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urgh, i decided to a dating website, figured at least I could go out on few dates maybe and it would get me out of the house and out of my depressed bored mood. Lo and behold the girl I just declared my love for is signed up for it and it even bloody gave her as one of my matches! i've blocked her account so she won't see me but still fucking hell...

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Aw flamester, sorry about the dating website thing... that sucks.

 

I'm also on a dating site (don't judge me, I am just horrendous at starting conversations with random women in RL).

I got messaged by this really hot girl on there and we've been chatting back and forth through text message almost constantly for about 2 weeks now. She's so lovely, we have so many similar interests and get on really well... I really do like her so far. I think she might like me, even after we exchanged facebooks, where there are pictures that I've not been able to carefully moderate. Now, she randomly invited me to the NYE party she's going to (even though she lives around 160 miles away) and... me being a sad fucker who doesn't know many people down here in Cornwall, has taken her up on the offer. Now, in retrospect, I'm worried as hell that she's just invited me out of politeness and I'm being a complete freak by going. Maybe she feels like she can't back out now? I did talk to her about it and she said she really wanted me to go still even if we are being a little crazy and that she was nervous too... Her friends though as well... I'm sure they're going to wonder who this twat is that's crashing their moderately intimate (20 peeps?) NYE party.

 

Basically I'm nervous as hell as I'm not exactly the most sociable person around new people (I get very nervous and self conscious) and am wondering if I should bother going at all or just stay down here with a couple of friends. I also seem to have just realised that we've only been talking for TWO WEEKS and I'm travelling 160 miles out of my way to see her?! Kinda pathetic?

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Aw flamester, sorry about the dating website thing... that sucks.

 

I'm also on a dating site (don't judge me, I am just horrendous at starting conversations with random women in RL).

I got messaged by this really hot girl on there and we've been chatting back and forth through text message almost constantly for about 2 weeks now. She's so lovely, we have so many similar interests and get on really well... I really do like her so far. I think she might like me, even after we exchanged facebooks, where there are pictures that I've not been able to carefully moderate. Now, she randomly invited me to the NYE party she's going to (even though she lives around 160 miles away) and... me being a sad fucker who doesn't know many people down here in Cornwall, has taken her up on the offer. Now, in retrospect, I'm worried as hell that she's just invited me out of politeness and I'm being a complete freak by going. Maybe she feels like she can't back out now? I did talk to her about it and she said she really wanted me to go still even if we are being a little crazy and that she was nervous too... Her friends though as well... I'm sure they're going to wonder who this twat is that's crashing their moderately intimate (20 peeps?) NYE party.

 

Basically I'm nervous as hell as I'm not exactly the most sociable person around new people (I get very nervous and self conscious) and am wondering if I should bother going at all or just stay down here with a couple of friends. I also seem to have just realised that we've only been talking for TWO WEEKS and I'm travelling 160 miles out of my way to see her?! Kinda pathetic?

 

Don't go.

 

It is too forward on your behalf.

 

Besides, if you dont go, she will want to see you even more another time. Just make sure you have a valid excuse so she doesn't think its because you are afraid or whatever. Something like your friends threw an impromtu get together. You really wanted to go and see her but you felt obliged to stay.

 

You dont want to meet her around so many people. She wont mean to, but she will abandon you at times and you will feel very awkward. You would have to be pretty sociable to survive!!!

 

See her another time, there's a whole new year waiting :)

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Don't go.

 

It is too forward on your behalf.

 

Besides, if you dont go, she will want to see you even more another time. Just make sure you have a valid excuse so she doesn't think its because you are afraid or whatever. Something like your friends threw an impromtu get together. You really wanted to go and see her but you felt obliged to stay.

 

You dont want to meet her around so many people. She wont mean to, but she will abandon you at times and you will feel very awkward. You would have to be pretty sociable to survive!!!

 

See her another time, there's a whole new year waiting :)

 

Yeah what he said!

 

In other news, perhaps I don't need the dating site (although I am to speaking with a girl on there who is quite hot) cos I pulled last night! Oh yeah flamey's still got it! Girl I used to work with years back has come back up from London so we met up with her and it ended up just her and me in a club dancing and then she just kissed me! I was pretty amazed cos she is really hot! She was gonna come back to mine with me but the fact I live with my parents is kinda a put off and she said she didn't wanna have to go back to her parents (where shes staying for now) in the morning all skanky. So she said she'd come visit again in the future and perhaps we could do something then...So yeah thats kinda good...

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Yeah what he said!

 

In other news, perhaps I don't need the dating site (although I am to speaking with a girl on there who is quite hot) cos I pulled last night! Oh yeah flamey's still got it! Girl I used to work with years back has come back up from London so we met up with her and it ended up just her and me in a club dancing and then she just kissed me! I was pretty amazed cos she is really hot! She was gonna come back to mine with me but the fact I live with my parents is kinda a put off and she said she didn't wanna have to go back to her parents (where shes staying for now) in the morning all skanky. So she said she'd come visit again in the future and perhaps we could do something then...So yeah thats kinda good...

 

In the words of one of the rappers from Public Enemy....Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh boy! Shame nothing more could happen but hopefully next time you see you can erm, i dunno, get more hands on...

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SPAMBOT: I've been contemplating using a dating site myself for a while... I know some people who have in teh past, and mostly to no avail - but good friends were made and, in one case, a relationship was found with the best friend of the date... if that makes sense?

 

Before reading Jav's post I was thinking "yeah mate, do it! Who knows what'll happen..." But I think he makes a lot of sense. The risk is massive... but it is up to you :)

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So basicly this is the N-E secret dating and advice thread? :p

 

I'm like other people on here, who say they don't like/ fell nervous about talking to strangers.

 

The weird thing with me though, even if I'm around people I know in a group, I still feel sociably awkward. In a 1:1 conversation I'm fine.

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Haha thanks peeps. Think I'm still gonna go despite my extreme ph33r. Hopefully a couple of drinks will loosen me up a bit.

 

Well good luck it would go really well...Just remember she isn't gonna be by your side all the time so be chatty to other people and get socialising last thing you want is to be some loner sat on your own! Where you staying?

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