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my local tescos has great offers on sundays when they dispense of all the ex-deli items. You can pick up a week's worth of lunches for less than £3. There's no fighting over it though. It's like the entire community has agreed to never buy the stuff at the full price, so there's enough to go round at the cheaper price.

The place I'm working for is the best telemarketing/etc company I've seen or heard of in brighton. There are departments dedicated to promoting the company's telephone business, which I can hear while I work and sound dreadful, but the PPI department I work in is really smooth-sailing with a lot of freedom and discussion between the different levels of job. Essentially the PPI business is blooming, but it's only really got 2-3 years left in it, so the team in place can sit in comfort earning a decent salary and good bonuses but know they need to move to an almost inevitably shitter company if this one doesn't come up with another idea in time. Moogle -- that sort of situation sounds utterly fucking ridiculous. Do you think you handled it right? In that situation I often feel I've not said the best thing, then later think of the best thing to say. In that respect, nowadays when confronted with a stupid situation I'll try to either stand ground and think about the right response, or walk away without responding, then return with the best phrased retort. I think you're within your rights to bring the guy up on these matters. Perhaps treat it like a chess game and think of how to reply to a few of his potential replies, then bring it up in the next meeting (perhaps thinly-veiled under the guise of "if a superior is away and the work delegated has affected the timeplan of our individual projects, how should we best prioritise our duties?" or something. I do feel for you, bro. Having no job = one stressor, but having a job can produce several individual stresses that cumulatively emburden you way more.

Pretty decent! Got a TV and once I get my xbox back I can have access to sky sports (maybe atlantic too). En-suite bathroom, with a bath and (faulty!) shower-head that isn't fixed to the wall. That's my biggest gripe at the mo - having to have a bath each morning. I'll talk to them to see if I can use the shower upstairs -- probably will as their hours and my potential hours will mean no conflict. The area is portslade-way, north of old shoreham road (so probably not an area you knew well!) essentially really safe, within 15 mins of a big tescos, sainsburys, iceland and aldi. Double-glazed, big room, furnished... it is good. The thing is I didn't look extensively, and I've been told through a mate about a place for £50 a weekm though it's miles the other way, and a friend is looking to sub-let his room. If this friend is willing to do it at a reasonable price I may look to move there as it's more central and my social life will improve. However, I've basically accepted the full-time and part-time jobs my work has offered me, which will probably mean working 9am-8pm. It's 5 mins from hove station, so where I am means I can get there in 30 mins but where I'd be would take maybe 45. Is that worth a difference of, say, £25 a week? Honestly, if there's a shower there that works, and if this place refuses me access to the shower, then I'd save more than 15 mins by avoiding a bath each morning. I've committed to 4-6 weeks here, but I think I'd be smart to keep an eye out. While I think this place will be a no-stress place, money is going to be tight for a while and there are lodgings/shared accomodation options that are cheaper, but of course each comes with a different set of down sides.

Ah, but does that include hours redditing/twittering!

"Hi! I'm Tripod."

@Fierce_LiNk yeah we do agree. I'm partly being devil's advocate, and of course any generalising statement will have holes. For sure, children will be brought up better with parents who have wisdom. I know that people have personal dreams and ambitions, but I think the important question to ask yourself is this; if you found out you and your partner were expecting, would it be life-destroying for you? Would you feel that life was over? There will always be strengths and weaknesses for having children early or late, but generally speaking (again) my point is that you can't know how positive or negative having a child will be until you have one. I think the key word here is "nothing." This is the term that quickly becomes subjective. You, for instance, have achieved plenty, accomplished many things and have stories to tell. You feel you have not done enough yet. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that you have, because that would be illogical and just silly, but I just want to see if your answer to my above question affects how you interprete the "nothings" from above. Of course the antithesis is that you have someone who has seen the world, done it all... and would be a shit parent due to some personal flaw. It's never going to be perfect. But the element of what I'm saying is that in its purest form it is less selfish to bring new life to the world than to instead seek further self gains. I see your counter argument, that setting oneself in a position where a child's life will be easier or better, and I concur! Perhaps I've taken the argument away from the initial post you made. I guess I have. So I guess there's the "I want to have kids when I am financially stable" logic, and there's "I want to have kids when I've experienced life." These two intertwine to become the generic "oh, when I'm 35" answer (which I, too, spout), but perhaps that steps from the biological worrisome period for women, and men generally feel their spouses will be a similar age to them, so 35 (poorly worded!). But! When you hit that sort of age, what if you still feel you aren't experienced or wise enough? What if money isn't quite right? Do you postpone? I think there's an element that we're not really considering; the child's impact on your life. I have seen it in family; once a newborn is around it changes everything -- they would all argue for the better. Choices and life goals are made easier and simpler. I think if I were to find out I'd be a dad, I'd happily throw away many of my ambitions because the order of priorities would change. I don't think I'm being very coherant.

