flameboy Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 A student died at work on friday night. For those who don't know I work at a residential college for young adults who have learning difficulties and a variety of disabilities.So this is hard not only do I have to deal with my own grief but also that of all our students, stayed behind for ages at work just trying to console them. When they were all gathered and told it was one of the most horrible experiences of my life, they just don't know how to control these emotions. Makes you think about life and stuff...
Kirkatronics Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 A student died at work on friday night. For those who don't know I work at a residential college for young adults who have learning difficulties and a variety of disabilities.So this is hard not only do I have to deal with my own grief but also that of all our students, stayed behind for ages at work just trying to console them. When they were all gathered and told it was one of the most horrible experiences of my life, they just don't know how to control these emotions. Makes you think about life and stuff... No one knows how to deal with these emotions, even the 'normal' people dont.It probobly made you feel worse seeing all the other people in distress =[
flameboy Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 No one knows how to deal with these emotions, even the 'normal' people dont.It probobly made you feel worse seeing all the other people in distress =[ It does, as upset as I am about it, I know its nothing compared to these students..especially the ones who have been with him since he started for the last 3 years and they simple don't know how to articulate the emotions they are experiencing.
Raining_again Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Yeah must be really difficult to handle that, not to mention feeling a loss yourself. =(
Fierce_LiNk Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Sorry to hear about your loss, dude. It must be really difficult for those other students to come to terms with their loss, too. Only thing you can do is persevere, and just console each other. Loss is something everyone will have to deal with, and its never easy, not at all.
Wesley Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Do you know what of? I was kind of wondering. Sorry to hear, though.
Chris the great Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 that really sucks man sorry you had to cope with it. i guess all you can do is accept lifes a bitch. like you say, the outher students cant controle there emotions, you have to be strong for them, show them tha life goes on.
flameboy Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 Do you know what of? Can't really say for sure, its his post mortem today, so when I am back in at work will likely find out tomorrow. There is a theory doing the rounds but the police weren't so sure about it. I feel for the poor woman on waking nights the police were questioning her for 2 hours. that really sucks man sorry you had to cope with it. i guess all you can do is accept lifes a bitch. like you say, the outher students cant controle there emotions, you have to be strong for them, show them tha life goes on. Yeah more so ever the emotional support I have to provide as part of my job role will be even more important. We are not conditioned for shocks like this and it so hard to handle. I guess the one thing I can bring is when I lost my sister earlier this year at least I have my own very personal grief to draw on there. Whilst also trying to be a rock for the students despite how sad I feel for the kid and his family... I'm sure people who have ever written very personal things on here, you wonder why the heck you are doing it. But we all spend so much time "together" it only feels right to share experiences with each other etc.... but still there is that moment, thankfully people's messages are always so warm and it makes you realise why you did it and why communities such as this can be so great...
ReZourceman Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Can't really say for sure, its his post mortem today, so when I am back in at work will likely find out tomorrow. There is a theory doing the rounds but the police weren't so sure about it. I feel for the poor woman on waking nights the police were questioning her for 2 hours. Yeah more so ever the emotional support I have to provide as part of my job role will be even more important. We are not conditioned for shocks like this and it so hard to handle. I guess the one thing I can bring is when I lost my sister earlier this year at least I have my own very personal grief to draw on there. Whilst also trying to be a rock for the students despite how sad I feel for the kid and his family... I'm sure people who have ever written very personal things on here, you wonder why the heck you are doing it. But we all spend so much time "together" it only feels right to share experiences with each other etc.... but still there is that moment, thankfully people's messages are always so warm and it makes you realise why you did it and why communities such as this can be so great... Agreed. I really can't fathom how difficult this is for you. You're a good guy though, and Im sure you'll be of comfort to them. And of course we are all here for you, internet beings though we are.
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