Posted April 14, 2014 Above all, make sure she is kind. The most important thing, and probably the hardest thing to gauge when you're in those flirtatious and fun first months because the other person can just seem amenable and kind because of that intense emotional energy you/ they have in the first stages of the relationship. Definitely the thing I value the most in my gal. Especially important if you're an asshole (guilty). Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 14, 2014 The most important thing, and probably the hardest thing to gauge when you're in those flirtatious and fun first months because the other person can just seem amenable and kind because of that intense emotional energy you/ they have in the first stages of the relationship. Definitely the thing I value the most in my gal. Especially important if you're an asshole (guilty). Did your girlfriend not manage to gauge it? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 14, 2014 Did your girlfriend not manage to gauge it? As @Ashley has said before, my rage is my most attractive attribute Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 Here's to daddy issues! Raining, sorry to hear hope that he opens up to you soon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 OK so it feels like i'm drawing blood from a stone every time I talk to him. I'm so unloved at the minute, its not even funny. Oh man, really sorry to hear that Hopefully he'll soon come to the realization that opening up is the best thing he can do in his situation. I was supposed to be on a date in two hours. However, the lady texted me a couple of minutes ago that she threw up last night. She also said that she was really looking forward to it, and it annoys her that she got sick. Well, I'll see whether that's true or not if she decides to get back to me for an alternative date. :p Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 She threw up? Did you somehow manage to impregnate her before going on a date with her? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 I was supposed to be on a date in two hours. However, the lady texted me a couple of minutes ago that she threw up last night. She also said that she was really looking forward to it, and it annoys her that she got sick. Well, I'll see whether that's true or not if she decides to get back to me for an alternative date. :p She threw up last night? What's her point? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 She threw up last night? What's her point? She's still feeling under the weather today. And we were supposed to meet right about now. :p Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 I had something similar happen a few weeks ago (she was "ill"), then we rearranged it and she was "forced to work overtime". Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 (edited) I had something similar happen a few weeks ago (she was "ill"), then we rearranged it and she was "forced to work overtime". Yup, my last experiences with women and dates have mainly been the same. That's why I decided to wait for her to make the next 'move'. If she does, yay. If she doesn't, on to the next one. :p Edit: Oh, and @Charlie Did you think "last night" meant "last evening" (as it is usually the case with the English language :p)? In Germany the literal translation for "last night" really means during the night. Edited April 15, 2014 by drahkon Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 15, 2014 Yup, my last experiences with women and dates have mainly been the same. That's why I decided to wait for her to make the next 'move'. If she does, yay. If she doesn't, on to the next one. :p Edit: Oh, and @Charlie Did you think "last night" meant "last evening" (as it is usually the case with the English language :p)? In Germany the literal translation for "last night" really means during the night. I did yes. I'll let her off in that case! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 16, 2014 OK so it feels like i'm drawing blood from a stone every time I talk to him. I'm so unloved at the minute, its not even funny. We still love you. *hugs* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 So sorry to hear that such a spanner's been thrown into the works @Raining_again, hope the situation gets better soon. *huggles* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 I had something similar happen a few weeks ago (she was "ill"), then we rearranged it and she was "forced to work overtime". You should have sent her a bottle of TM88 - Peruvian Whiskey, it might have loosened her up! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 So, I'm single. Join the club. You probably don't want my advice - but I guarantee it is the right advice. If a relationship isn't working out it's better that it ends than dragging it out and pulling yourself through each day on the hope and prayer that it will one day get better. We've all been with someone we care about and it isn't working. You do everything to please them, everything to show them you care. But ultimately despite your best efforts, they brush it off. And with every gesture of kindness that you offer there is the crushing feeling of rejection when it isn't met with the response you desired. Making a break with someone you care about is hard. But it's harder and more damaging in the long run to keep pouring your heart and soul into a bottomless pit that sucks your emotions dry whilst giving nothing back in return. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 So, I'm single. Sorry to hear that. Are you staying friends with him? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 Yeah.. We're only breaking up because he can't be in a relationship while he sorts through all this stuff. He needs to focus on himself and not have to worry about how its affecting me. If you love em let em go type scenario... I saw it in his eyes, he was breaking into pieces as much as I was... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 If thats is the case all i can suggest is that you be there for him as a friend and perhaps at the end you'll become close again , and if not as painful as it is, you'll have helped the one you love move on and become whole again but either way i'm really sorry to hear you've broken up Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 Yeah I think he needs the space for now, but maybe I'll contact him in a while and see how he is. We're not enemies. I haven't deleted him off facebook, I haven't slagged him off to anyone. I still love the guy as a best friend, its just under sad circumstances that we could not be a couple at this point in time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 17, 2014 So sorry to hear about the breakup. There's a special place in hell for the guy who originally abused him. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 23, 2014 Man, I really fucked up now. I should've never started hanging out with that girl. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 24, 2014 Two of my mates are interested in the same girl. Both talk to me about it and ask me for advice. The girl has kissed one of them (two days ago, after a party, both drunk) and had dinner and launch with the other one. I don't really know her so it's just an assumption but it seems she's just playing with them No idea if I should tell both what I think... Man, I really fucked up now. I should've never started hanging out with that girl. Want to tell us more? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 24, 2014 Man, I really fucked up now. I should've never started hanging out with that girl. Colour me curious... Go on? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
