Posted April 29, 2009 Sexuality is a social construct. Asexuality won't exist until society acknowledges it. Just as homosexuality didn't exist in ancient Greece. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Well, there is still some contention as to whether asexuality exists amongst humans. Biology dictates that animals will always be attracted to members of the opposite/same sex, and that homosexual activity in animals is, in fact, rife. It would be very wierd for someone to say that they're not attracted to anybody or any type of person in the world. Anyway, on the grounds of sexuality (and the fact sexuality isn't just restricted to gender), I'm beginning to realise I have an overwhelming attraction to black women. They're just so hot. Go tell asexuality doesn't exist to all the asexual people out there. They do exist, both men and women. .................... Haha that's how I often feel really! Though I think I'm sorta more at peace with the confusion now, not too bothered with it at the moment. =P Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Though I think I'm sorta more at peace with the confusion now, not too bothered with it at the moment. =P if your confused, just give it time. if your sexuality hasnt developed, then your best to just wait till somthing does develop. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 if your confused, just give it time. if your sexuality hasnt developed, then your best to just wait till somthing does develop. I am 24, you'd think by now it should have developed already. =P Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 I am 24, you'd think by now it should have developed already. =P not really, lots of women experience a sexual revolution around 30 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 not really, lots of women experience a sexual revolution around 30 30?! Why so late? D: Oh well, it doesn't matter anyway. >.>; Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 A lot of people have thought I'm asexual in the past. I'm not. Just picky. And don't generally go around telling everyone who I want to sleep with. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 (edited) Apparently women reach sexual maturity later in life...so say...doctors? I described my sexuality as "meh" the other day (granted, to get rid of a pesky gay) and I think thats pretty accurate at the moment. I have no sexual feelings toward anyone (other than Haggis of course ) lately and just can't be bothered with any of it. Plus I am sick of people judging me based on which gender I sleep with, particularly as I'm not like the average screaming pink-wearing Kylie loving gay. I'll just happily float on doing my own thing thanks. Basically im saying I agree with Daft, but in a more prattling and self-involved way. Edited April 29, 2009 by Ashley Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Apparently women reach sexual maturity later in life...so say...doctors? I described my sexuality as "meh" the other day (granted, to get rid of a pesky gay) and I think thats pretty accurate at the moment. I have no sexual feelings toward anyone (other than Haggis of course ) lately and just can't be bothered with any of it. Plus I am sick of people judging me based on which gender I sleep with, particularly as I'm not like the average screaming pink-wearing Kylie loving gay. I'll just happily float on doing my own thing thanks. I'm hurt.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 i thought dannyboy was making a clever joke....O_oand appreciated it as such!! Unfortunately not. I simply misread the sentence completely! :p But yes, I also like the topics of equality and being an outsider in the X-Men films. Go tell asexuality doesn't exist to all the asexual people out there. They do exist, both men and women. I think what he meant was that the concept of sexuality doesn't exist until acknowledged. In Ancient Greece you didn't think of hetero- and homosexuality as different concepts. Of course there are so-called asexual people out their, but it's unfortunate in many cases regarding sexuality that we so desperately try to categorise and label people. Sexuality is way too complex for any given system of categorising to ever be completely correct, and in many cases it creates narrowmindedness and prejudice. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Apparently women reach sexual maturity later in life...so say...doctors? I described my sexuality as "meh" the other day (granted, to get rid of a pesky gay) and I think thats pretty accurate at the moment. I have no sexual feelings toward anyone (other than Haggis of course ) lately and just can't be bothered with any of it. Plus I am sick of people judging me based on which gender I sleep with, particularly as I'm not like the average screaming pink-wearing Kylie loving gay. I'll just happily float on doing my own thing thanks. Basically im saying I agree with Daft, but in a more prattling and self-involved way. My place, or yours? I'll put the kettle on, you fetch the instant mash. (Either, that made total sense, or the conversation I'm thinking of was with someone else. :p) -- There's this guy at college who I've seen around since Year 7 and never felt anything toward him. Then, I have a drunken convo with him on fb a few weeks back, get told "he would" and we end up inviting him to Ibiza. I feel oddly attracted to the guy, even though he's completely not my type. It's a strange feeling. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 I'm finding it hard to bite my tongue here. It wasn't just a general fuck-about in ancient greece. They still understood the difference between man-love and woman-love -- they understood the concepts of sticking a penis in another man's bum and sticking it in a vagina and they understood the conceptual differences and implications of both acts. I mostly have an issue with the word 'concept' here :P general 'labelling' would be better, as Daft suggested. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 I'm finding it hard to bite my tongue here. It wasn't just a general fuck-about in ancient greece. They still understood the difference between man-love and woman-love -- they understood the concepts of sticking a penis in another man's bum and sticking it in a vagina and they understood the conceptual differences and implications of both acts. I mostly have an issue with the word 'concept' here :P general 'labelling' would be better, as Daft suggested. Well, po-tay-to or po-tar-to, the point still stands. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 but they ddin't really care if you did either. Bisexuality was, without being named as such, the kind of default. It wasn't some kind of hippy ass free love utopia though. It was pretty fucking weird... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Let's just let wikipedia resolve everything :P http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality_in_ancient_Greece Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 It was pretty fucking weird... By todays "standards". Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 Not read the wiki link...but wasn't it like until a boy matured (or was it married?) having sex with another (older) male was considered totally normal? I swear I heard that somehwere. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2009 By todays "standards". by anyone's. It wasn't to do with any kind of equality- it was based on the misogynistic belief that women were so inferior as to be basically incapable of forming an intellectual bond with a man- and therefore any kind of deeper relationship. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2009 Stemming from a conversation with Ashley....Sex. Is GaGa right in saying "Baby, when it's love if it's not rough it isn't fun"? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2009 Sex in love comes in a spectrum, from the rough and kinky of fetishdom to the sweet and passionate of romance. I guess you could argue that the romantic end has less to do with 'fun' and more to do with... I dunno... communion? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2009 I'd go with that. I do believe that a big part of the sexual experience comes from who you experience it with and your feelings towards them. If you've known someone for a long time and you're finally both about to get it on after both lusting after each other for months, you're not going to go in to it rough and ready. It'd be a more passionate affair. And the opposite applies too; if you pull a random bird at a club it's not going to be a night of passion, let's be honest. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2009 Here's a question; what happens when one person has a hot shower and the other a cold? (you know what I mean) who gives in? Is there a compromise? I sound like such a Mary... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2009 Also Coolness (but I don't believe it). Aye, I'm not asexual as such but I'm not that fussed about sex. (don't mind the old sex jokes though, haha!) I'm just accepting the inevitable! I've just never been that attracted to anyone yet, really. I blame my mainly all boy's school and lack of a social life! Well in my year there was no girls until Sixth Form and over the year it has gone Co-ed but not when I first joined! So there we go, definately like women though! Despite what many people think. >_____< Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
