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  1. I have facebook still. i have been on it recently since covid has died down a bit. but while it was a Big Deal I was offline.  Tired of seeing ablism, conspiracy nonsense constantly.  Exposing yourself to people that would basically see you die rather than wear a damn piece of cloth on your face on the daily is not OK.  I still try to ration it so im not just randomly scrolling for hours every day.

    I have messenger purely because i have friends on there that i literally have no other ability to contact.  Without that I'd probably have deleted my account a while ago.

    Twitter is a hatefest.  Don't care much for instagram (always felt like a duplication of facebook for me), snapchat is full of creeps and pervs.

  2. 2 minutes ago, Ashley said:


    Don't forget theres also the dire lack of job opportunities and The Troubles... all relative lol.  I know you wouldnt get a garage for that in london.  Contextually you'd be doing well to get £10-12 an hour round here.

  3. 20 hours ago, nightwolf said:

    The difference is perhaps that we've had covid and the market has been...weird at best. 

    We also can't do 5%, at least nothing that I can find that would be worthwhile. 

    We are looking at all routes obviously. But with my health, help is needed. 

    Yeah covid has shaken up a lot, lots of job instability that wasnt a thing pre covid.  I dont think 5% deals are really a thing anymore, it only happened to be a deal nationwide did at the same, and you had to save all your money with them for the deposit too.

    Oh and NI market being significantly different to english makes a big difference... my house was only 70k lol

  4. i f*ckin hate work


    They loaded more work than i can physically do. i do emails for the vast majority of my day. 80% of my day if i DO NOT take a lunch break, 95% if i do).  Monthly reports usually split with everyone, but i take probably more than the rest because 1 my skills and 2 im not taking calls so they feel im doing "less work" LOL.  So these monthly reports need done every month, and a yearly one end of march. currently working on februarys, which are done early march. But i literally don't think i have the time to do all of the monthly reports before the next months are due... so im literally never going to even get caught up from the backlog let alone keep it running.

    Then bosses boss (my immediate boss on sick) comes to me and is like oh we need the yearly report for x service by end of week (last week) and im just like.... RIGHT.

    so I do the report. its done by first thing on thursday.... thursday before lunch she messages me very politely (i think she must be scared of me and has heard of my rep of being slightly too honest lol) asking if they can be done by thursday close so she can check on friday to send.  So im like OF COURSE.  Sat on my ass for the rest of the day doing emails and nothing else for a damn change.  Sent her the stuff at the very last minute lol

    I sent the report over and she queries a number not adding up (i know why it does but its not my job/cant be arsed/its her job) so i just screenshot the raw data, total it and send it to her as a response.  I am not a data analyst.  I have been denied the opportunity multiple times.  they fuckin think im doing it and not being paid for it they can THINK AGAIN.

    Think she looked at it for half an hour couldnt get her head around it and just said itll do as it is and took out the total.  this is someone thats paid prob close to 40k and is supposed to have data analysis/extraction experience.  unreal.  


    And the funniest most hilarious thing?  We are no longer short staffed in the office (im working from home) and the rest of the team are sitting twiddling their thumbs. :blank:

  5. I legit just went to my building society and was like mortgage plz..! i had a save to buy account with them that gave me great interest at the time, and allowed me to contribute 5% deposit

    it's very weird this thread coming up, when it started i was mid SCREAM panicking about my legal shit not going through (offer accepted just after december, mortgage arranged new years eve) and it didn't come through til june 14th.  I also can NOT believe its been 5 years

    I am *not* keen to move at all the idea of selling makes my skin crawl :D


    also this thread reminded me to go online and look at renewing my term hahah so thanks whoever bumped it kekeke

  6. 13 hours ago, nightwolf said:

    It's taken two years, 4 cancellations, more than I care to think about re-bookings and countless emails, only 6 people and social distancing. But we did it.


    you both are so cute, and that dress is STUNNING on you :heart:

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  7. I dont buy the "confusing" argument.  I don't buy the "government arent following the rules why should we" arguement.  Like really how difficult is it to be sensible.  Don't travel, don't see anyone unneccesarily, keep your bubbles small.

    I havent seen ANYONE except for my parents (medical bubble) and my colleagues (neccesity) in well over a year and have spent the vast majority of the past year in my house alone.  I really really am just getting sick to the back teeth of people complaining about having to do 10 days or whatever isolation, because it mildly inconveniences them. 

