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    Sherlock

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    What did you expect? For him to give him a nice bash on the head to give him amnesia? I also doubt Sherlock could've found enough dirt to blackmail him to keep silent about his information.

     

    The only choice was to kill him at the source - his head. Extreme yes, but Moriarty did it and people didn't seem to mind.

     

     

    Exactly; the only way to get rid of Magnussen was to kill him right then and there. One also has to remember what was at stake: Sherlock's eponymous last vow was to always be there for Mary, John and their child, and at that moment John was at risk of going to jail with Sherlock for trying to sell national secrets to Magnussen while Magnussen had lethal leverage on Mary. Sherlock had no other option if he wanted to protect both John and Mary.

     

    Taboo Topics

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    @kav82, I feel I've already explained my reasoning quite well, but @Dr\. bob have been kind enough to further elucidate my point. I still don't feel I can simply give a straight, general answer; if I actually knew somebody was a paedophile, the first thing I'd do would probably be to ask them a lot of questions to get to know them and their paraphilia, because, as mentioned, I feel we don't know enough about it. As Dr. bob says, if I knew and trusted the individual, then yes, I probably wouldn't mind it - though I hardly think a morally conscientious paedophile would like to be given the responsibility of a child. If I didn't know and trust an individual, I wouldn't leave my kid in their care to begin with, paedophile or not.

    Glasses

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    I've been wearing glasses for the majority of my life and so they just feel like a natural extension of me at this point; I feel naked without them. They're not without their issues, though, as Goafer mentioned, but I've never been able to stand the idea of putting in contacts. Laser surgery is a more likely alternative for me, but it seems like such a huge thing.

    Taboo Topics

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    I've not said the paedophile would, I asked the question. I don't know.

     

    But still, would you let your own child stay in the same room with the paedophile? Why'd you decide to avoid that question?

     

    I actually know a paedophile, known him for most of my life. He fled the country when he got found out and eventually Interpol caught him. He's currently serving time in prison and has to sign the sex offenders register for 15 years.

     

    If I ever saw him again I'd absolutely kick the crap out of him... but also because there are other circumstances surrounding the situation.

     

    I avoided the question because I, like you, simply don't know enough about it. That's my entire point - all we have are stereotypical assumptions, and thus we shouldn't be quick to judge.

    Taboo Topics

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    Not really, because generally speaking the homosexual wouldn't look to commit rape. The paedophile may well do... no?

     

    How do you know? I wager that assumption is based on the stigmatised view of paedophiles as predators, but is there actual research backing this up? Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't people also have this exact prejudice about homosexuals way back - that they were sexual predators incapable of controlling their urges? Today we all know at least one gay person and thus know it's not true, but paedophilia is still stigmatised, meaning we only ever hear about the ones that do bad things. My point is that we need to research and understand paedophilia so we can find out how best to help them instead of demonising them based on the attraction itself.

    Taboo Topics

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    So are you proposing that as our sexual barriers are constantly shifting and the consensus that gay etc is wrong is eroded and broken down. That with time other taboo's will become the same with time? Like I said previously seems frightening and horrifying when you actually think about living in that world.

     

    I understand your counter point compared to me @Dannyboy\-the\-Dane proposing the stigma of villianizing such individuals should be removed to help them...but then I suppose once upon time people thought curing homosexuality would come as a result of acceptance. Whereas acceptance has allowed gay culture to rise and people can live proud of their sexuality without prejudice (on the scale of past generations granted it still exists) rather cure.

     

    I am not entirely certain what you are trying to say, so forgive me if I am mistaken: Are you saying it would be horrifying to live in a world without taboos? Is your fear that paedophilia will become "accepted" as homosexuality is well on its way to? Because if so, I think you fail to understand the core difference between the two: A paedophilic relationship can never be consentual for obvious reasons, thus it will never become morally acceptable in the manner that a homosexual relationship between consenting adults is. What can happen is that instead of villainising those attracted to children, we realise they are people with involuntary tendencies whom we ought to help either control or get rid of said tendencies so they can live a good life. That is why taboos are horrible - because they are illogial and prevent us from making sound judgements on what actually matters.

     

    Does anyone else have any other taboo topics they want to talk about?

     

    Well, we've already tackled the two greatest taboos I know of. :heh: I do have another topic that is potentially taboo:

     

    Is democracy the best form of government? And if not, then what is?

