yesteryeargames Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) Finnaly felt ready to move on and look for a date again Joined plenty of fish and ok cupid, sent a load messages and im yet to have any luck on there, i have this as my profile pic is there something wrong with it apart from the mario galaxy / kart poster in the background haha It seems hard to find any single girls down here that i like, Cornwall is a hard place to live at times, seems hard to find even find a date maybe im trying to hard. Guess i will just have to chill out and enjoy being single for now. Edited April 19, 2012 by yesteryeargames
Retro_Link Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 The immediate impression I got from that photo is 'this guy looks a bit down' and 'go on then, if I have to take a photo'. Although, on a second look it isn't that bad. But you might want to look a bit more smiley... but then I hate smiling in photo's, so maybe you do too.
nightwolf Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 First impression: blurry photo. Honestly, blurry photos are a no no, you need a better quality one, specially where you look a little happier. :P
MoogleViper Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Yeah a blurry photo doesn't give a great first impression. Also you definitely need to smile. Smiling makes people far more attractive. I'd also avoid the England shirt. A lot of people will immediately think stereotypical male football fan type yobbo. Perhaps a casual shirt or a nice t-shirt would be better.
Charlie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Yeah my first impression was also looking down, nervous/shy. Arms folded = reserved and holding back. Lose the football shirt as above. I personally think the Mario Galaxy poster is good (although I personally would never have noticed it) as it shows of who you are so it won't turn them off later down the line.
Magnus Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I agree with Moogle and Charlie that you should take off your shirt. Mostly the picture is just really blurry, though.
Dan_Dare Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Yeah a blurry photo doesn't give a great first impression. Also you definitely need to smile. Smiling makes people far more attractive. I'd also avoid the England shirt. A lot of people will immediately think stereotypical male football fan type yobbo. Perhaps a casual shirt or a nice t-shirt would be better. All this. A photo makes all the difference. @Emma will tell you that she nearly didn't agree to go on a date with me because my pictures on okcupid were a bit naff. example time! in this photo, I look like a serial killer. In this one, I look awesome. Disclaimer: few years between and such (and I've clearly aged like a fine wine) but the point stands. Good photography and a good attitude = sexy face.
yesteryeargames Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) Ok thanks for the tips will take a new one. Edited April 19, 2012 by yesteryeargames
nightwolf Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Haha, that's pretty amazing Dan. (the serial killer comment.) You look different/better with a beard.
Charlie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I think with dating profiles you are essentially branding yourself. What is brand 'yesteryeargames'? How can you portray effectively what you like, how you act and what you do? Profiles with a lot of text will get a lot more attention for a number of reasons: It shows you've put time into it and you're serious (i.e. not after a quick shag) You tell people more about yourself. With this people looking will have a better idea if they want to get to know you It shows you're open and honest. These websites all ask you similar questions. Come across as someone who's happy, fun-loving. If you're answers are depressing that the impression everyone will get of you; that you're boring and depressing. No one wants to be around someone like that, especially on a date!
Magnus Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 1) Grow a beard 2) Apply hipster filter 3) ??? 4) Profit Get laid
MoogleViper Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 1) Grow a beard2) Apply hipster filter 3) ??? 4) Profit Get laid I'm not sure that's... NEVER! I LOVES ME SOME HIPSTER PICTURES. ...back in a minute, I've got a photo to take.
