But saying that something is selfish should be considered "bad". Also, I don't really understand the notion that you should feel bad because you're doing something else that you want to do instead of giving all of your time, energy, money and devotion to children. What I have a big problem with is that people jump into the whole "family life" idea too quickly. I got told last week that, at the age of 26, I would be classed as an old parent in Wales, as many people have kids at 18. Fuck that.
I don't hate children. In fact, I love them, otherwise I wouldn't be in this profession. But, I also like so many other things and value the time that I dedicate to those things. Once you have kids, the amount of time that you get to spend on those things grows less and less. You're a parent 24/7, which is a fucking huge commitment. Why rush into it and do it when you're my age (26) rather than waiting a few years and having much more information, wisdom and stories to pass down, and do it properly with better financial backing?