    Doctor Who

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    I'm a little disappointed that the Day of the Doctor Blu ray doesn't also include either the Fiveish Doctors or An Adventures in Space and Time. Also the more I think about it the more I think Night of the Doctor should have been part of the actual episode. However I can see why it wasn't if the episode had started with that it would have confused the masses who didn't watch pre reboot days.

     

    Is The Night Of The Doctor included on the disc?

    Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder?

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    I disagree. Our outward appearance is anything but inconsequential. I wouldn't date a fat/scruffy/dirty person. Keeping yourself in good order says an awful lot about a person. Also, many physical characteristics can be altered or improved by living a healthy lifestyle and keeping fit.

     

    You completely missed the point of my post. I am talking about natural physical appearance - body, facial features, colour of eyes, hair, skin etc. - everything that you were born with and which is thus not a product of your personal style, grooming and fitness choices, but which still plays a large role in whether people consider you beautiful. For the most part, i.e. for all other purposes than attracting a mate, these characteristics are in theory completely inconsequential; they have no bearing on any skills, they say nothing about your personality. But because physical attraction plays such a huge role in our biology, it does heavily affect how we interact with other people, and thus is becomes very consequential, and that is what a lot of people are unhappy with. Yes, part of your appearance is the product of your personal choices, but another part, a large part, you have no say in at all. That was the entire point of my post, to explain why people look down upon valuing outer beauty: because a large part of it is outside your control and thus says nothing about you as a person.

    Your 2013

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    I applaud the thorough and visually interesting year breakdowns of Goaf and ReZ. I myself am far too lazy to be as thorough, so I shall simply sum up my year in general: Overall it's been a great one. I gained some amazing new friends with whom I've had the greatest of times and to whom I've grown very close, and in general I've just had some amazing times with friends. 2013 also had a lot of great happenings to offer like the N-E Meet, the Doctor Who Anniversary and my very first tabletop RPG campaign. It's also been a great year for me as regards personal development - I feel better than probably ever before, and I can only see it improving. Oh, and I also handed in my BA project, which I keep forgetting is a pretty decent achievement. :heh:

     

    All in all a pretty amazing year for me. :) Bring on 2014!

    Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder?

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    I would certainly say that attraction plays a big factor but I have found that I've liked certain women's personalities so much that it has definitely made them seem more attractive to me than before.

     

    This ...

     

    All personality and no looks = zero attraction, so just friends

    All looks and no personality = At best a short term thing

    Both = Winner

     

    I think the reason so many people think that personality is more important than looks is that they're rating looks on a "could she be a model?" type of beauty. But everyone has different tastes, so when you see someone dating an ugly person we just assume they've chosen the uggo due to their personality. In actual fact, that's just their taste and they actually just find them physically attractive.

     

    I'm sure we've all looked at people and thought they weren't conventionally beautiful, but we still find them attractive.

     

    When people say they're only looking for personality, what I actually think they mean is that they've stopped caring what the general public finds attractive and are actually looking for someone with personality, but also a look they personally find attractive, even if it's not "media beautiful".

     

     

    I personally find odd little physical quirks quite attractive. I'm not talking full on rhino horn or hammerhead eyes, but little interesting things that set people apart from the crowd.

     

    ... and this basically sum up my view. Of course we place value on outer beauty; if we only care about personality, it's just a friendship - it's the attraction that makes it more than that. But, as the headline says, beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder - it's a subjective concept. I think we've all seen people fancying someone we ourselves wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole. It also seems to me personality can "leak through" and affect how someone looks to us; to quote Doctor Who: "... their face just sort of becomes them. Like their personality's written all over it."

     

    Hmm, I would argue that sometimes you are made to feel bad for valuing outer beauty as it may imply that you are shallow. Or, that you only care about looks. You also take to find certain crowds spouting the "inner beauty all the way" lines as they don't value themselves as "beautiful". If they're overweight, for example. A bit of a generalisation, I know.

     

    Both are important. Why can't you have both? I wouldn't go on a date with somebody I didn't find attractive, and I wouldn't go on a date with somebody who was boring as fuck. I go for both. A boring personality puts me off, but I also need something that catches my eye in the first place.

     

    The reason valuing outer beauty is looked down upon is because it's - for the most part and in theory - an inconsequential part of us; we don't choose our physical characteristics, and they're irrelevant in all regards (disregarding the characteristics that affect our physical capabilities).

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