Posted August 20, 2012 Hello forum, I have come across something lately and i found it hard to phrase it in the title Basically we were out late one night and we called to a friends house and borrowed his laptop and brought his laptop downstairs to play some tunes. he was sleeping at the time. I then realised that his facebook was opened so me and a few friends fraped the shit out of him.(A frape is when you post as them and make joke statuses and such) He then sent me an abusive email about disrespecting his property and stuff the next day and won't talk to me now. Now to me it was just a laugh and has got me thinking about things i don't take as seriously as other people. Would you guys have gotten offended by this? What other things do you think people take too seriously? Do you think I'm an asshole here for this situation? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 What was he more bothered about? The fact that you fraped him, or that you borrowed his laptop without asking him? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Well yeah, I mean you and a bunch of mates made fun of him, using his own facebook, whilst in his own home and using his own computer. It can be understandable. I have certain friends where this would be hilarious, and others who would simply destroy my life. But yeah - it's fair enough. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 What was he more bothered about? The fact that you fraped him, or that you borrowed his laptop without asking him? The fraping. If the laptop was just used for music, he wouldn't have minded. it's one of those situations where one little thing led to another if you get me. him: "holy shit he's an asshole, came to my house at 4 in the morning took me laptop without asking me and without waking me and fraped me" You know how it is with people Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 So you wondered into his house when he asleep and decided to not only use his stuff but take the piss out of him using his own things? Can't think why he'd be annoyed. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 I would have been pretty mad at someone using my stuff without permission. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 What exactly did you say when you fraped him? Or rather, what did you put on his profile/status? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Well yeah' date=' I mean you and a bunch of mates made fun of him, using [i']his own facebook[/i], whilst in his own home and using his own computer. It can be understandable. I have certain friends where this would be hilarious, and others who would simply destroy my life. But yeah - it's fair enough. Ya I get you it can be a tough one. I think women would take more offense to this as well generally guys would tend to care less about maintaining an image, but I'm open to proven wrong there to be honest I'm not sure. I just think it was just a laugh and the posts we were making were OBVIOUSLY frapes so it could not be taken any other way. He tends to be a little lame with things like this though, his house and housemates have a "no-fraping policy"...I mean jesus haha. I wouldn't have cared if anyone did it to me but that's me. but then there's stuff like I would feel pissed about that others don't.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 People will feel very differently about various things - if he has a policy about it then he obviously doesn't like it. I'd personally feel like one of the Toads in a @Sprout comic. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 So you wondered into his house when he asleep and decided to not only use his stuff but take the piss out of him using his own things? Can't think why he'd be annoyed. His other housemates let 2 friends of his and mine in first... then I arrived an hour later. It wasn't my idea to get the laptop and to be honest I didn't do much of the fraping. I left a status on his page but thats it. I see your point though. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 So did you know about this policy beforehand? It seems like you/your friends just need to learn to respect boundaries to be honest. If you know something will upset someone you probably shouldn't do it, even if it wouldn't upset you if it happened to you. It does seem like an overreaction over something small but maybe he has professional contacts or family members on facebook who wouldn't understand or maybe it would at least cause him unnecessary embarrassment? If someone has specifically requested something not to be done and then you go and do it, it's harder to see it as just teasing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 If he has a no frape policy within his house, then that's probably what pisses him. It seems to him that you are under his house's juresdiction here! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 What exactly did you say when you fraped him? Or rather, what did you put on his profile/status? Can't rememebr what exactly it was, he deleted them all. Just liked a few things he wouldn't normally have liked, groups like "just lost my virginity" and shit like that and send requests to everyone to join it. It was all completely immature stuff that we thought was fairly funny at the time( and to be honest it was). I'd say something if he used his facebook for business or something but he doesn't. Whole thing just got me thinking how madly different some peoples sense of humours are and how some people take things too far. So did you know about this policy beforehand? It seems like you/your friends just need to learn to respect boundaries to be honest. If you know something will upset someone you probably shouldn't do it, even if it wouldn't upset you if it happened to you. It does seem like an overreaction over something small but maybe he has professional contacts or family members on facebook who wouldn't understand or maybe it would at least cause him unnecessary embarrassment? If someone has specifically requested something not to be done and then you go and do it, it's harder to see it as just teasing. I don't deny i was in the wrong just think it was an overreaction on his part but whatever whats done is done. An apology text was sent to him, I'm more sorry that it offended him like it did rather than doing it though but nevertheless I dont like pointless drama like this so it's best to get it sorted sooner than later whatever my feelings are. So did you know about this policy beforehand? yaaa but it was more of something his housemates had with each other because they are always using each others laptops and things, so i suppose in that way fair enough. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Unless it was something really offensive, like a hardcore racist/homophobic remark, I don't know why people take these things so seriously. I used to "frape" (I hate that word) a couple of chaps at work all the time until they put passwords on their phones. One genius comment I remember was along the lines of "I cum into a jar and sell it to Harry Potter fans telling them it's unicorn blood". No hates. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Can't rememebr what exactly it was, he deleted them all. Just liked a few things he wouldn't normally have liked, groups like "just lost my virginity" and shit like that and send requests to everyone to join it. It was all completely immature stuff that we thought was fairly funny at the time( and to be honest it was). I'd say something if he used his facebook for business or something but he doesn't. Whole thing just got me thinking how madly different some peoples sense of humours are and how some people take things too far. It really depends on how the person interprets it. Some mates will laugh at it and understand that it's just a joke, but some will take it personally. Give him time, he may laugh it off and be fine about it. From his point of view, maybe you did overstep a line. If you just changed one or two things, I'm sure he would have reacted differently to that as opposed to you "fraping the shit out of him." It's not really anything to worry over anyway. Just apologise to him, say it got out of hand, etc. All will be ok. