Daft Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Although yesteday a girl did run across the road to tell me I was really hot and she liked my bowling shoes (which I wear casually cos I'm like... seriously hit n' shit). I've always wanted (to thieve) a cool pair of bowling shoes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaggle64 Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 That's worrying/depressing, too. I wouldn't be surprised if most of us spent more time looking at a screen of some kind than than we do having real world human interaction. And people wonder why depression is on the up. But surely something like a dating site is designed specifically to facilitate "real world" interactions? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daft Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Why is there so much of a need to facilitate interactions? What's the cause? What did people do before the internet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 What did people do before the internet? Died single and lonely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wesley Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 What happened to just meeting people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightwolf Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Online dating through sites such as match etc all seem very silly to me, the idea of using a search to find your 'perfect match' seems almost impossible and to me - likely to fail. Online dating without using these websites seems fine, take for example n-e, there has been a number of romances here, some have lasted - others haven't, but it's easier that way, there's no pressure and obviously no advertising of people wanting to get together, it just happens when you spend an increasingly amount of time talking to people in one place. Daft - either got set up via friends/relatives etc, or they went out drinking in clubs and slept with people they barely met, a bit like now to be fair, but now we have the internet. *shrug* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daft Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah, I just don't really get, as Wesle says, what happened to just meeting people? Are people that in need of a relationship? (Obviously that's a generalisation but it seems like a lot of people resort to using the internet quite quickly.) I'm not saying it's a bad idea or anything, I'm just asking. I don't really get it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Online dating through sites such as match etc all seem very silly to me, the idea of using a search to find your 'perfect match' seems almost impossible and to me - likely to fail. Yeah but you don't just try one person. You view loads of profiles, speak to a lot people, meet a few, find the one. The main point of them is that people on there want to go on dates etc. Most people on N-E and other websites don't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan_Dare Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 The way I see it is that these sites are the means, not an end. I've found that with everyone I've met online first and then for real, the fact that we met online first quickly becomes totally irrelevant. Dating sites just massively increase opportunities to meet people- what happens from there is just whatever happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah, I just don't really get, as Wesle says, what happened to just meeting people? Well I can't say this from personal experience but when you're older and you've finished college/university and there aren't many people at your work, meeting new people would be quite hard. The way I see it is that these sites are the means, not an end. I've found that with everyone I've met online first and then for real, the fact that we met online first quickly becomes totally irrelevant. Dating sites just massively increase opportunities to meet people- what happens from there is just whatever happens. Exactly. You're still going to meet them in person. You're still going to have that human interaction. But some people prefer to arrange those meeting through the internet rather than drunkenly approaching some chick in a club. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cube Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Well I can't say this from personal experience but when you're older and you've finished college/university and there aren't many people at your work, meeting new people would be quite hard. Especially if you don't enjoy going out simply to get shitfaced like everyone else seems to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightwolf Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah but you don't just try one person. You view loads of profiles, speak to a lot people, meet a few, find the one. The main point of them is that people on there want to go on dates etc. Most people on N-E and other websites don't. I get that, but it's more that need to find somebody who you want to date, it seems almost like picking out your favourite chocolate bar, then finding out its turned bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 I get that, but it's more that need to find somebody who you want to date, it seems almost like picking out your favourite chocolate bar, then finding out its turned bad. I don't quite get what you're saying. Do you mean because they're purposefully looking for somebody to date rather than meeting them and then deciding to date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightwolf Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 I don't quite get what you're saying. Do you mean because they're purposefully looking for somebody to date rather than meeting them and then deciding to date? It was more a joke on how when searching through so many profiles you'd look for someone you like a lot who matches you (your favourite chocolate bar) but there's every grantee they'd suck (like when your favourite brand changes its ingredients). Which you could say for any dating, but dating websites tend to force you to pay for this 'privilege' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daft Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Well I can't say this from personal experience but when you're older and you've finished college/university and there aren't many people at your work, meeting new people would be quite hard. First, I think that's a pretty poor excuse. So devoid of university/work/getting shitfaced you can't find any means to socialise? Nu-uh. That's just lazy. Second, I get that when you're older it might make more sense. You're getting fat/ugly/whatever. I'm talking about younger people. Like under 25. It just seems needless. Apparently not, because people do use them but what's wrog with being single? