drahkon Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 (edited) Looks like it's one of those again: Don't answer when posed with that kind of question. I'll never understand this. Is it too difficult to just say: Sorry, I'm not interested or I don't want to? It's not like I'll start crying when I get a "no" as an answer. Edit: She did answer just now with "I'm so busy right now" and listed several things coming up for her (exams, festival, work, vacation). Normally I'd say "Fuck it" and move on, but I'm not letting her off easy. I want her to say that she's not interested Just told her I'd like to buy her a drink if she is available for an hour or so the next days, unless there is no interest from her and I'm wasting my time by asking. Maybe I'm coming across as a dick but I really just want her to tell me that she's not interested. It's not that difficult and it's not that big of a deal. I'm really annoyed right now. Edited July 17, 2017 by drahkon 1
drahkon Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 (edited) 24 hours later. "Hm, yeah, sorry. I don't think I'm interested." I'll have you know that I'll be crying myself to sleep tonight, because, you know, I'm devastated... Edited July 18, 2017 by drahkon 1
FalcoLombardi Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 @drahkon Blah. Seems like you and I are going to become best internet buddies. We're kinda in the same boat... Maybe?? About two years ago I matched with this person on Tinder. She's got amazing eyes and a weird enough personality for me. She deletes Tinder soon after, but we were already following each other on Instagram. We exchange numbers on there. We text back and forth a few times. I ask her out for a drink. No response. Text back and forth some more. I ask her out for a drink again. No response. Then I meet my now-ex-girlfriend and that was that. Tinder girl and I text each other here and then just about random **** throughout my previous relationship. Nothing flirty. Just BS'ing, talking about beer and food and Pittsburgh. Something jogs my memory about her and pizza last week. I text her about it and we chat back and forth. Last night I asked her if she wanted to grab dinner. No response. For a number of hours. This morning she texts back, something similar to "Dinner as in a date?? I'm seeing someone... :|" Followed up by, "We could grab drinks today though" I obviously say yes. But then I think about her social media pictures and whatnot. No dudes. Is... is who I thought her best friend for these last 2 years actually her girlfriend...? So many thoughts going through my head. After work today, drinks happened. Went well, lasted almost 3 hours. Ended with a hug and her saying "We should hang out again." Technology. 2
drahkon Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I'd say...Women... No luck on Tinder. Haven't gotten any matches in weeks. Maybe I'm just ugly. The lady I've met twice doesn't respond to my messages anymore. God, I hate being single
FalcoLombardi Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 I'm 95% certain that chick I went to get drinks with on Tuesday has a girlfriend. That sucks for me. Especially since we had a thing 2 years ago and definitely had another strong connection Tuesday.¯\_(ツ)_/¯
nightwolf Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Christ I had forgotten how tricky online dating is. Good luck to you both! I know people go on about how its easier for women, but sometimes I think people need to remember "Stunningly attractive women" because fuck knows I never found it easy. Whoops, there goes my tiny rant. Anyway gushy stuff ahead, be warned singletons! Spoiler So following on from the bad stuff thread - I'll keep it short. Basically, had a meltdown at work over my health stuff. My HR manager had to contact my next port of call, normally, for most people thats your husband/wife/mum/dad. For me, my office (its only about 50 people so everyone knows everything of everyone) knows that Sean is the only person in this country I'd go too. So she rings him, giving him very little information, telling him to get his butt to my office (which he has never driven to mind) because I'm in the office basically having a crying panic attack. That boy, no questions asked, no details, demands to work that he leave and drives 1.5 hours to come and make sure I'm ok. Fuck me, I know we've been together over 3 years, but he surprises me everyday. Not even my OWN family have ever done something like for me. 5
Beast Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 15 hours ago, nightwolf said: Christ I had forgotten how tricky online dating is. Good luck to you both! I know people go on about how its easier for women, but sometimes I think people need to remember "Stunningly attractive women" because fuck knows I never found it easy. Whoops, there goes my tiny rant. Anyway gushy stuff ahead, be warned singletons! Here be gushy romantic stuff! (Hide contents) So following on from the bad stuff thread - I'll keep it short. Basically, had a meltdown at work over my health stuff. My HR manager had to contact my next port of call, normally, for most people thats your husband/wife/mum/dad. For me, my office (its only about 50 people so everyone knows everything of everyone) knows that Sean is the only person in this country I'd go too. So she rings him, giving him very little information, telling him to get his butt to my office (which he has never driven to mind) because I'm in the office basically having a crying panic attack. That boy, no questions asked, no details, demands to work that he leave and drives 1.5 hours to come and make sure I'm ok. Fuck me, I know we've been together over 3 years, but he surprises me everyday. Not even my OWN family have ever done something like for me. Awww. Stories like this give me clear evidence that love actually exists and I might not grow old alone, haha. 1
drahkon Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 53 minutes ago, Animal said: Awww. Stories like this give me clear evidence that love actually exists and I might not grow old alone, haha. Dude, if there's anyone who won't grow old alone it's you! 3
Beast Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 On 22/07/2017 at 11:59 PM, drahkon said: Dude, if there's anyone who won't grow old alone it's you! I'm glad you have that faith. I'm starting to wonder, haha. 1
nightwolf Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 On 7/22/2017 at 11:04 PM, Animal said: Awww. Stories like this give me clear evidence that love actually exists and I might not grow old alone, haha. You and me both. I am sure you will Animal you're a lovely bloke!