Emma Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Finnaly felt ready to move on and look for a date again Well done for taking a pro-active step!! From using both websites I found OkCupid to be much better, mainly due to the question filter thing.. it's definitely worth doing as it will set you up with people who you want to be set up with! As for a photo, I agree with what everyone has said so far. I would also recommend you try to avoid ones of you inside and obviously by yourself. Use a photo from a social situation (but not you on a night out getting trashed). This helps girls realise that you must be normal and people must obviously like being around you. Make sure though that you're the only one in the photo. Good social photo places: holidays, on a trip, walks, doing your a hobby etc. This will also help stimulate further conversation . Also a few tips for message writing: Make sure it's personal, read the whole of her profile first and write 1 or 2 questions about something she mentions, maybe expand on it BRIEFLY with your own experience/ opinion so she has something to reply with. Here are some example messages that I got whilst on OkCupid BAD: I have terrible experience on dating site things...people can be quite hectic and weird....I went on three dates and three weird stories....check me out first, if you like my profile, just drop me a line...then we can talk and see how things go between us if you dont like my profile, wish you all the best BAD: if you could be a jaffa cake, would you be a full jaffa cake, half a jaffa cake or no jaffa cake? x GOOD: So, you've lived in 8 places. Where was the nicest place you'd say? I'm contemplating moving abroad somewhere and i'm currently taking on ideas! Oh and hello i'm *** by the way hope you're well. x GOOD: How's it going? I'm a teacher too, except I teach secondary (English) in Barnsley. Very cool that you talk about teaching/education all the time. I find myself doing the same thing... Have you heard of teach first? JUST FOR LOLS: Hello there my dear, I would love to be able to exposit at length and write an amazing message that hooks you in and creates an unbreakable bond, but I've been on the champagne and can barely manage a typed grunt. But cest la vie - You are very pretty - And how could I not message someone who cites Matt Smith as their fave doctor? Much love, D x --- *shivers*
Cube Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 *Changes picture on OK Cupid* *Makes a note to sign up for Plenty of Fish*
Charlie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 LONG MESSAGE I agree with everything you said there, Emma. I was on OKCupid for a short period of time (before I got freaked out and realised I didn't want anyone finding me on it!) and found that when I started talking to a girl about her profile she was far more likely to reply than if I sent a generic message. My theory was that girls get messages all the time from weirdos and just delete them in bulk without paying attention. Make yourself stand out and show you're interested in the girl by asking about her profile and what she does.
nightwolf Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Haha Emma, those messages are brilliant. My friend is also signed up for OKcupid, seems to be the norm these days. Oh the days when you told people you'd met someone off the internet haha.
Emma Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Oh the days when you told people you'd met someone off the internet haha. I still feel weird telling people I met Dan off of the internet. Most of my family think I met him in the pub (technically true). It's definitely easier than what it was though!
Serebii Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'm giving myself until August before I jump into dating sites (though June and July are essentially a write-off for obvious reasons). Plenty of opportunities between now and then to meet people so who knows what the future brings. If all else fails though, I'm assuming I shouldn't put the site on my profile? :p
MoogleViper Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 If all else fails though, I'm assuming I shouldn't put the site on my profile? :p Put your profile on the site.
Serebii Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Put your profile on the site. I refer you to this: http://www.n-europeforums.com/showthread.php?t=34268
nightwolf Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I still feel weird telling people I met Dan off of the internet. Most of my family think I met him in the pub (technically true). It's definitely easier than what it was though! I found since my uncle met his partner off the internet they've been a bit more accepting. Although I'm not really interested in dating at the moment (or for the past year..) its certainly an interesting way to go.
Retro_Link Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 2 weeks (once Uni's finished) and I think I'm gonna set up a profile on a couple of these sites too. Might aswell!
Charlie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'm giving myself until August before I jump into dating sites (though June and July are essentially a write-off for obvious reasons). Plenty of opportunities between now and then to meet people so who knows what the future brings. If all else fails though, I'm assuming I shouldn't put the site on my profile? :p Stop putting it off mate, you're just making excuses. If you find a girl you like enough you'll make time for her even in your busy period.
Serebii Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Stop putting it off mate, you're just making excuses. If you find a girl you like enough you'll make time for her even in your busy period. From June 20th to July 20th, I shall not be leaving my house. It's futile to attempt to find someone during this period as it'd be right at the start of any potential relationship, being detrimental to it and inevitably causing it to end. Months in then sure, they may accept it, but straight away? No
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