chairdriver Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 I think it depends on the person too, because if someone like my friend Eloise is late to something, you know she's just been doing something really important with her time, like presenting a seminar on the sexuality of Cyborgism or something, and in some ways you're stunned that she is late, because her reason will be so stunning. But then, you can make excuses for anything for stunning people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diageo Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Consider yourself judged :p I hate lateness, it is rude. As if anyone is EVER thinking "look at this idiot turning up on time". People always think "here comes this cunt now, half an hour late". The never show up on time for a party rule is there on purpose. I hate doing my own thing and then some weirdo comes half an hour early and I have to talk to him. Before I'm even drunk. Fucking cunts. If everyone is late except you, then yes, you are an idiot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heroicjanitor Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Well if you're expected to be late then you aren't really late. People turning up late for movies is very annoying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oxigen_Waste Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 As someone who's always at least 30 mins late to everything, I'll just be honest: the reason I turn up late is because everything is awkward and not that fun at first, while if I go in late, by the time I get there it's already a cosy environment. So yeah, I do it and I'm gonna keep doing it. Of course, in some situations, punctuality IS important... like movies, business or travel. But in most everything, it's fine... What's gonna happen, anyway? Anyone who stops being your friend over something like that is clearly someone with problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EddieColeslaw Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 What's gonna happen, anyway? Anyone who stops being your friend over something like that is clearly someone with problems. I have a friend who's been 30 - 45+ mins late every time we met. I haven't broken friends with him or even bitched about it because I deal and get over it, but it's very annoying at the time. It's more to do with consideration than the actual lateness (after all, it's not gonna kill anyone). Does he think I'm ok standing around waiting gormlessly for almost an hour, when he could have informed me of his lateness so I could go off and amuse myself in a shop or something? What, am I supposed to make special arrangements just for him by naming a time 30 mins before the actual time I want to meet at? How am I supposed to know it'll work every time? I mean, it's up to you. Do you want to be thought of as "the guy who has no consideration for others"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnas Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I have this friend who is so used to other people doing it to her, she started booking meetings to roughly one hour earlier than the actual time. And then, the first time she invited me to her birthday dinner, I had to wait in the streets alone for one hour (because she was supposed to take us to this place we didn't know about). Others also arrived on time, but they had trouble parking their car (they drove around for one hour looking for a spot). Either way, both inconveniences would've been solved with some punctuality by anybody else involved. Since then, she's been telling me the proper time to show up. I still am the first one to arrive, every single time. Jesus. So yeah, lateness ftl. As someone who's always at least 30 mins late to everything, I'll just be honest: the reason I turn up late is because everything is awkward and not that fun at first, while if I go in late, by the time I get there it's already a cosy environment. So yeah, I do it and I'm gonna keep doing it. I don't really understand this mentality. I'd rather face the awkwardness from the beginning instead of showing up late and potentially hear "Hey Jonnas! You'll never guess what you just missed! You just had to be there!". Not to mention, I'm arriving in the middle of something. The late guy, more often than not, is the guy who awkwardly or interrupts the flow or changes the subject. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oxigen_Waste Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I have a friend who's been 30 - 45+ mins late every time we met. I haven't broken friends with him or even bitched about it because I deal and get over it, but it's very annoying at the time. It's more to do with consideration than the actual lateness (after all, it's not gonna kill anyone). Does he think I'm ok standing around waiting gormlessly for almost an hour, when he could have informed me of his lateness so I could go off and amuse myself in a shop or something? What, am I supposed to make special arrangements just for him by naming a time 30 mins before the actual time I want to meet at? How am I supposed to know it'll work every time? I mean, it's up to you. Do you want to be thought of as "the guy who has no consideration for others"? Of course I'm not gonna be late if it's a 1 on 1 kind of thing! I think everyone's focusing more on group social gatherings here, mostly! I've been doing it forever and I've never had a single complaint. It's not like anyone's waiting for me to start having fun or whatever... I have this friend who is so used to other people doing it to her, she started booking meetings to roughly one hour earlier than the actual time. And then, the first time she invited me to her birthday dinner, I had to wait in the streets alone for one hour (because she was supposed to take us to this place we didn't know about). Others also arrived on time, but they had trouble parking their car (they drove around for one hour looking for a spot). Either way, both inconveniences would've been solved with some punctuality by anybody else involved. Since then, she's been telling me the proper time to show up. I still am the first one to arrive, every single time. Jesus. So yeah, lateness ftl. I don't really understand this mentality. I'd rather face the awkwardness from the beginning instead of showing up late and potentially hear "Hey Jonnas! You'll never guess what you just missed! You just had to be there!". Not to mention, I'm arriving in the middle of something. The late guy, more often than not, is the guy who awkwardly or interrupts the flow or changes the subject. Meh... it's real life... "had to be there" situations are ridiculously scarce. In short, you guys take it too serious. I do agree that people with lateness issues are Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EddieColeslaw Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Of course I'm not gonna be late if it's a 1 on 1 kind of thing! I think everyone's focusing more on group social gatherings here, mostly! I've been doing it forever and I've never had a single complaint. It's not like anyone's waiting for me to start having fun or whatever... Oh! I wasn't aware you were talking specifically about larger gatherings, I thought you meant overall. I don't think lateness is an issue in parties, unless it inconveniences people in some way (e.g. you're bringing the food, or everyone has to wait for you move somewhere). Aren't they designed for people to just...arrive to? However, for specific group activities, it still seems like an issue. Like going to the cinema...the movie isn't gonna wait D: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rummy Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Been meaning to post in this thread all day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightwolf Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I don't think I've ever seen anyone complain at another friend for being late, but my group of friends do it to each other regularly, if a person is late and frankly has no excuse, then we tell them, not harshly, but enough to be a kick up the butt. There were a few friends who used to turn up over an hour after something start, not just for hanging out, which I can deal with, but uni stuff and other things too! They are definitely a bit better now, but it was a bit of a pain to say the least. I'm always early, for everything, I try not to be, but I get a bit annoyed with myself if I'm late to anything, so I end up going the opposite way and being too early. For example now, I don't need to be at the cinema til 7, I'm ringing a taxi now for a 5 minute journey, but what if the taxi can't find me and I'm late?! Woe is me -.- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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