    I totally appreciate the people who are truly suffering, who have no income etc.... but in my experience so far the ones crying about "mental health" and "people are dying of cancer too" are the ones that are flouting the rules and making this thing longer for all of us.  :blank:

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  8. On 20/03/2021 at 5:51 PM, EEVILMURRAY said:

    Fuck 'em up Wendy! /Butters

    I've been doing some shafting myself...

    We've had a couple of agency starters this week, the other two people have been training them, I'll be mentoring new chap on Monday. One was meant to come on Thursday but got offered a perm job elsewhere. But the fisting I've tried to set in motion is that before our dept shifted over we have this one agency lass who's been helping us out for nigh on a year, so she knows her shit. When we ask why she was taken away  to previous seniors we get a shrug and vague bullshit. In most recent meeting with current seniors I ask about her again, because I think finally they've realised how assraped they've been by being given this dept in such a state. 

    So I ask about her again and we finally hammer home how essential she is - she can take the place of the other person who didn't come in last week with only the slightest bit of training in something she didn't have to do before. The new seniors seemed stunned (as was we and her) that this wasn't an option before, and we it was mentioned that if we told her that she could call her agency colleague, say she wasn't happy with the switch and would like to come back, then seniors couldn't stop us - wink wink. So we did and I think it's worked out.

    From what we can gather is that previous seniors pulled her away because they didn't want to get new agency staff themselves, and let us flounder needing more new staff than we have current because at that point it wasn't their problem. We've even been effectively bordered off by those blue divider things in the corner of the office.


    Lots of roles on the NUH vacancies for PA/PPA if y'all wanna join us. Sadly with a soon to happen consultant shake up, I'm going to be losing my two faves unless I apply for a different PA role, however they're based at a different hospital which is too much hassle to get to/from to make it worth the pay bump

    fuck me you actually asked a manager to do something for the good of the service and they did it?  Thats a new one!!!

  9. I've accepted redeployment.  They've basically bullied me into it by overloading me with work.

    theyre gonna lose a foundational member of the team that started it from the ground, and knows the system inside and out, at a high level, and with skillset well above my pay grade.  I'm a band 3 (skilled post non management 21k) that knows more than a band 7 (high management 44k) who has worked for the dept the same number of years.  I can interpret complex data, make it look meaningful, design reports, fix problems and find even the most obscure piece of data from out of my ass.  The band 7, head of service, doesnt know the password for the reporting tool.

    What i know, and what they don't, gives me licence to fuck around. :laughing:

    I told them i had to validate some numbers in a report today (granted they are complex and sometimes do have issues so this is more than believable) but they didnt need any work, i just sat for an hour doing a couple of emails. I've got all of the february backlog to clear through.... I dunno i could probably pull it off in a week...maybe? (which is pretty speedy even for a data analyst) now its gonna be 2.5. This is what happens when you screw someone over that gave their entire career to you and your department.

    My immediate boss is fuckin MAD.  I text him and he told me to ring him straight away... Hes off on sick from stress and this was all done on purpose while he was away.  My colleagues know what i contribute and its just pissing them off too.  Its all work that will be handed over to them making them even more overwhelmed.

    Never in nearly 16 years have i regretted my career choice, but im starting to now

  10. 6 minutes ago, nightwolf said:

    Thanks gang. 

    At the time I just felt really lost and just wanted to through it out there. I'm doing ok, all things considered. The reality is (and my doctor confirmed) considering how unwell I am, my life is pretty decent.

    I can't say I don't get sad as fuck sometimes, but I'm getting there. 

    I see that you've been really successful with your career, that must be such a boost.  AND achieving that despite all that garbage you are suffering.  You're one of the gooduns. :heart:

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  11. I'm sitting on the fence right now in my job.  I hae a decision to make very very soon.  Every time I think about it, it fills me with anxiety and stress.

    I could potentially take someone to tribunal for the way ive been treated but she has a way of getting out of these things (i've witnessed her go through at least 3 and somehow she gets to stay in her job despite losing one of the cases).   I have to get my union involved.  I don't know if i have the energy to do all of that without making myself seriously ill. 

    I could accept ill health redeployment and hope i get somewhere ok (anywhere is going to be an improvement over where I am), and be rid of her. 


    the latter is probably going to be the easier answer for me, but it feels so wrong that she gets off with it time and time again.  Should I shoulder the weight and stress of a tribunal, with potentially not enough proof?  Should I morally just let it go for her to bully other people..?  I really don't know.  I'm a very fragile human right now I don't even know if i can handle the decision bit let alone anything else :(


  12. 7 hours ago, nightwolf said:

    Knowing how I feel as a patient, I am not surprised by any of this. I've been to two major hospitals for my care and I always say the way the "admin staff" apologies that's definitely too broad but hopefully you get what I mean, always always always let me down in comparison to how the doctors/nurses are.

