracking than face to face. I know it seems hard to do, but what you need to tell yourself is that it's always better to ask than not. If she says yes then great, if not then at least you know, and don't spend your evening worrying about if she likes you and masturbating over her profile picture (well you might keep up the last one, but won't hate yourself as much afterwards). You're too new to remember Offer? You've missed out. N.B. you would have hated him. For someone that gets dating advice off of me and my girlfriend, you're advice isn't half bad Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 25, 2016 For someone that gets dating advice off of me and my girlfriend, you're advice isn't half bad It's easier when you're not directly involved. Also I don't always need the advice, I just want an excuse to talk to you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 25, 2016 You people are strange. I give up. just kidding Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 25, 2016 I don't think we were that brute. He should try roman around other forums and see how mean they can be. You mock now, but he'll be fiddling while we all burn. Be forward with her, Julius, seize her. This is why i love this place You people are strange. I give up. just kidding You'll fit in just fine Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 25, 2016 He's 17 though, so it'd probably be for a cheeky Nandos rather than dinner (I believe). You only have a cheeky Nandos when it's a lads night out, haha. He could ask her to come over for Teletubbies and chill? Never Teletubbies! Tweenies is where it's at! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 27, 2016 Well I fought like this like an idiot and now no way back, the sad thing is if I gave her space she would definitely have come back. I haven't sent a nasty message but shes annoyed with me quite a bit. Then again if I had done this to someone I wouldn't expect space. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 I met up with a really cute guy today. We get on well but I'm not sure if he's into anything more than a friend. We always have a laugh and stuff but I need to find a way of seeing whether there's anything more than friendship. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 I met up with a really cute guy today. We get on well but I'm not sure if he's into anything more than a friend. We always have a laugh and stuff but I need to find a way of seeing whether there's anything more than friendship. I wish you and Goron would just do it already. I can't take all this sexual tension. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 Plus film it. You'd be able to make some money on that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 Well I fought like this like an idiot and now no way back, the sad thing is if I gave her space she would definitely have come back. I haven't sent a nasty message but shes annoyed with me quite a bit. Then again if I had done this to someone I wouldn't expect space. Oh Stu I'm sorry to hear that. It's amazing the things we learn in hindsight. Best of luck to you both. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 Plus film it. You'd be able to make some money on that. Is there really a market for interracial ginger/asian porn? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 On the internet there's a market for all porn. Even Moogle. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 I met up with a really cute guy today. We get on well but I'm not sure if he's into anything more than a friend. We always have a laugh and stuff but I need to find a way of seeing whether there's anything more than friendship. Exhausting weekend but I'm pretty wired at the moment.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 Got another date lined up on Tuesday, i asked about one next weekend but she's going back to her Mums that weekend. She proposed the Tuesday, so that's good. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 28, 2016 I wish you and Goron would just do it already. I can't take all this sexual tension. Exhausting weekend but I'm pretty wired at the moment.... This is awkward... I was actually talking about @Zell. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 (edited) I am in such a weird place. This Netflix and chill stuff is normal for some people I guess, but for me it's strange. My relationships in the past have been in at the deep end from the start. In those instances, was seriously invested from the first moment that things were happening and the feeling was reciprocated. So... my feelings made sense, and I knew how I was meant to act in between getting together. But... when you're not really "dating", I'm not even sure the right way to say "bye" This is the ultimate taking it slowly fling. We have a really great time, and then don't really contact each other at all for a week, and then it's just to arrange getting together. I can't gauge her interest in me any further, I second guess anything that seems like a dropped hint. She is ace. Really intelligent, very funny, has this outpour of enthusiasm for various subjects that I find incredibly attractive. Edit: Removed debbie-downer ending I'd rather say that I'm generally having an awesome time when I see her, and I'm in a much better place for having done this, no matter where it goes. Edited February 29, 2016 by Shorty Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Oh Stu I'm sorry to hear that. It's amazing the things we learn in hindsight. Best of luck to you both. Well the fact is I deserve better than her, I think sadly she did what I didn't have the strength to do. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Sorry to hear it didn't work out @stuwii, but as you alluded to, sometimes we cling onto things for the wrong reasons! Take what you've learned and apply it next time Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 I've learnt that you need to talk about your problems, not hide them, and that I need to stand up for myself and not take so much shit from someone. Frankly it was disgusting and she said so herself at the end, I think she knew I would never give up and would just have took it and took it and never stopped. It is her loss, the messages were dumb but shell wake up one day and think, damn that was a mistake. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 But... when you're not really "dating", I'm not even sure the right way to say "bye" This is the ultimate taking it slowly fling. We have a really great time, and then don't really contact each other at all for a week, and then it's just to arrange getting together. I can't gauge her interest in me any further, I second guess anything that seems like a dropped hint. Not having any contact at all during the week seems way too casual to me. You should remind her that neither of you is getting any younger and that her biological clock is ticking. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Oh yeah, everyone loves that reminder. Actually, she's five years younger than me so even if you were serious, I can't play that card :p Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Oh yeah, everyone loves that reminder. Actually, she's five years younger than me so even if you were serious, I can't play that card :p "So I found a gray hair in the shower last weekend and I know it's not mine... Maybe we should be exclusive?" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 I know you're having a joke but I literally don't even know how to approach things like exclusivity. Like I said, my previous relationships have been serious from the get-go, there was no questions. Everything I know about casual relationships I learned from sitcoms. Well, I do know what I'll do. I'll just leave things exactly as they are until she says something or finishes it :p Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Open communication is key. Without it then you're just going to end up over-thinking/not knowing etc. and it'll lead to problems as a result. If open communication pushes that person away then they're not right for you. The person that is right will listen and communicate back in turn. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 29, 2016 Or do what I did. Wait until you're in mixed company and someone asks if you're in a relationship and let them answer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
