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I'm completely with bob on this, especially the Periscopes. Forums are old hat - who needs social like that now? Why do you need a forum when you can have facebook and the like? Literally. And the like. People don't just want to interact, they want to flaunt themselves and get likes too. They need gratification, not a meaningful conversation! Quick thrills and cheap lols. Cats and cleavage pics. It isn't new(myspace angles for the latter, anybody?), but it's being more and more perpetuated by the social medias. DONT TRUST THE SOCIAL MEDIA.

QFT. I do NOT understand how people do not get this, and fuck the motorways up so much. There is no 'slow lane'. There is no 'fast lane'. There are just lanes. Unless you are going faster than what is on your left, be on the left. It really isn't any simple than that. I don't care what speed you're doing, limit, under, over, it doesn't matter. Unless you are going faster than what's on your left, be on the left. Unless, as you mention, you're pulling over for slow entering traffic. Always be mindful of upcoming junctions/lanes/merges and account for that. Otherwise....well, I've already stated it a few times. I often drive down a 50 A-road locally, and it's 3 lanes, and I cannot tell you how fucking unbelievably annoying it is seeing people drive down it, with the two right hand lanes chock of cars doing limit or less, and the left lane COMPLETELY empty. A friend of mine tends to be a terrible driver and takes the opportunity to completely(and illegally) undercut traffic. Same friend also likes to break the limit. The former should concern you, the latter should not. Unless you are going faster than what's on your left, be on the left. Don't understand why that isn't widely taught nor touting as the one simple fucking rule of motorways. A potentially very bloody serious one at those speeds too!

Tbh if she ain't gonna do a phone call then I dunno about the Skyping! I'm not a big skypey kinda person but meh, something to consider I guess. I'm very much the same as yourself however - I'd put my relationship first as much as I can, and plan for it, too. As for what I want? Her lol. I'm a very peopley kind of person - I like seeing people or possibly chatting to them. I don't tend to call people for a chat, and I don't make phone calls too often maybe, but usually when I do end up calling someone with a point I'll end up gassing for a few or more. It's just me, I need a lot of social I guess, and texts are just not the same. I wasn't even planning to be calling every day or anything, I just meant maybe once or twice a week if I'm not gonna see her at all - but we never even got that far as she adamantly shot the whole fucking thing down, zero compromise. It's not like it just came up bugging me this weekend - but I didn't want to bring it up whilst she still had exam/essays to write, nor just before she went on holiday. Really I know what it is I think - I don't feel like I'm priority enough and tiering it down from there. Not seeing her's shit, but then a phone call could alleviate that for the interaction I'm essentially after. That makes it sound super clinical, but a verbal chat/convo is just something. I think I'm more pissed off due to it being my birthday this week and I thought, god forbid, it'd warrant some more effort. If I'm not gonna get anything, I'm gonna have to just not give anything - because it's draining to give and not get. I don't meant it to be that you should give expecting a return, but making effort for hurt just ain't not good. Whilst I don't notice our age gap normally either - she IS still 19/20, I dunno if that makes all this a bit different too. Anyhow, Marcamillian popped round yesterday and helped with a chat(I'm super tired and busy/stressed recent too, so I'm doubting myself). It's basically shit right now because I don't have her, and I want to talk through this, but can't in texts. So I'm just gonna pull back a bit on the texts(out of sight/out of mind) and wait til she suggests seeing me and go from there. I'm not gonna be totally silent but kinda go with a bit of @nightwolf's suggestion and text her maybe in the morn and in the eve. If she asks why I'm not texting as much as before I'll just tell her it's exactly what it is - it's hard for me cos I'm missing her with no end in sight. I'm hoping it ISN'T that she doesn't want this/me, and I'll see what happens when we talk, but right now it's just an annoying limbo. Gotta just get on with it though I guess, nothing else to do. Obviously, I'm in very little rational mind of advice right now - but one thing I'm thinking is that some women are crazy! Could it be she's telling you how much fun she's having, rather than to say that's all this is, but to want it to be more? Of course one problem with threads like this is, just like my text situation, there's so much context lacking for how we're describing the other person. You get to feel like your instincts are best despite what advice you get, but I'm really trying to avoid falling into some of the absolutely mental shit that goes through my mind sometimes.