    It seems there's a bunch of lovely folk who want to help me and are repeatedly shot down because of shit you describe. Nearly died because of it. So fuck her, punt into a volcano. 

    Generally speaking the admin staff on the lower levels (we are talking non management, maybe lower management) are not bad spuds.  Obviously there are the exception to the rule in every dept.  But we are basically bound to the rules, bound to systems that DO NOT WORK.  Management won't spend money to adequately staff services, fix technical issues, sort out safety issues, or even look at waiting lists.  Any time they do anything positive (which is usually too late) they make us feel like we should be grateful for the gift they have bestowed upon us :blank:  have had several GPs and other medical staff at a loss for words at the position im in, and I don't doubt you are the same. 

    Incidentally we had a suicidal patient on the phone today that no professional wanted to deal with.  We are admin staff.  We dont have the professional training nor the emotional training to deal with that.

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  13. Head of dept is pushing to get rid of me.  Implied I don't do a full days work (which is bullshit). we have 3 staff on long term sick, 2 agency people being let go at the end of the month.  My occ health interview this month which, i assume, starts proceedings to have me moved.... so they then are down to 3 members of staff out of a total of 9.  It's FUCKING INSANITY. She is doing a disservice to the department and the remaining staff who are literally falling apart at the seams.  The staff that have been here since day 1 of covid, taken shit tons of abuse from both staff and patients alike. 

    If i fight this redeployment and win, sure i might get to stay, but she will have a target on my back and she'll be watching for a single mistake to have me fired.  There are so many laws in place to protect disability.  People being able to go part time or have duty changes to suit a disability etc.. but if someone wants rid of you theyll just find another way.  I'm a damn hard worker, i have skills and abilities way above my post.  All for nothing and completely thankless.

    I'm worn out. 

    This is a picture of the NHS and how it treats the wellbeing of its staff.

  14. 23 hours ago, nightwolf said:

    You know sometimes when you just find something out and you need to speak out but you just don't know how/where? I've felt that heavily today. So perhaps here is the way. 

    A couple of weeks ago I went to a private doctor over my health. The TL;DR is that it was very good. But ultimately  I need to stick with the NHS to have my surger(ies). In the conversation I was asked if my mother had ever had a BRCA test as I have not.

    In the end I had to ask my dad (my mother passed from aggressive breast cancer in the early 90s). My dad is nothing short of fantastic when it comes to sharing knowledge about my mum even though its still obviously really hard for him to discuss. Normally I'm fairly OK with whats discussed. But today broke my heart. My dad spoke of how she discovered the cancer, how I was just 3 months old and how it developed  from there. She had radiation on her ovaries and they were broken that the choice for more children was taken from them. 

    Knowing my own choice is gone, its a rough road. My mum died in a lot of pain and I know my dad gets really upset seeing what I'm dealing with. I don't have cancer. But I now need a full hysterectomy and bowel surgery. I'll never be able to have children and its not going to be an easy road going forward.

    I don't really have a way to end this comment. I just kind of needed it somewhere. 

    this breaks my heart.  If I could, I'd give you my fertility in a heartbeat.  So fucking cruel for that to be taken from you both. 

    Love ya girl <3

  15. 4 hours ago, Happenstance said:

    As expected I had a meeting today after being un-furloughed and was immediately told I'd be taking charge of our big IT transfer this year. Nothing wrong with that in itself but still drives me nuts that I was furloughed during the initial stages of all of this so I now know nothing of what's gone on or how far we are and will spend the first few weeks playing catch up.

    sounds like pretty typical public service level organisation to me.  I'm sure you are more than capable though Haps. :D

  16. 3 hours ago, gaggle64 said:

    The Covid year has been a banner time for businesses, organisations, and the government easily doing things they previously insisted were impossible when they finally had no other choice. 


    guaranteed when shit goes back to normal they'll go back to the same ableist ways they once adopted too. 2020/1 has been a fuckin eye opener from a disabled persons perspective.

  17. 1 minute ago, EEVILMURRAY said:

    And it will be surprising how willing they will be for home working after this has settled down too I bet.

