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    Love? Relationships? Boy girl stuff? Complaints and appraisals! Gifs be welcome.

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    So today I finally mustered up the courage to tell my friend how I felt. I simply told it straightforwardly, and she said she appreciated that since she's apparently as hopeless with all that jazz as me. :heh: She said she'd had the same thoughts, but that'd she'd like some time to think about it, which was of course completely fine. I also stressed that I was fine with staying friends if she wasn't interested and that I didn't want anything to be awkward, and she was completely on board with that. It felt good to just be open and honest about it and skipping all the awkwardness and tension, and I got the distinct feeling she felt the same way, which was really nice. :) Really, right now I'm just so happy that I finally told her. It's a personal victory. :smile:

    Paedophiles, dirty old men and the age of consent

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    Hell, once you hit 15 in Denmark, it's free game. There are probably some laws regarding teacher-student relationships, but I'm not up to speed on them.

     

    It was also an interesting point raised earlier: A lot of these people probably genuinely care for the target of their affection. Whether MJ actually did abuse any children or not, I think it's safe to say he genuinely loved them. It's no wonder he was drawn to them with the absolute shitfest of a horrible childhood he had. Poor man.

    Paedophiles, dirty old men and the age of consent

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    Many people (and I mean psychologists) view paedophilia as a sexuality. In the same way that hetero's are attracted to people of the opposite sex, and homo's are attracted to people of the same sex, paedo's are attracted to pre-pubescent children. In this respect we should condemn people for being paedophiles. However like Dannyboy, said, we should condemn them for acting out in it. I wouldn't condemn a man for being a homosexual, but I would condemn him for raping another man to fulfil his sexual desires. Obviously a gay man can have consensual sex, this isn't the case for paedophiles.

     

    Unless we start pimping out Janette Krankie.

     

    I assume you meant to negate this sentence. And that's exactly my point: Paedophilia is simply attraction to children, which is in itself hardly wrong in any way. The problem is that paedophiles really have no practical way of fulfilling their desires in a morally defensible way - perhaps with the exception of artificially created child porn, e.g. drawings, fiction etc., but even that is outlawed in many places, something which only proves to me that people are incapable of properly judging exactly what makes paedophilia a problem: It's not the attraction in itself, it's the consequences that inevitably arise from acting upon it. Hence why I believe we should help paedophiles either get rid of that attraction (if that even possible - not to mention ethical) or learn how to live a decent, morally just life with it.

    Paedophiles, dirty old men and the age of consent

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    Another thing - and this might be very controversial: I actually feel sorry for paedophiles. They indubitably know that they're seen as inhuman monsters, and it's essentially because of something they don't have any control over. I don't like the fact that we see the concept of being physically attracted to a child as morally wrong in and of itself. If they simply keep it to themselves and don't actually do anything to any children, I must honestly say I'm not bothered. Of course, the paedophiles we hear about don't keep it to themselves, they act on it, and that's when it becomes morally wrong. I'm curious as to why they're driven to do such despicable things. Is the drive too overpowering? Do they perhaps feel forced into that role by society's prejudices? In either case, my point is that I would like to see more support for paedophiles (good luck to the guy who has to sell that slogan :heh:). They say that prevention is the best cure, so why don't we focus more on trying to help paedophiles so they don't do these horrible deeds in the first place? Maybe there is support somewhere, but in that case it's hidden away in favour of painting paedophiles as the worst beings on Earth, and I find that rather unfair. It's acting on it that makes them horrible people, not simply being it.

    Everyday Sexism

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    When you guys were doing teacher training, what was the man-woman ratio there? Here on the class teacher side, women are the majority, but there are still quite a lot of men too. I hope this is a sign of the times changing, i.e. the gender imbalance evening out...

     

    And no, no-one in the university or the practices has showed any bit of sexism towards either gender. Men and women are both seen as equally capable teachers. Although, I wonder how it is with the actual teaching...I mean someone wrote that in his class, the girls were much more active than the boys, and in his female colleague's class the situation was reversed. Raises the question whether teachers easily favour the opposite gender, whether they're aware of it or not?

     

     

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    What comes to sexism experienced by women, the link @Aimless left like a swift backstabber in the night is quite horrible. Wonder what age these "men" / boys are...Anyway, these kinds of accounts, just like Eenuh's, really baffle me. I don't know any men who behave like this, nor would I think of acting like that myself. Still, such "men" do seem to exist and they clearly have no respect for women whatsoever, hence their disgusting behaviour...

     

    Now the problem is that all men are labelled due to such douchebaggery, i.e. "men do this, men do that, men are such assholes". Not all men, but some. Yet the stigma is already there; "because some other men behave like total wankholes, you must be one too". No, I'm not, and I'm tired of such allegations...

     

    So what are the results of all this? Even proper men resigning from their gender, from being a "man" or in any way masculine, because the connotations are already so negative. In other words, all aboard the feminist choo choo train, so that we can all be happy and feminine together... >_> No. That's just plain sick behaviour, shaming one gender into pieces...

