ReZourceman Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Yes there is. "You shag her son" as a good punchline once said.
Slaggis Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 So you dont think it would cause any problems between us at all then? (if not then yay lol)
Eenuh Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 So you dont think it would cause any problems between us at all then? (if not then yay lol) Only thing to find out is to talk to her about it. You're not gonna find your answer here (most guys will just say to go for it anyway, horny bastards). Talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and all this. Say you're afraid you'll lose her as a friend. It's all up to you really... I say don't do it, but that's just me.
ReZourceman Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 (most guys will just say to go for it anyway, horny bastards) This is true. We have become blinded by our boners.
Rummy Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Well you can't have everything, so make a choice. As for a right answer, there isn't even a question! It's all a matter of choice and opinion as far as I can tell!
mike-zim Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 So you dont think it would cause any problems between us at all then? (if not then yay lol) i will give you a piece of advise. once school is over and you move on to college most of the people you were close too at school you wont see again. Trust me i thought i would be friends with my mates and did a similar thing as you (not going to prom and having a party). to be honest in a year when you hardly see her anymore you will think "i could have had her and blew it (or not as the case may be)" There is a right answer and it is hit that.
Jack Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Wait, so you're going to take her down to the local woods, neck a few bottles of White Lightning, smoke a few joints, and shag her behind a bush? Classy. There's nowt like County Durham Classic Intercourse.
Fierce_LiNk Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Do you want your 1st time to be meaningful? If he does like her quite a lot, which I think he implied in his first post, then surely it will be?
Fields Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 There's nowt like County Durham Classic Intercourse. Fuck off, you dirty mackem. If he does like her quite a lot, which I think he implied in his first post, then surely it will be? Is it just me that can't imagine having 'meaningful' sex in the woods after a drunken party? Trust me mate, you're going to regret this. Don't do it.
Fierce_LiNk Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Fuck off, you dirty mackem. Is it just me that can't imagine having 'meaningful' sex in the woods after a drunken party? Trust me mate, you're going to regret this. Don't do it. I think meaningful will almost always depend on what you're feelings are for that person. To me, sex is all about the intimacy and the connection. If you get that nomatter where you are, whether its planned or a heat of the moment thing, then surely its meaningful? But, as to whether or not he should do it or not: ultimately, it's your decision, mate. We are only guides, but you will have to 'walk the walk.' You're a very brave man for revealing your insecurities about the whole thing, so well done for not just jumping straight into it. You seem to like her, and you haven't 'given away' your first time very loosely. The question is, if you did have sex with her, what then? Just mates? Could you deal with that? Put it this way, after having sex with someone you really care a lot about, to just going back to the friendship stage, I think that's pretty hard going. Ask her out. Treat her like a lady. She ain't shagging practice. After that, if she cares a lot about you too, the sex will come in time, and it will mean a lot more. Don't feel you HAVE to have sex, because your friends are. Trust me, as you get older, people will respect you more for keeping your trousers on.
Chuck Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 the folly of youth. fortunatly I wont be able to make the decision, its not something thats likely o happen. if the mood takes you use a condom:hehe: but personal opinion there was nothing wrong with the 40 year old virgin was there?
Slaggis Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 I think meaningful will almost always depend on what you're feelings are for that person. To me, sex is all about the intimacy and the connection. If you get that nomatter where you are, whether its planned or a heat of the moment thing, then surely its meaningful? But, as to whether or not he should do it or not: ultimately, it's your decision, mate. We are only guides, but you will have to 'walk the walk.' You're a very brave man for revealing your insecurities about the whole thing, so well done for not just jumping straight into it. You seem to like her, and you haven't 'given away' your first time very loosely. The question is, if you did have sex with her, what then? Just mates? Could you deal with that? Put it this way, after having sex with someone you really care a lot about, to just going back to the friendship stage, I think that's pretty hard going. Ask her out. Treat her like a lady. She ain't shagging practice. After that, if she cares a lot about you too, the sex will come in time, and it will mean a lot more. Don't feel you HAVE to have sex, because your friends are. Trust me, as you get older, people will respect you more for keeping your trousers on. Thanks for a great reply. I wouldn't just do something cos' my friends were., epescially something like sex. I dont know if i want my first time to be "special" but as you said for it kinda would be cos' i've liked her for so long. I guess i'm gonna have to see what happens at the party aint it?
MoogleViper Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Your first time doesn't have to be anything special. A lot of people don't enjoy it that much anyway. But you don't have to have sex. Deciding not to doesn't make any less of a man. If it was me I would go for it. But it is your decision, only you know what to do.
Rummy Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Flink gave some good advice, though it won't apply if she's actually just looking for a quick shag, it might be she's not after some commited relationship with you.
Fierce_LiNk Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I think my reply was more or less aimed towards what he wanted. I mean, if he just wants a quick shag, then yeah, she's more or less offering it on a plate. But, if you actually do feel something more for her, then I think this wouldn't be such a great idea. Ahhh, I dunno, most of us suck with females anyway!
Slaggis Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 i'm not sure if she does, i think i'm swaying towards the not but thats not really the point its just i'm wary of doin it and then lossinher as a friend. Though then again. it was her idea i suppose
Jack Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Fuck off, you dirty mackem. I'm only in Sunderland for Uni. I've lived in Consett for pretty much all my life. Some of my fondest memories are from secluded parts of the Derwent Walk.
Rapture1984 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I first slammed a girl when I was 14. I turned out alright. Just tell her to "Bite the pillow, it's going in DRY!" Lol! This ^ I'd tap it in if I were you, I used to have morals when I was your age and regret it now! Also do you stand more of a chance losing her as a friend if you go for it or turn her down?
Slaggis Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Lol! This ^ I'd tap it in if I were you, I used to have morals when I was your age and regret it now! Also do you stand more of a chance losing her as a friend if you go for it or turn her down? lol, don't morals just suck? And the thing u say about the either turning down or not, I hadn't thought of that. damn i really dont know what to do now lol:hmm:
Fields Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Some of my fondest memories are from secluded parts of the Derwent Walk. I won't ask...
darkcloud Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 It's a good thing finding out she is a bit of a.... Sorry nevermind............
That Guy Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 This is true. We have become blinded by our boners. True, I'd do her and I don't even know what she looks like... Seriously though, if all you're worried about is losing her as a friend if you do it, then just think about how YOU will feel if you do it. At the end of the day it sounds like she's just up for it, and that it wont affect anything between you. So just think about how you'll feel being around her after you've done it. If you can do it and then still be friends after it then go for it. People shouldn't feel guilty for having sex, it's perfectly natural and as long as you're not messing with peoples feelings (don't sound like thats happening) I see no problem.
system_error Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Just to bring some needed pressure into this thread: IF you have sex with her and mess it up badly or disappoint her it could well mean that she is gonna tell it her friends which could cause problems in future sexual adventures at your school. On the other hand ... sex > no sex hehe.
Jack Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I won't ask... Just don't ever look in the bushes near Shotley Hospital.
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