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 but what's wrog with being single? Nothing, but some people don't enjoy it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 It's not really about picking perfect matches or being part of a couple though. It's being able to do things you can't with people you already know. Dating new people is just good fun. The only thing the online part does is help you pick out who to do it with, and gets you access to way more people than you usually would have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wesley Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 The idea that without education or work you become limited in socialising with people seems daft. Maybe if people spent time trying to engage in activities that got them around people they would meet someone. Even better yet, in doing all these fun social activities you may not get hung up on being alone in a house at night and on weekends. I have no problem with these things... they just seem odd to me. Also the idea that these websites "match" you based interests, etc is crazy! What happened to getting along with people that are different to you and therefore interesting? I don't want to go out with a carbon copy of myself. She would be very ugly. And have a bad taste in clothes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoogleViper Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 The idea that without education or work you become limited in socialising with people seems daft. Nah he disagreed with the idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chairdriver Posted July 20, 2010 Author Share Posted July 20, 2010 It's only made me realise how shallow I am. I look down a list of profiles and think: - Ugly - Chav - Ugly - Old - OTT - Non-pic, so probably butt-ugly - Ooooold - Fat - Chav - Hot, but too hot for me - Ugly I think it's different for homorelations -- it's seen as the done thing. Some of my friends are even starting to get the Grindr application, which shows you all the gay men in your immediate vicinity. Properly toxically slaggy. That said, I don't think its as sad as it once was. It's worse to just resign yourself to the fact that you aren't going to get someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rummy Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Why is there so much of a need to facilitate interactions? What's the cause? What did people do before the internet? Classifieds? I don't really think it's all that new a phenomenon, just the internet really makes any and all kind of social interaction easier/lazier now. It's taking over our lives man! (i have actually recently been touting the evils of the internets and facebook iphones etc to people but they don't believe anything i say ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan_Dare Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 It's only made me realise how shallow I am. I look down a list of profiles and think: - Ugly - Chav - Ugly - Old - OTT - Non-pic, so probably butt-ugly - Ooooold - Fat - Chav - Hot, but too hot for me - Ugly I think it's different for homorelations -- it's seen as the done thing. Some of my friends are even starting to get the Grindr application, which shows you all the gay men in your immediate vicinity. Properly toxically slaggy. That said, I don't think its as sad as it once was. It's worse to just resign yourself to the fact that you aren't going to get someone. Haha that list is great. These sites make you feel so snobbish and shallow but at the end of the day, we make those judgements all the time just not in a scenario that challenges us to make them so consciously. Grindr sounds...really weird. I'm not sure I'd be capable of the emotional disconnect required for such easy fix sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chairdriver Posted July 20, 2010 Author Share Posted July 20, 2010 Haha that list is great. These sites make you feel so snobbish and shallow but at the end of the day, we make those judgements all the time just not in a scenario that challenges us to make them so consciously. Yes. You do it instinctively in social situations, but its just emphasized on the internet, because everyone has a discrete box in which they sit, which you have to scroll past, where in a club/bar situation, you less consciously scroll past people (with your eyes). Grindr sounds...really weird. I'm not sure I'd be capable of the emotional disconnect required for such easy fix sex. Yeah it's strange, because it pretty much goes against everything that's coded into my upbringing. You shouldn't talk about sex, because sex is an uncouth thing, etc etc. Then again, I don't think you necessarily have to disconnect emotionally. Hate sounding so cliche, but live for the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dog-amoto Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 This is the way people should still date nowadays. Do eet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eenuh Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 I don't really see anything wrong with online dating sites. You don't even have to use them for just dating. A friend of mine said she met up randomly with a guy from one of those sites just to go out and have fun (non-sexual fun). So it's also a nice way to find people for non-relationship stuff. I think if I was not in a relationship I might sign up with some of these too (free ones). I have no real social contacts at all or nice ways to meet people here so yeahhhh. Plus I'm old. =P But this all comes from someone whose only two love interests ever were found through the internet heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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