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Not quite wasted time, you've learnt how to do the role and a lot of those skills will be transferable to "number 1" in another company. Recently did this myself, spent 3+ years, finally about to get the role, pulled from me, ended up leaving that company for a higher role and 6 months in and I'm now doing an even larger role. It would have taken me another 2 years to get even close at my former company. I'd say either stick as your are now and soak up even more or move on. You owe them nothing.

One of my favourite games of all time! Good choice!

We had the same. A person put an offer on ours and immediately folded. Apparently some are doing it to give themselves time. Weird tactic but whatever! We are now finally getting the mortgage going, it's weird not hearing anything for days at a time I want constant check ins but that's house buying I suppose. Our seller has already nearly finished packing!

I finally commissioned @Eenuh to do a portrait for us. Gah its so good. (Eenuh I've taken the image from your FB so its got the copyright - I hope thats suitable!)

Yup! My recent appointment with a private consultant showed that my pain tolerance is through the roof. So when I told my NHS doctor my pain levels instead of him using that AND all my records and scans he just went "well you deal just fine." My private consultant was like...wtf. So that's fun! Compared to here it's remarkably rare that I complain about the pain I'm in outside of my own home. Most of the time my partner only knows because I'll pull a face or make some kind of accidental noise. It sucks.

Well things moved fast. The offer was accepted! In the end we saw 5 houses and felt that was enough, we very easily knew what we wanted. So now we moved forward with the solicitors tomorrow. Having a broker so far has been super useful!

Thanks! In the end we saw 5 places and put an offer in. We have a fight with another family/couple so I guess we will find out if we need to keep looking.

We got our agreement in principle sorted! Just a little over how much we were hoping for. We also saw a couple of houses Tuesday and loved one of them, we are cautious as someone maybe put an offer in so we are seeing three more tomorrow. Question: how many house viewings is too many? Because of covid we are only getting about 15-20 minutes per viewing argh!!

Might have gotten the wedding photos back...

Yes and no. Its a really loaded question and entirely depends on the day and subject. I'm not entirely sure I'm going to give a clear cut, non-rambling answer here. But perhaps everyone will get the gist of it. For yes, that's more my personal life. I definitely feel like in my personal life, my relationship, how I want our lives to go together we've got that down and I feel like the 30 year old I am. Specifics might make me feel like I don't. For instance, I definitely don't 100% know how to buy a house, but we want it! Otherwise, the only bit right now that makes me really go "wtf do I do here? Where's the adult adults" in my personal life is everything to do with my health because there's so much misconception and red tape with it that I spent days wondering if I'm adult enough to deal with any of it! Professionally is entirely another story. I've just moved up in my career and I've never felt more like a child than I currently do. It's a steep learning curve and I've really struggled with the whole thing, even with really good feedback from my peers and boss! I spent so much time thinking I needed to get to this position that I didn't far enough ahead and now I have no idea what to do going forward. So ultimately I'm doing what works and going from there. Not knowing is kind of scary, have I spent all this time gaining this career and then I'm not cut out for it? Should I change careers? Do I keep going because that's what is expected!? Ultimately, a lot of my life has happened because of circumstance and trying to find my feet and seeing what works. I won't lie and say I wish I was still working in NYC with a company or traveling the world saving the whales (or red pandas in this case), but you're definitely not on your own. I find that a lot of my new colleagues think I have it all figured out and I really, really don't. I don't know if for me that feeling will ever truly go away. I'm sort of ok with that, there's so many paths to life and so much to learn (and we should all be constantly learning) that it feels kind of expected?

That's exactly what it is, I don't know whyyyy because he's never been out of work, but all we got was banks need 12 months for agency. Thankfully that's a month and a bit away, so we're safe. The main thing was that the banks were willing to give us a mortgage and also for the right amount. We were looking at about 270-280.

I am sending all of the love that I have to your cousin. I am grateful that both my partner and my family roughly understand my condition, but it wasn't always that way. I have pretty terrible memories of going to appointments alone and suffering back in 2016/17. My partner has been amazing, but going to the doctor and them explaining to him what was actually wrong horrified him. Realistically I shouldn't be working, I've been in therapy twice over it and getting more fibroids and cysts again has brought me a lot of pain, which was only truly confirmed by my private doctor. He was amazed I was able to walk, never mind go to the gym. I'm fortunate that I have a high tolerance to allow me the life I have, but nobody should feel fortunate to be able to tolerate lots of pain on a daily basis to live a "normal" life. Gah, the topic makes me so freaking mad.