You've no idea. It starts to panick at 26, and then 27's still kinda the 'non-30' mark, but 28? Bam. You're there. You're PRACTICALLY THIRTY RIGHT NOW. Also totally not voting in the poll until Friday btw, when I can join all the cool/popular kids in the 29 bracket ty.

I know, and the thought crosses my mind too, but I don't know if it's the case. She was taking the initiative to keep messaging me when she was on holiday - I was dialing it back a bit then cos y'kno, enjoy the holiday without having to think about me, I don't mind! You're on holiday! We've both acknowledged that she is very changeable in her mind, too. We'd generally seen each other about once a week or so though - sometimes at shared things, sometimes just us. Last two times(2 and 3 weeks ago, respectively) I went to see her at uni in London because she had lots of work to do etc and I thought well I don't mind just chilling while she works, and she seemed fine with that too. Ftr when 'at home' she's super close by me pretty much, but uni's like an hours journey in or out. They booked the holiday on a whim a few weeks before goin - now we've only been together for what...2 months or so. In my mind I was a bit 'oh, just go away for a week, thats ok' then I thought how silly I was being about that. But here's my thinking - if you know after seeing me for the last time that you're going away in a week(1 week), will then be away for that week(2 weeks, where we are now), and then be busy with placements the week you come back(3 weeks) which is also my birthday week - would you not have the foresight to consider some time to maybe see me? But that's ME. That's how *I* think. We are quite similar sometimes but we're also quite different too. She doesn't see any issue with cancelling - I have a massive issue. If I make a plan with someone one-on-one I'll be there 98-99%(and still 90-95% at group things) of the time because I respect their time and don't like cancelling. I wouldn't like it done to me, so I won't do it to them. She says she doesn't want to make a plan to see me then cancel because she knows I don't like it - that's fair. However one thing that sparked the argument yesterday is I told her to maybe make a plan and stick to it - how can you honestly have no ability to fit someone into your schedule? So that brings me to my bigger issue. Maybe I'm just not priority enough for her. I feel it time and again. That's fine, I guess, if it's the case. But then I can't be expected to have her as my priority all the time either - I don't mean a selfish 'only give as good as you get', but it can be draining or take effort to reply to every single little text(especially if they're 'closed' ones) but then if I don't she'll get upset that I'm ignoring her. The texts drain me. I'm talking to her without having her, it's a ghost of her for me, and it makes me miss her more. I like talking to people verbally or in person as preference usually! Maybe it's that she doesn't know what she wants. I just wish she'd talk a bit more maybe, open up or tell me. I sometimes feel like she thinks things but doesn't tell me, and when we do talk she ends up going into quite an 'I don't know' mode. But all these things are just the mental things that run through MY head. I don't tell her all of them, because I know that maybe they're not so rational. I wonder if she equally has as much going through hers. She's young too, and ironically very much like I was then in many ways, so I keep giving a sort of benefit of the doubt. I don't know how much I can continue doing it though. Is it a worthy benefit of the doubt? I text her this morning - just saying I was sorry for yesterday, that I miss her and am finding things a bit hard and that texts just don't convey enough for me, but I hope things won't be weird now. She said she got where I'm coming from but the whole argument(which is actually almost two slightly different arguments, as one crucial text didn't come through on my end)/me getting annoyed at her didn't help and just made her feel like she didn't want to see me. She says she doesn't want things to be weird either but feels like they are but when I asked how - 'idk just weird'. I just dunno man. I can't sort this out in a fucking text conversation. It's just lacking so much. I'm worried maybe she doesn't want this/us, and if so she might even avoid me some, but who knows. I don't want to walk away from this, I want this to work cos when I'm with her it feels really good, but is it terrible that I do think to myself that I could? Like, I do NOT want to. But I can. I'll be upset, but it won't destroy my life; I dunno if that's an age thing or what. It could seem like a bigger deal to her. I keep putting work and effort to avoid that though, even for the gripes I have. I think we can and just need to find a balance that works for us both, and I hope we can. I just feel a bit worried and guilty about myself thinking that I CAN walk away, even though I vehemently don't want to.