    I'd tell them to fuck off if they tried cancelling my leave, let them try that "let's pull together as a team." Bollocks they push when giving you more work for once

    the office situation is a problem at the moment hence why i think they are getting rid of the agency staff.  but that doesnt help in the short term.  I will be expected to come to work once the restrictions are lifted though.  I don't really want to WFH long term.  I like the seperation of work and home, because i do spend a LOT of time at home anyway in general.  That stress can stay away from my home environment!  But its better than doing nothing when there are no other options

  18. 26 minutes ago, EEVILMURRAY said:


    I knew i loved you for a reason lol


    I did some digging and messaged some of my colleagues.... sh*t is going down.  We have 8 staff (2 agency, 6 permanent) + 1 manager as standard.  Manager is off sick, 2 perm staff are off (one sick and one stuck in Australia) AND they are letting go of the two agency staff because there isn't any money left. All the remaining 4 staff's leave has been cancelled. Legit crisis.  I'm only getting to work from home because they need me. 

    I had a feeling of distrust in my bones when i woke up this morning and i wasn't far off the mark. 

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  19. 7 hours ago, nightwolf said:

    My Dad got his first dose yesterday, hoping that my mother will have it some time soon.

    The irony is that my parents are fairly young (mid-50s) and I have a list of illnesses as long as my arm. It absolutely makes sense for my dad to get it because he's been in hospital recently with an illness. So realistically my brain has gone "well I'm very ill, more so than my dad so where is mine?".

    Likely due to my age compared to my relatively healthy low 50s mother, she'll get it first. Honestly the whole system baffles me, speaking to other fairly chronically ill folk it seems the same way for them too. 

    I am however glad my parents are getting it el pronto. They really want to see my sisters second baby when she is born, I'm not entirely sure they will be able too near birth, but at least they'll be relatively safe to fly when the time comes. (Which may be before I even get my first jab, who knows)


    Your dad must be in group 6?  I know NI hasn't got anywhere near to the level of mid 50s "healthy" people. My mum is in that category and is waiting anxiously. My dad is 65, i think he falls under group 5, he just had his first vacc last week.


    clinical risk isnt determined by severity of disease or pain unfortunately, its immunology risk.  I consider myself fairly significantly disabled now, but 3 years ago i wouldn't have appeared to be at all disabled but still CEV.

    You should check the criteria and see if you fall under the moderate risk group.

  20. 4 hours ago, EEVILMURRAY said:

    It's amazing how many companies pre-pandemic said people couldn't work from home until this time last year... even more amazing is NHS saying you cannot, they're practically making loads do it here. 


    Selfish update: didn't get the other job, which wasn't a massive letdown, but the feedback I got was, apart from the usual "we had other strong candidates", to brush up on the values of NUH and make more examples relevant to NHS jobs, which all but one of my examples were. Think I dodged a bullet there.

    Had original whispers that other PAs for our department would be moving over to the office I'm in, which turned out to be incorrect, but because a different division has taken our department back, we're being feng sui'd into a corner and bordered off from the rest, and losing our agency support. So until they hire more (which is apparently happening eventually) we'll have something like 5x5m space away from everyone else, which will mostly contain me as the other ladies from home / whatever drama may happen with schools and messes their kids around. 

    Seems to depend ENTIRELY on who your manager is. each dept is so different.  Our service lead and her dept are treated fairly and we as the call centre are treated like absolute shit and thats a very common practice within admin nhs.  you are introduced as your pay band before your name.  I'm a mere band 3 not deserving of the "luxury" of working from home.

    It makes absolutely no financial sense to have paid me full pay for going on 6+ months now when i could have actually been doing things.  My immediate boss is now off on what seems to be relatively long term sick (its been a month now) and i guarantee the fact im not there carrying a lot of his work is a factor.

    Sounds a bit like that post you applied for had someone already doing it as a temp or someone they knew that they had in mind for the position.  Have seen it soooooooooooo many times in my 16 years in the nhs honestly.  They have to go out and do all the interview process for legal fairness, yet they know exactly who they want and someone who isnt in the panel preps them for the interview.  Actually its unusual for that NOT to be the case.  More often than not you get in by agency and prove yourself worthy then you apply for a post (as i did in 2007)

  21. 15 minutes ago, Glen-i said:

    It's weird, ever since I got my first dose, I've been slightly looking forward to April where I'll get my second, despite hating needles.

    My guess is it's a feeling of actual progress happening.


    Yesssssss I definitely am looking forward to my second dose, if a little nervous.  I had a terrible reaction first time.  Will be interesting to see if my reaction is any different this time with some level of immunity, but I suppose thats not always how it works.

    I will only really be able to rest easy when my immediate family get theirs. But progress is progress.  My dad (65) and sister (dental nurse) have both had one, but my mum's that bit younger (59) so she has to wait a bit yet.

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