It was my daughter's birthday yesterday. Just after I got home I went in the kids' room as Caleb was shouting for help to get down from the top bunk. There was a hamster in its cage on top of some shelves.
Esther has bought a hamster. I am more angry than I have ever been with Esther. We've joked about it, but I have always maintained that I didn't want one, and now there is one. It is a huge commitment - cleaning, feeding, looking after it for years. There is time and money involved. If Esther has all this spare time why is our house not clean and tidy? Esther has entered into this without a real discussion with me, and then asked the kids to keep it hidden from me.
I feel really betrayed (and I know that sounds overly dramatic). How would Esther react if I just got rid of some of her stuff I don't like? I've joked about it, and so has she, so is that enough to justify it? Obviously, no.
The above all sounds trivial, but it is symbolic of an ignoring of my views. Anyways, I get the feeling that I'm being uncool about this and acting like a douche, but it has really got under my skin.