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 It really depends on how the person interprets it. Some mates will laugh at it and understand that it's just a joke, but some will take it personally. Give him time, he may laugh it off and be fine about it. From his point of view, maybe you did overstep a line. If you just changed one or two things, I'm sure he would have reacted differently to that as opposed to you "fraping the shit out of him." It's not really anything to worry over anyway. Just apologise to him, say it got out of hand, etc. All will be ok. I already heard him saying it was funny to another person who reported back to me haha. His argument is so invalid its not even funny. But ya suppose this was just an example of something I wouldn't take seriously and it isn't the first time something like this has happened. In a lot of respects I'm a nightmare to live with if you REALLY value your sleep but tahst another story . It's all good now anyway or it will be like once he calls offl. Already sent an apology message. ALl good Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Sorry @mcj metroid, you were way out of order, on three counts: Firstly, some people are very territorial about their bedrooms, only accepting people in when they're invited (which you weren't). Secondly, laptops are personal property. He might have had something he didn't want you to see on there - maybe not illegal, but embarrassing, for instance. Thirdly, sabotaging someone's Facebook page is stupid and irritating, regardless of how many people do it. I'm not trying to insult you here, just trying to explain that your friend is totally in the right. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Yeah, fraping is stupid. When my mates are over and using my laptop, I have a strict no fraping rule due the the fact that I have a lot of former and current pupils and potential customers on my friends list. Also if someone tags me in an inappropriate picture, then I'll remove it straight away. I should really get round to making a new account and separating my personal and professional profiles one day. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Sorry @mcj metroid, you were way out of order, on three counts: Firstly, some people are very territorial about their bedrooms, only accepting people in when they're invited (which you weren't). Secondly, laptops are personal property. He might have had something he didn't want you to see on there - maybe not illegal, but embarrassing, for instance. Thirdly, sabotaging someone's Facebook page is stupid and irritating, regardless of how many people do it. I'm not trying to insult you here, just trying to explain that your friend is totally in the right. That's fair enough, and Im glad to see different views on it. I can totally see how some people wouldn't like it alright. Yeah, fraping is stupid. When my mates are over and using my laptop, I have a strict no fraping rule due the the fact that I have a lot of former and current pupils and potential customers on my friends list. Also if someone tags me in an inappropriate picture, then I'll remove it straight away. I should really get round to making a new account and separating my personal and professional profiles one day. I wouldn't do it to someone who does their business on it for instance, I know this guy quite well like. Frapes are done to me the whole time. Anyone from here who has added me on facebook can probably testify to that and our rule is if you're stupid enough to leave yourself logged in you deserve it. I mean this guy does even stupider things that I have gotten mad for him about. He broke my oven door once by throwing a glass bottle at it. WHO DOES THAT haha Last friday night he was running around with a fire blanket on him. But in this situation I just believe its not a big deal but its all sorted now anyway. See I use facebook for fun and honestly I don't understand anyone who takes it seriously but thats probably my problem and my way of seeing things... It's like the old art of prank phone calls... I understand it isn't exactly the same thing because it's more anonymous but people find them funny too. That being said I DONT tend to add family members on it and when I do they are filtered dramatically. Did anyone else ever find ithem in one of these situations though? Where you're like. Am wtf whats your deal it was only a joke etc? I've seen some people step over the line in jokes to women especially to do with weight. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Yeah if my flatmate let my friends into my flat who then used my Facebook account as me I would be raging. Having fun at my expense is fair enough when I'm there, but in my house when I'm asleep next door is not. Fraping was funny about 2 years ago (and even then it was never that funny unless you did something very original. The classic "I'm gay" statuses and likes were never funny). Theyre just a pain in the ass and especially if you go adding loads of folks. That is essentially your friends letting random people into your life that you have no control over. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 I reckon he was worried you'd find his mass horde of child pornography on his laptop. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 I reckon he was worried you'd find his mass horde of child pornography on his laptop. That's why I keep mine in a password protected, invisible folder. Nothing like personal security. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 This is the kind of shit that would annoy me. More because I don't like people using my stuff without asking or being given permission. No one takes a blind notice of my facebook page to care if it's been fraped or not. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 Yeah if my flatmate let my friends into my flat who then used my Facebook account as me I would be raging. Having fun at my expense is fair enough when I'm there, but in my house when I'm asleep next door is not. Fraping was funny about 2 years ago (and even then it was never that funny unless you did something very original. The classic "I'm gay" statuses and likes were never funny). Theyre just a pain in the ass and especially if you go adding loads of folks. That is essentially your friends letting random people into your life that you have no control over. haha we didn't add friends. Believe me we found it funny at the time. No regrets, I've had my fun and that's all that matters. I reckon he was worried you'd find his mass horde of child pornography on his laptop. he did have an awful lot of dating sites which is why he didn't really appreciate the sheer amount of losing your virginity groups i made him join. Also Rebecca black's friday was posting on his page and well... this.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 20, 2012 It's all circumstantial and subjective. Depends on the person, the joke, the situation, etc., etc. I've personally never found fraping all that funny, unless the perpetrator is very original, which seems to be a rare occurence. So, yeah, I probably wouldn't have found it all that funny, either (plus I really wouldn't like people using my laptop or coming to my place without permission), but I do find his reaction over the top as well. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