Had a great time at the 'eurovision party'. We had a lot of drinking rules that helped make the evening fun! I'll write up what we played with tomorrow (if there's interest), and I'd definitely do it again. Ukraine lady can come stay in my place if she wants. Prrr.

It is definitely a huge commitment. I also agree that it should be done with a strong financial standpoint. The issue I see is that whilst one can currently see having children as a drain on one's present hobbie commitments (movies, games, etc), one is not able to anticipate how much one is going to be willing to sacrifice for the child. It is hard to try and argue about the meaning or relevence of 'selfish' then to say "but I want to do more things." I think there's an entire universe worth of experiences locked up 'til you have a kid. I think it is a difficult decision, especially when you want to feel you've lived your life as much as you can before kids -- it's almost saying that having kids means you'll have no life. My argument that this is a selfish notion mostly stems from the idea that having kids unlocks a wealth of new experiences that are actually worth more than the things you want to do before children. Again, I stress, I also feel I've not lived a full enough life yet. But if I were to find out I'll be a father shortly then I wouldn't begrudge that child for taking away my time to explore the world -- instead I would seek to ensure they were able to do what I could not, and indeed embrace and enjoy the experience of raising a child with my ideals. It's never going to be a straightforward thing. There are many big questions at stake... but I do believe that, given a decent financial situation, I'd rather have a child and give them a good sense of life over selfish, personal experiences of the world.

My sister didn't plan her prenancy and it completely freaked her out. They didn't feel prepared, nor did they feel like they were up to the challenge. They didn't feel like they'd experienced life enough, and all that jazz. But it just happens. Kinda what Rummy says. People just grow up and deal with the situation if it arises. I'm feeling a similar response to the balding thread -- I have no true experience of the matter, so how am I to really accurately know how I'd react if I was in the situation? I think most of us on here have it in them to be good parents. I think it's actually more selfish to think "I don't want kids" than "I want kids because I don't want to die alone". I respect both opinions (I currently don't want kids!). I wonder how many people have excuses for not wanting kids, but secretly (or openly) just really, really scared they'll be awful parents that will just psychologically fuck up their children, if they had any.

@Cube congrats dude! I remember learning I was an uncle... was strangely euphoric. I'm sure your 2nd occurance is just as awesome @Ashley yeah it's insanely great even for Brighton. If you want to pay around £400 a month you need to flatshare with at least 2 others, and typically still pay for bills (of course, some months are longer than others so rent will take fluctuating chunk of my income).

Mate's hosting a eurovision party tomorrow. He is also the campest person I know. What a coincidence. Anyway! We are arranging drinking rules and that is all that matters. It is not something to be taken seriously, unless cider is involved (so eenuh and flink will be having a serious evening too?)

Woah dude. I've seen your pics on fb and hadn't thought about the healthcare woes! Shit son. There was reciprocal health care in Aus, so I didn't bother getting any travel insurance. I hope yours can help, financially. Otherwise I hope you can get some form of compensation. It's kind of disgusting to even imagine being in that situation, where you've been doing nothing but trying to help others and... shit. Best wishes man!

I have one lock of hair longer than others and that annoys me. Losing hair must be dreadful, and I agree with shorty here -- if it's not happening to you then you can't understand. I think the worst thing would be the sudden decrease of options. Currently I'm lucky to have hair that behaves so that I essentially never have to even think about it, so I can worry about beard/fat/ugly/other stuff.