I think maybe I'm the opposite - I would like to talk a little in between but not just for the sake of it. In person I'd expect we'd talk lots! But having said that, we don't have to if we're comfortable, so I dunno. As for bringing it up - well, that's what I tried today and it went all sorts of wrong. It's difficult to have a conversation with somebody if they insist the only method of communication is going to be through texts and not phone calls for me - I feel texts just lose so much of what else is in a conversation if it's on any level of depth or feeling. The only alternative is talking about it when we're in person - but it's been bugging me for 2 weeks already and as I said I won't see her anytime soon that I know of. How the hell does one talk about something if you...can't talk! I don't know if she took the actual things I was writing in the texts into account or if it was just an argument. I just...I dunno. It's fucking horrible just sitting here not talking because texts make it feel worse, but I can't have a verbal conversation because she won't let me call her. The end to our 'conversation' this morning was trying to get me to admit I'd been rude at the start of the convo - me saying ok maybe and her saying pretty much that it's just not cool. I'll message her before I sleep saying I'm sorry we argued and I didn't want to, I just miss her and find it hard, and that texts don't convey enough for me. I don't wanna go to bed on it, and I'll just hope for the best from there and maybe pull back a bit for my own sake. She's going to think I'm ignoring/upset with her, but it's more that it's just currently hard for me otherwise with bitpart texts. EDIT: Didn't text her as I been up working later than I planned, will do it in the morning. Can't face another argument off it though.

I've not been at my best and a bit absent lately(nowt to worry about folks) in addition to a relationship barney(that one's out there in the Relationships etc) but I have just had a really fucking stupid but blindingly good moment today!

So, question: How often is reasonable to see your other half? How long have you been together? Also current things! Haven't seen my lady friend for 2 weeks(is only a trip into london for me, but she had uni work, and then she went on a holiday last week) and we only text when we're not together because she hates phone calls. Tbh I'd seen her 3 weeks ago and asked if I'd see her before her holiday - she didn't even seem sure til I suggested I'd come up and see her again a week later. I understand she's got uni and work to do and I don't mind just chilling with her whilst she does it but meh. She has placement this week(12 hour shifts) and I probably won't see her at all. It's also my birthday this week, and whilst I'm not explicitly doing anything I thought she'd maybe be thinking about trying to see me. It bugs me. I miss her, and texts just ain't the same, I wanted to call/speak to her just before she flew for holiday - she almost pretty much ignored it. She came back yesterday, text me a bit(was messaging whilst on holiday too) but no mention of trying to see me. I dunno if I'm going crazy, but I miss her, and tell her, and she says she misses me too - but sometimes I wonder how much effort she wants to make to see me. Resultantly I've had a massive text barney this morning - half fired off by me thinking she ignored me for an hour after I asked if I'd see her soon because her fucking message didn't come through(VERY unfortunate, evident only halfway through the conversation) and she thinking I was ignoring her a bit too. I want to see her, or at least talk to her on the phone, but she's said phone calls make her anxious and uncomfortable(we've had like 2-3 before, usually brief when there's been an issue) and she's absolutely unwilling to compromise on them. The thing is if she texts me(sometimes those awkward 'statement' texts that you can't neccessarily make a good reply to) I make an effort to text back most of the time. If I don't, I get worried she'll think I don't want to talk to her or something's wrong. Sometimes a conversation flows ok, sometimes it doesn't. I don't feel like we struggle when we're together, and in fact that's fantastic, but when we're apart sometimes all the crazyness creeps into my head. I'm thinking about saying I need to dial back texting her back - because tbh it does kinda hurt me having this half a text conversation but not having her, but I dunno. I think she's gonna take to it badly and think I'm just trying to punish her for the phone call thing. I feel like more often than not she's putting her before me than me before her, but I don't know if I'm just being crazy or what. I feel like I'm giving more than she is sometimes, though. I dunno if it's just the age thing or what, but I am starting to wonder if I can carry on doing it/giving as much. tl;dr - how would you feel if you'd only communicated with your other half through messages and nothing else for 2+ weeks? (powar aboose caveat: my posts may mysteriously edit or dissappear, along with quotes of them, in the event she ever discovers N-E and how much this place matters to me)

An excellent post for him, Ashley. I spoke to him a little bit earlier in the year after finding out about the terminal diagnosis - as many have said his humility and love in the face of his adversity was truly, truly, remarkable. I don't know where he found the strength from. I asked him at the time for a picture, that I might be able to post it for his memory. I'd planned to write a greater tribute both to him and the community, but I can't right now and tbh I think Ashley's original post covers it pretty well. At least however, I will say a thank you to MadDog. For being part of this community and contributing in some ways to our lives as we hopefully did to his. I was never particularly close to him personally, but he contributed across the board and was a noticeable part of the community that I respected and appreciated. I'll remember him most for the mafia games, and the occasional irreverent post, and in particular again, for his amazing strength in spite of what he was facing and the courage with which he took it on. _______________________________ I asked him for a photo, and he said he liked this one, I've come to quite like it myself - hopefully it'll be a smile and happiness we can remember him by. RIP MadDog. You will be missed, and you will not be forgotten. Thank you for all you gave to us at N-E

The 13th is the finalised date, right? I should well be there! Who do/don't we have for it?

