Posted May 25, 2009 I am actually a very quiet, shy, person. I tend to like being on the outside, observing, BUT once I get into certain conversations, I can talk alot and be pretty loud. I tend to be open with pretty much anyone, perhaps too open. And I actually listen to what people say, regardless of the topic, or whether I know anything about it or not. Often, I ask questions about said topics just to further my own knowledge. Women tend to like me for my listening skills and my deep knowledge of useless gossipy info, which often lands me in the 'friend zone' but I get on even better with guys as I am a 'man's' man and like most sports such as footy and boxing. Generally, I am at my best one someone else is driving the conversation forward so I love to talk with people who chat alot. I think that suits my laid back nature pretty well. I can be a bit awkward to talk to sometimes especially if I am tired/brain dead, as my conversational skills disappear and I just tend to give one word responses. If I am a bit drunk though, I will talk absolute nonsense. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 My social skills are pretty much non-existing as well. I never really seem to meet new people, and when I do I just feel uncomfortable around them haha. Only friends I have are 3-4 girls from school. Can't say I'm really open to them, won't tell them all my secrets or everything that's going on in my life. I seem to be way more open to certain people online than I am to people in real life, heh. I'm shy and get really nervous around people, and I hate talking to others as I can't stand being the "centre of attention", even if it's just for a minute. =P Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 My social skills are pretty much non-existing as well. I never really seem to meet new people, and when I do I just feel uncomfortable around them haha. Only friends I have are 3-4 girls from school. Can't say I'm really open to them, won't tell them all my secrets or everything that's going on in my life. I seem to be way more open to certain people online than I am to people in real life, heh. I'm shy and get really nervous around people, and I hate talking to others as I can't stand being the "centre of attention", even if it's just for a minute. =P This. Well, it used to be a lot more worse than it is now. Spent along time trying to come out of my shell through improving myself to improve my confidence and change some habits, and for the most part, it has worked. Still got a long way to go though. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 I'm like an open book to friends. Not very open at all to my family. Although it takes me a while to open up to new people. But that's because I'm shy. Although I'm trying to overcome that and have made lots of progress. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 I am an open but transparent book. I'm easy to read, but impossible to see. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 I open up a lot to both family and friends, sometimes too much. The only things i tend to hold back is information that can be used as "fodder" against me... which is done regularly. I'm crap with new people for the first hour, but after that i'm fine. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 I have trouble finding people I can open up or relate to. I mean sure, there are such people in my life, but they are depressingly small in number. This is partly why I resort to the internet to stretch the other aspects of my character that don't exactly grind with the society I live in. It's cool being the only one but it's lonely. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2009 I am the same as the OP. I can talk to people but it must always be a laugh, there must always be jokes in it. Cruel, funny racist (everyone is a racist anyways), generally funny, anything to have a good conversation. I can't talk to people about personal stuff because I don't want other people to know/care about mine and I don't care about their personal stuff. That's why I've come to realise I only ever have colleagues, I don't have any close friends. It has served me well. Not meant to offend them but they are. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 26, 2009 I am an open but transparent book. I'm easy to read, but impossible to see. I love. Could be the thing an assassin says before completing a kill. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 26, 2009 I am an open but transparent book. I'm easy to read, but impossible to see. I lol'd out loud. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 26, 2009 I love. Could be the thing an assassin says before completing a kill. I lol'd out loud. I ripped it off. It's now my status on FB. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 26, 2009 This is probably how Madeline McCanne felt. . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 26, 2009 Likely a bit quiet. I talk to people what they wanna talk about and try to find a common ground with something. Football... yes, I have genuine conversations about footy on a daily basis. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 I lol'd out loud. Explain. I may need that explaining as well, best i can come up with is that you Laughed out Loud, out Loud!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 I don't really talk about myself at all, I mean I'll answer questions about myself but won't go out of my way to tell people. For example, when I went out for my birthday they were really surprised it was my birthday and were like 'Why didn't you say it was your birthday?' well, beause it would sound like I was pushing it and trying to get praise or something :/ I can't stand talking about myself >_< Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 maybe he said the word "lol" out loud... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 maybe he said the word "lol" out loud... It could be interpreted as such, but no. Loling-out-loud is like loling, but more emphasized. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 It could be interpreted as such, but no. Loling-out-loud is like loling, but more emphasized. Laughing as normal, but at such a volume it exceeds the acceptable limit. Something that fits you so well, when you do you silent/unbelievably loud scream/laugh. Everyone in the room taking at least 2 clicks. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 I may need that explaining as well, best i can come up with is that you Laughed out Loud, out Loud!! I didn't notice that, what I wanted explaining was why it was funny. maybe he said the word "lol" out loud... I've seen someone do that. It's not pretty. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 Was it me? I'm pretty sure I probably did it a few times at the meet >_< Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 (edited) I actually tend to be more open with a person the less well I know them. So for example with my family I have a web of well maintained lies about my life, I feel like I can't be honest about parts of my life or they'll be angry with me or constantly bug me about it. With my friends I'm almost completely honest but I've been holding information from them for a while recently. While with my co workers I've been incredibly open, to the extent that they get the first taste of basically every thought that goes through my head. (actually I just realised it's similar online, I tell you guys more than I ever do on forums with people who know who the fuck I am) Before I started this job I was much more introverted than I am now. to be honest these people are the first time I've been comfortable in a new social situation. I went to a gig a couple of weeks ago and one of my old friends from school introduced me to some new people. When we were in a small, casual group I had time to talk and give my occasional witty comment or whatever and I started to get to know them. But when we met even more people and went to the gig it became much more of a problem socialising, they split off into their own groups (they were already friends), constantly talked about something (I couldn't really hear, combination of loud music and bad hearing). Then I didn't really get a chance to talk so I had to sit there and smile like a chump. I think one of my bigger problems really is finding something to talk about, as a geek I have a vast knowledge of music, movies, tv shows, technology and world news and not much else which I find are subjects non geeks generally don't care about. I also lack really the experience going out so nothing to say about "when I was in x club" or "I know these people who..." Sigh, well I guess I'll just keep trying and working on my social skills. It's nice to vent about it. Edited May 27, 2009 by Sanchez Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 27, 2009 I know what you mean about trying to enter a social circle that is well founded. People generally won't be talking about accessible topics because they'd've worn them out! I think one of my bigger problems really is finding something to talk about, as a geek I have a vast knowledge of music, movies, tv shows, technology and world news and not much else Dude... that's not a short list at all. There's not really all that much else to cover in a conversation. The main thing in a group of friends will be in-jokes and similar, excluding history that they share amongst themselves. The good thing is that this area grows the more you hang with new people! You sound like you made a good impression, if you ask me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 28, 2009 I share minimal information with friends I know from uni who are my closest friends. "In the end friends will let you down family are what matters" On a more serious note I think it might be because I am a only child I don't open up although I have told personal shit to various people on NE on msn that shall remain nameless! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 28, 2009 Are third nipples generally covered by 'personal shit'? Because if they are, then I know a lot about Haden that his family don't know. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
