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    Well I met a girl that lives near me that currently wants casual but my oh my would I date her if she wanted more . The prettiest girl I have ever been with . I feel like I just need a bit of luck, although my oh my do I still wish I wasn't in such a loved to bubble in my first relationship , should have read the signs , should have done something . I was checking our relationship status daily for about a week before . I knew something was up

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    Well my contract that was 3-6 months has ended in the 4th month and not been extended . Not my fault just a restructure . Now looking for a more analytical role focusing on qualitative data .Any ideas ?

  20. Posted · Edited by stuwii

    I explained this to you. You did NOTHING wrong, people annoy their partners all the time - sometimes by accident and sometimes even deliberately. No two people will always get on, but if you are in a loving relationship you would never end it over something so trivial.

     

    Your girlfriend left you because she didn't want to be with you and she used this as a pretext. Most people are quite cowardly when it comes to leaving someone - they don't want to have to look their partner in the eyes and tell them they don't love them, or they haven't been happy for a long time or it was never quite there for them. Instead people look for something trivial to justify a breakup.

     

    Your girlfriend clearly wasn't happy and used this small thing as a reason to end it. That sounds harsh - but it is true. But the truth should set you free and you can stop hanging yourself on that one incident and move on. If you hadn't done that one thing, it would have been another thing weeks later. You couldn't change things - somethings aren't right and won't last anyway.

     

    What you need to do is move on - and by move on I mean start focusing on other things. Start focusing on good things. Firstly and most importantly clear out her stuff or things that remind you of her - and DO NOT look her up on social networks. By following your ex partner's trail around the internet you might as well be dragging yourself over broken glass. DO NOT DO IT, it only leads to further depression and anguish - especially if they are doing well for themselves!

     

    Secondly, once you have taken your focus away from your ex, focus on yourself. Improve yourself and make yourself the best version of you possible. Join a gym, get yourself out exercising, buy yourself some new clothes and get in great shape. Get looking your best - and with this will come confidence and positivity. Confidence and positivity are two of the most attractive traits a person can have.

     

    No one wants to date someone who is wallowing in self pity and manufactured guilt over another relationship ending - and whilst you are in that state you can't seriously think about looking for someone new.

     

    What's more, as an extra bonus to self improvement - not only will you feel more confident and be more attractive to others, but if you do ever run into your ex, she is much more likely to think she made a big mistake. But if she runs into you and you're dishevelled and looking worse for wear, that will only cement it in her mind that leaving you was a positive mood.

     

    So in short the three steps:

     

    1) Stop blaming yourself

    2) Get rid of her from your head and personal space - and don't look her up

    3) Focus on self improvement and making yourself the best version of you possible

     

    Once you have done this, you will find yourself in a happier place and success will follow...

     

    1) It wasn't new year in hindsight as we planned to see her after

    2) Out with a girl tonight

    3) Hitting the gym hard after a break that should have occurred but leaned up significantly and have a big job now so one day maybe it'll be good

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    I too have mild Autism so I can completely understand - or at least to a degree as it affects people differently - though I find it's best to be honest about these things from the outset, it's not something I shout from the rooftops but I'm sure I've mentioned on here before that I have Asperger's Syndrome, of course it makes life challenging and if you didn't tell the person you were in a relationship with until recently then I could see how that could make things awkward but really... I hope that's not the reason that your relationship ended? If the person you were with couldn't accept you for who you are then maybe it's for the best as harsh as that may sound, there may be more details I'm unaware of though. :hmm:

     

    My last relationship ended for various reasons - long distance is never easy - but I would say that ultimately we were two conflicting personalities looking back so I'm glad to have finally moved on even though I don't regret being in the relationship but I have learned a lot. ::shrug:

     

    Just try to take something postive away from the whole experience, I know it's never easy but if you can be happy in who you are then hopefully the rest will follow, it's not always true but it can be good to try and have a positive outlook where possible. :D

     

    I did the say something very very stupid on New Year's Day that was taken out of context by her and that was it . If she had been told of my condition this would have been avoided

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    I think I have to be brutal with myself and say my really mild autism cost me this relationship . Basically it makes you a nearly person in everything you do . Little things in interviews cost you getting a job . You'll get with girls , sleep with girls but then just lack something that gets you into a relationship . It also means you misread body language and I should have known we were in trouble . I basically ruined my entire year on new year by unintentionally ruining it for her . It's an awful awful thing to have minorly as well , people don't know you have it so you don't tell them . And in this relationship too late

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