     

    So the problem is, what can we do about this? There clearly is a massive divide in how men behave, and the douchebags are holding the gender for ransom. They're all the publicity the male gender gets, i.e. very negative. Just compare to femininity and womanhood, which is connected to motherhood, empowerment (...), sensitivity etc. If a woman is described as a feminine one, it's a compliment on her appearance / sensuality / whatever. Masculinity, however, is not a compliment, but more of a way of making fun and ridiculing people. Being described as "manly" has automatic connotations to some sort of over-the-top machismo, i.e. it has only comedy value, nothing else.

     

    Overall, it's rather sad. Yes, gender is just a part of a person, but still, I'd prefer mine as something positive, and not as the pile of feces it has been turned into.

     

    Any thoughts?

     

    I recognise a lot of what you mention there, Ville. The problem isn't even just that some men's bad behaviour gives other men a bad reputation, it's that our current culture assumes men to be physically and sexually violent. We're still expected to live up to the gender roles of manly, masculine men, but at the same time we're told that manly, masculine men are dangerous and bad people.

     

    One place in particular where I have also noticed a sharp divide between the genders is in the views on sexuality. Female sexuality is seen as something positive, beautiful, empowering and liberating. Male sexuality, on the other hand, is still seen as something sleazy, perverted and almost morally wrong. Women watching a male stripper? Woo, you go, girl! Men watching a female stripper? Disgusting sleazebags!

     

    I don't. It seems like such a flawed idea. "There are more men/women in this industry, we need to recruit more women/men to balance it out." That's only going to lead to positive discrimination. It doesn't take into consideration that it may be the case that more women want to work in teaching, and more men in construction. I don't think want to live in a world where we have to have a 50/50 split everywhere, I'd rather live in a world where we didn't even pay attention to somebody's gender or the gender ratio in an industry.

     

    I agree 100%. As long as we keep viewing people as genders instead of individuals, we'll never have equality.

    Drunken thread ftw!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Posted · Edited by Dannyboy-the-Dane

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    I 'm airry sir but i know i a girl called zoe amaritn aBSAD SHEEAall like awawaw yeah i like himand so i ob'nt eant;t yo derink like thian anymore wooolooooQQQ!!!!

     

    hguess whos fdrunk i a,m!! aww yeah RTom Bakre arelll yeah awww rught u sdodn't knoew me i'm gonna wright i story abput nachodicojesus about how he s[pread the ove of disco all over the plantand you're not gonna have a part if ut cayse i said so!! vso a wwww yeayhQ!!!! what!??

     

    I daresay you are capable of deducing the present state of affairs, gentlemen; it is indeed correct, I am inebriated.

     

    I apologise, my good sir, but I am acquainted with a certain female. However, she was rather upset and inconsolable, so she did not take my fancy.

     

    I must once again draw attention to the fact that I am, indeed, inebriated. I also wish to express my delight with a certain make of wristwatch. In case you were unaware, I intend to put to paper a tale of a certain divine being preaching the enjoyment of 1970s style dance music across the entire globe, but I must regrettably inform you that I refuse you part in this project. I beg your pardon?

     

    This is the best result my drunk/gentleman translator could produce. I am curious as to how accurate it is.

     

    EDIT: The latter part of the second paragraph might not be related to the girl's mood, but might instead be pointing out a reason for why martinist won't drink a certain amount or in a certain way anymore. It's a bit difficult to tell.

    Everyday Sexism

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    I hasten to add though that the woman was wayward in her condemnation of feminism as a whole, her grief should be directed at bad feminism.

     

    Having watched more of her videos, I believe the reason she targets feminism as a whole is that she views the theoretical grounds for feminism as inherently flawed and inadequate in its description of gender issues.

    Everyday Sexism

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    I'd hardly call it inflammatory, though. It was merely meant (on my part, at least) as a lighthearted poke at the fact that the site does give off an unfortunate impression about sexism. I completely agree that it's a minor thing. It's merely a symptom of the real problem.

    Everyday Sexism

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    Sexism against men can be just as bad' date=' but in most instances it isn't. I think it's kind of belittling to fight this hard for men to be seen as equally put-down. It's just not true. Just about everyone in this thread is saying "It happens! Not [i']to me[/i], but it certainly happens!"

     

    I don't see the need for men to be so determined to have their fair share of whining. I mentioned yesterday that my experience of 'sexism' is that people assume I'm doing a woman's job -- now, that's sexist to women, because the implication in what I've experienced is "you are doing a lesser job, and a less important job." Aligning that to women means that most people (and this is including women who have said this sort of stuff to me) think women don't do the trickier jobs.

     

    Again, this is Australia, where it's acceptible to say wogs and lebs (but not aboriginies/ayer's rock).

     

    To reiterate; this isn't really being discriminated because I'm male, rather just being made to feel uneasy due to preconceived notions of gender roles. This is in no way the same thing as enduring wolf-whistles, groping, or anything Eenuh's mentioned.

     

    The problem goes much deeper than that.

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