Woo more good news (and bad, but that's another thread). Found a place to live, £100 a week, moving in tomorrow! It's lodging but I got an en-suite. All bills included, comes with Sky sports/atlantic. Was meant to be my last day at work today, they've instead asked me to come back next week, whilst also offering me another job if I want it -- inbound calls. £6.93 an hour plus commission... ummming and errrring about it. They've also said they'd like to have me come in after next week to do this scanning stuff, and they're looking into it. The scanning stuff is only limited amounts of hours and, realistically, if I didn't take the call-based job I'd not afford the £100 a week. It may be a case of gottado. Also supposed to have an interview monday but they've not replied to my email asking for specific time/place, and it's now nearly 8pm so i guess I won't know now. Applied for a job as a support worker for what used to be the RNID (deaf stuff), which I've checked all teh boxes for. Problem with it is it's a 0-hour contract, which of course could be problematic - but if I get it it would interlace with the scanning work. I've got like 20 tabs with other jobs to go for but I've just spent 3 hours doing one form so I need a rest! P.S. Eurovision party tomorrow night. Gaytastic.

Ghostwritten first, for what Grunch said. Snow Crash is a nicely realised world (but the author often struggles to knit everything together in the last quarter of the book in a tasty way)

I should be able to make it this year! Don't expect any hilarities as I'm a blind and deaf man suffering from sadness. But hey! I'd love to come and make up for the missed year.

Sad that I won't get to watch Premiership games next year The plus side is that much of the family are bournemouth supporters who have done a magical job of getting promoted to the championship, which means we'll have some great family reunions this/next year! Brighton are a strong side when they play well but their squad clearly lacks depth, and they need more youth all over the park.

My previous gfs have been fine with porn. It can be flavoursome TO the relationship if you know how. I find it bizarre to be with someone for a long period of time and lie about watching porn. It's something I thought that would be established fairly early on... but maybe that's just me and my experiences. I'm really tempted to join a dating site. Mostly just to see if I can do a better job than rich-and-pretebii up there. I'm poor and ugly, so it'd be some sort of proof of something or other.

... There's no guarantee that a girl "does" causal sex just because she wants sex with you. It could be, to her, a beginning. It could be that she is interested in seeing where it goes. It could be that she thinks you're worth something, so what appears initially to be casual sex may quickly spread into other genres. Don't presume! It may've been a night of no-sex and lotsa-talk.

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The coach is longer but you get a nice enough seat (I prefer them to the train seats) and your luggage is safely stowed away. From vic coach station is a bit of a mad dash but take advantage of ash's offerings and it'll be ace!

I don't see why that's an issue though, Dazzy. They can't compete with City financially... so they pay less money and win more trophies... so why bother 'competing'? It's the silverware that attracts the names that you want playing for your team. Your point of "fergie won it with his magic" is... little else than stating some elements of obviousness. But as much as you want to praise Ol' Alec it's only fair to highlight the ineffectiveness of the rival managers that cannot come close, despite an increased budget. I think people are merging two arguments here. 1. Man U do, financially, earn a buttload of dosh that surpasses Man City's income. 2. Man City are, financially, more willing to throw money at players. Dazzy you are just highlighting City's lack of care of balancing their payload. It's not necessarily a positive, just a statement, or an observation. Going forwards it may be an issue with Man U potentially having a shaky season under new management, but the point the others are making is that Man U can turn on the money tap down the line if they needed to. But they don't right now. They're winning things. So why bother? Chelsea can spend £50m on torres, while Man U can spend half that on Van Persie. Which was the smarter deal?

Happy birthday grunch! I've always enjoyed your company in the rare moments we've ment IRL and always considered you to be a humble, honest and decent person. I look forward to meeting you again should our paths cross! Best wishes for your birthday.

Good idea - I'll check with my mate to see if he's considered it I think you've been missing the point of the thread a little bit -- there's plenty of pubs around with games behind the bar. This is meant to be more about having a safe space to play a geeky game without feeling socially odd, whilst being able to order alcohol. But then I don't know if you're being opaque or not in your replies!

Nice thing happened today (for a change!). I spotted something on the systems at work, which led to a BIG staff meeting (of like 6 people) and meant a new thing had to be set up. Why's this good? Saved teh company thousands of pounds and man-hours and prevented over 500 customers from losing out on (potentially) hundreds of thousands of pounds. Felt good to do so much for £7 an hour.