Well we spoke to a broker and we're able to afford upwards of a 325K house, whoop! Kind of. We have to get the Decision in Principle first, as my partner is currently on agency work, apparently banks want 12 months to prove some kind of weird bullshit. But our broker (the one we've chosen, others were fine, but some didn't want to do anything over the phone only online? What's that about?) has found several mortgages we can be offered. Whoop! So now we search, I've been keeping an eye (erm every day shh) on the market, so we've got a fair amount to choose from, but I'll feel much better when the DIP is approved.

The difference is perhaps that we've had covid and the market has been...weird at best. We also can't do 5%, at least nothing that I can find that would be worthwhile. We are looking at all routes obviously. But with my health, help is needed.

That's really reassuring! We're speaking with her on Wednesday and so far she's been incredibly responsive. It'll certainly take the worries out of it. Now I just have everything crossed we can afford the houses we've been after. Eeek!

Just finished WandaVision and wow. It was a fairly bold direction, but I really enjoyed it. My heart is a bit shattered, but I highly enjoyed that. Which leads us to watch Winter Soldier next. Phew!

I have everything crossed for you MindFreak! On that note, I contacted a mortgage broker this evening, I was fully prepared to go into this house business without one. But my health has taken a turn and its not fair to leave all of this to my partner, so a broker it is! Thankfully its one my parents used and found them really really good. So hopefully that makes things a bit easier!

I wrote a whole thing, about how I've still not heard anything from anyone and how the pain is getting into my head. But what's the bloody point. I'm tired, everyone is so excited that they are getting their vaccinations (my friends have had theirs) and going "back to normal". My normal is not going to change. I'll be in pain, maybe with a vaccination, I'll still need to work from home. I still won't be able to drink. Gah, fuck it haha.

Couldn't find a white keyboard I liked, so changed my keycaps out for white ones.

It's taken two years, 4 cancellations, more than I care to think about re-bookings and countless emails, only 6 people and social distancing. But we did it.

Can you let me know how this is! Sorely tempted by it.

Thanks gang. At the time I just felt really lost and just wanted to through it out there. I'm doing ok, all things considered. The reality is (and my doctor confirmed) considering how unwell I am, my life is pretty decent. I can't say I don't get sad as fuck sometimes, but I'm getting there.

Knowing how I feel as a patient, I am not surprised by any of this. I've been to two major hospitals for my care and I always say the way the "admin staff" apologies that's definitely too broad but hopefully you get what I mean, always always always let me down in comparison to how the doctors/nurses are. It seems there's a bunch of lovely folk who want to help me and are repeatedly shot down because of shit you describe. Nearly died because of it. So fuck her, punt into a volcano.

You know sometimes when you just find something out and you need to speak out but you just don't know how/where? I've felt that heavily today. So perhaps here is the way. A couple of weeks ago I went to a private doctor over my health. The TL;DR is that it was very good. But ultimately I need to stick with the NHS to have my surger(ies). In the conversation I was asked if my mother had ever had a BRCA test as I have not. In the end I had to ask my dad (my mother passed from aggressive breast cancer in the early 90s). My dad is nothing short of fantastic when it comes to sharing knowledge about my mum even though its still obviously really hard for him to discuss. Normally I'm fairly OK with whats discussed. But today broke my heart. My dad spoke of how she discovered the cancer, how I was just 3 months old and how it developed from there. She had radiation on her ovaries and they were broken that the choice for more children was taken from them. Knowing my own choice is gone, its a rough road. My mum died in a lot of pain and I know my dad gets really upset seeing what I'm dealing with. I don't have cancer. But I now need a full hysterectomy and bowel surgery. I'll never be able to have children and its not going to be an easy road going forward. I don't really have a way to end this comment. I just kind of needed it somewhere.

Thanks everyone. I ended up being swayed by the Samsung S21 after watching a lot of reviews. It feels like a more recent version of my Samsung S8, so I'm very pleased with it. Ultimately it was probably too much money for what it is, but I love it. I did find I quite liked the idea of the Pixel and the OnePlus 8T, but ended up finding that some of the features (and looks) of the S21 swayed me in the end.