When I originally posted I for some reason thought the bundle had ended on Monday, I dunno why I got that idea looking at it again now Seconding the Runbow love though. I bought it in a sale at some point when I was may under the influence, but I've later played a few times when my mates have been round and it's been really quite enjoyable! Three of us even tried to take on the Behemoth once(a sort of co-op run) and ended up on it for at least an hour or two - and was really intense stuff! Want to finish that one day, assuming it's even possible!

Does anyone know if you have to redeem the codes by a certain date? Bought the bundle but haven't actually touched my 3DS or Wii U in a while. Not sure if either have spaceseseses for things.

Inadvertently avoided all trailers and discussion and hype for this, was pleasantly surprised to realise it was out this week a week ago. Took Magnus Peterson as my fellow Marvel nerd. Abso-fucking-lutely fantastic. Just loved it. All of it. Love. Really really good, everywhere. Much better than I'd probably have expected if I came to be expecting something. Really tight. So excited I'm basically getting to do that again with X-Men in a few weeks too.

I am very disappointed in the delay news, and in Nintendo for allowing it to happen. I won't be buying an NX at this rate if it's simply a conventional console. What of how it'll affect the game, too? Will NX use a similar control setup to Wii U, or will the Wii U version not, as many other games have not, make use of the Wii U's unique design and gamepad that it was touted so hard on? Did it work for TP, though? I don't see why it would suddenly work for this. I agree in most - but how many of us who commited and bought a WiiU will really want to do the same for NX now? Their core is constantly shrinking imo. Zelda will not sell an NX to me after what the Wii U's been. Do you know part of me is even starting to feel like I won't even bother getting this game at launch right now.

I've gone off turn-based over time, and tbh a lot of what I used to play I did usually with hacks/cheats to pass it all through a bit faster. Having said that a game that for a reason I can't recall that really sticks out in my mind was Breath of Fire on GBA. I'm sure it was the first one I played but can't quite recall. Both were originally SNES made but got a slight updated remake for GBA and my sister bought one of them and I just remember smashing through it in a couple of days. Whilst it had a turn-based battle system it also had some sort of character ability/aspects to it that I found enjoyable from what I recall. My memory's hazy but it's weird how it sticks out for me. Otherwise I'd definitely echo trying Chrono Trigger, which I played on the DS. I didn't finish due to time and commitment but I really did enjoy the many hours I played of it. I'd recommend the Paper Mario games after you've done a couple of the others - whilst turn based the Mario RPG/TB games add a real time element to their battles that avoid it feeling too grindy at times.

Now I'm not saying it's Bolton, but...Bolton. I'm jesting. Tbh I went through the rigmarole a few years ago, and I don't know if I'd be able to stomach going through it all again. This time might be easier given I already own a house, but I'm not actually keen to ever sell this place. I think I'd been looking at houses(originally with friends who were gonna live with me) since 2012, almost buying something in 2013, that falling through, me getting fucked off with the whole thing for months, and eventually actually almost begrudgingly buying my current place because I'd got so burnt out on not having a house - finally completing Feb 2014. Having said that, I've grown to like my house over time. It's a bit of an arsehole to get to, stuck in a shit end of SE london and in a place that traditionally had a bad rep - but it's actually been good since I've been here. It's got fuck all around, but as a result it's actually kind of quiet. I think also because there's nothing here you're only really here if you live here and so nobody fucks around and acts up too much that I've seen. Could genuinely see myself raising a family down here. Ofc, it's London, and for the money it set me out I could have had something much bigger/nice up north. I've no driveway, but luckily the streets aren't marked(again, fuck all here) and I can park pretty easy most of the time. What kills me the most is how much the market's moved and gone up, I don't know what it'd estimate at now but I imagine it's gone up value wise by at least 40k. Whilst it's not really money, it still feels mad. I don't think I'd ever sell though - even if I end up with someone long term and buying something else, I'd probably keep this. The only massive downside to it all - how much fucking money I owe -.-