drahkon Posted July 26, 2017 Posted July 26, 2017 Finally got another match on Tinder. Got a message 60 seconds later. Suspicious. It was an emoji. Ohhhhh, is it a bot? I waited a couple of minutes. "I wanna get fucked. [Link to a website that appears to "offer" asian women]." Well... 1
MoogleViper Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 On my way to work today I saw a girl I dated for a few weeks last year, so I decided to stalk her online and see what she was up to. I found her blog and saw a post from January 2017 about how she got engaged in December 2016. The post said "my boyfriend of 5 years proposed to me"... 2
Ashley Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Some people ignore breaks when stating that kind of thing. Could be they weren't together at that time. Or whatever, it's life
MoogleViper Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 1 hour ago, Ashley said: Some people ignore breaks when stating that kind of thing. Could be they weren't together at that time. Or whatever, it's life Yeah I think they'd broken up at the time and then got back together. Still though, that means she got engaged 7 months after we dated. Feels weird.
drahkon Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 (edited) Have to rant about my best mate's girlfriend again... I've been spending a little more time with my best mate in recent weeks because he's going abroad soon. Since he lives in a part of town where busses only drive until 10pm I've spent the night at his place every time I was there. One morning he told me: "My girlfriend just asked me again whether it's really you who spends the night and not some other woman. Funny, isn't it?" And he laughed. ... I said that it's not funny at all. It's sad because it shows that there's not an inch of trust on her side. "Nah, it's fine." IT IS NOT. I can't believe this...how does he not see it? Can you really be that blind to the issue? When my first girlfriend asked me whether I was really going to a poker night and not to another woman....I asked her if she was serious, she said yes and I broke up with her. I know, everybody's different, but...I just don't understand it. This issue comes up literally every other day...for almost 2 years it's been like this Edited August 4, 2017 by drahkon
nightwolf Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Talk about paranoid, you can't have a decent relationship like that. I would probably, if it were my friend, lessen spending time with them. Which actually does defeat the point, but if you're going to deal with this crap all the time, then what choice do you have?
drahkon Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 (edited) 18 minutes ago, nightwolf said: Talk about paranoid, you can't have a decent relationship like that. I would probably, if it were my friend, lessen spending time with them. Which actually does defeat the point, but if you're going to deal with this crap all the time, then what choice do you have? I've gotten used to it. Most of the time I don't even respond to anything he says about it, anymore. It's always the same and I would always answer the same. Sometimes it's just too much, though, and I tell him straight away what I think. I still can't believe they've been together for more than two years now. And it's always been like how I described it...paranoia and jealousy on her part. Mind you, he's not a saint either...he can be very jealous, too. But what do I know...all my recent relationships ended and I have no fucking idea why... Edited August 5, 2017 by drahkon 1
MoogleViper Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Are you sure she's not doing it as a joke? That sounds like the sort of joke you make "who are you chatting with? you side chick?". Has he ever given her reason to suspect he might cheat?
drahkon Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 (edited) 39 minutes ago, MoogleViper said: Are you sure she's not doing it as a joke? That sounds like the sort of joke you make "who are you chatting with? you side chick?". 100% sure. More than once I was in the next room while she was screaming at him for talking (and I mean really only talking) to another woman. You should read some of her texts...let me loosely translate one sentence he's read to me two weeks ago: "I'm not sure if I can deal with you and your female friends much longer, they invite you to their parties and I'm pretty sure you'll only flirt with them." And he does no such thing. Edit: Just thinking about her wording again makes me sick..."Not sure if I can deal with blabla much longer." She's used those words more than once in recent months. I'm sorry, but when you say it like that...it's over in my book. But I'm not a writer... Quote Has he ever given her reason to suspect he might cheat? Not at all. This could be friendship bias (I hope I'm the first to come up with that term), but he's the nicest guy I've ever met. Edited August 5, 2017 by drahkon 1
Ashley Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 @Serebii I assume I'll be seeing you post this in the Purchases thread soon? https://www.etsy.com/listing/472076272/pokemon-engagement-ring-pikachu-squirtle?ga_order=date_desc&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=nintendo&ref=sc_gallery_6&plkey=1597d0925aba2f67c363a9cbc5a987cd8dc21554:472076272
Serebii Posted October 3, 2017 Posted October 3, 2017 20 hours ago, Ashley said: @Serebii I assume I'll be seeing you post this in the Purchases thread soon? https://www.etsy.com/listing/472076272/pokemon-engagement-ring-pikachu-squirtle?ga_order=date_desc&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=nintendo&ref=sc_gallery_6&plkey=1597d0925aba2f67c363a9cbc5a987cd8dc21554:472076272 Sorry mate, but you're not my type
Ashley Posted October 3, 2017 Posted October 3, 2017 Don't try and play it cool. I share the same name as your hero. 1 1
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