Ohhhh, didn't know the joke. I am failing my interwebs prowess. For me? I...I guess I just wanted to know. I was actually expecting her to tell me it's a bit too quick for that(it was like...3 weeks, if that, since our original talk about actually liking each other). Now I suppose the question itself forced the topic - not 'where/what are we' but 'can i call you my girlfriend' sort of showed my intent and commitment, but I didn't feel if she'd said no or not yet or let's see what becomes that we'd have called it a day there. I have a feeling she's worried now that I'm falling for her harder than she is me, but I recognise that any relationship takes time and work - and for me the commitment is more to make the effort to make that work, if that makes sense? I mean, I do really like her, but I'm almost still thinking it's too good to be true that I can almost walk away from it if I need to. I think the age perspective/gap makes a difference. You seem, too, to be able to be prepared to walk away from it. I almost think that confidence of knowing what you want should/would be enough to have the conversation sensibly - but again the difference with me is that she's so much younger, I wouldn't have been this...removed? nonchalant? indifferent? if I was still her age. I'm not any of those words, but I can't explain it. I'm absolutely prepared to take it or leave it without being too hurt either way right now, but again that's maybe because it feels almost unreal in some senses.

I'd ask the ladies to weigh in on this one if they're about but my advice is - keep it simple. I literally just asked this girl one question and that was it - got the job done and didn't need to express any doubts or mentalness that may or may not have actually been going on in my head. Even being 'official' doesn't mean you're going to last forever etc so it's in some ways not too big a deal, though I think knowing my own mentality it can kinda feel a bit more than it is. Try not to make it a huuuuuge conversation imo, play it cool. It's easier for me to say - but just ask her something like - 'So...is this just a casual thing or can it be something more?'(phrase it better than I can lol) - one simple question that hopefully gets you a simple answer(tbh I didn't actually get a verbal answer ) and if it isn't then that's it for you if you really feel that way. If it were me, I'd probably just be happier knowing whether it was or wasn't, rather than caring too much either way - I know that sounds weird but I was easy and more keen to just sorta know where we stood, I coulda stuck with it not being a big thing. Asking the question and just knowing where you stand; you might be able to keep it as an open option if you're happy with that rather than losing her completely. #NoIdeaIfThisIsHelpfulIOnlyJustStartedDoingThis P.S - I'm curious as it never came up - what ARE your rules of dating that you referred to with Moogle, @Shorty?

Ok that's cool man! I'll ask everyone to respect you asking for requests to not be made for now, and you can let people know if/when you have spaces going(in case you're giving preference to folks like Goron etc). I've changed my 23rd July and 20th August from Nos to Maybe/No's - I might leave in the evening. Outside of the original 30th I think the 13th August is actually best for me though.

Oh I hadn't assumed that you'd have presumed, but just want it clear to all and make sure Zell's comfortable with putting limits as needed! I didn't intend to take up space last year, and can easily avoid that again this year. Yep! I'm seconding the new date calls too. The amount of effort and commitment you've shown over the years coming from Denmark, I'm sure a few of us can certainly make allowances. What works best for you Danny, I think most of us will go from there?

Btw, I just want to check with @Zell on his opinions of things going similar to last year - I know you've posted the thread, but I don't intend, nor hope anyone else does, to expect to impose on your hospitality without you saying that's ok or more importantly not so. The thread seems to imply it in places, but I want to be clear it's not cool if it's not cool with you.

I've been sleeping harder than ever lately this year, but this time I'm gonna make sure I'm proper rested up for the meet and try to avoid it! I'll most likely fail miserably, but good intentions and all. I'd also say Shorty's post is a fairly accurate representation of things. That game sounds cool @Cube, I'd definitely be interested.

I'm maybe about this eve, but I've no context of any of this update and haven't PS4'd let alone Destiny'd much in the last few weeks. If not tonight I'd definitely be up for trying some of the new stuff out with folks at some point if they want and my light level's good enough! I'll try and give Shorty's summary post a read when I get in in a bit to catch up on what's new etc.

Been waiting for this to pop up - I am down on all grounds. Will do availability in a bit. EDIT: After a mini-panic attack that I forgot to RSVP my friends' wedding, and now finding out it isn't actually until like December, my availability is up! EDITEDIT: Forgot bride's birthday tho -.-