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Dude's like Beetlejuice. Say his name three times and he'll pop up with a thread about his shoes, or North Korea (each thread type equally likely).

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I'm also pretty bad at meeting new people. I don't know anyone my age that lives near me. The people at work are OK, but they usually go out with their mates. I tried going out with them once...I really don't like their mates.

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Dude's like Beetlejuice. Say his name three times and he'll pop up with a thread about his shoes, or North Korea (each thread type equally likely).

 

Or even more likely, a thread about shoes in North Korea!

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Dude's like Beetlejuice. Say his name three times and he'll pop up with a thread about his shoes, or North Korea (each thread type equally likely).

 

Was that in the extended edition of the film?

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Co Durham as in within the Dales or County Durham?

 

County Durham.

 

Sounds like joining groups and finding common interests is the way forward. Cheers for the ongoing feedback.

Out of interest, where did you meet your current "friends"? It's usually through school, college or work, no?

 

Does anyone randomly meet people and 'hit it off' ? I've only done this a few times and they are usually the best friendships/relationships.

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I think he just likes posting about how he's better/different to us.

 

Must be his NYR then.

 

As for meeting new peeps, well i recommend clubs. Even greeting people in the street can spur a convo up with them. I should know, it works for me (sometimes).

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It's very easy to make friends in college, and we don't even need common interests, besides partying of course.

 

After college[university], I don't think it would be that easy. I'd feel awkward joining some random club by myself.

 

It's always easy to make friends with friends of friends though.

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I think the difficulty in meeting new people for me may is influenced by my Danishness. I've mentioned before that we can seem like a very "closed" people that's hard to get in on. Whenever I'm out where there are other people, I have absolutely no problem initiating conversation if I feel I have a practical reason for doing so. It's like I just need to have an errand to get "permission" to speak to them. You could also simply call it an excuse for approaching them. When that initial barrier has been broken, I find it pretty easy to socialise.

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Friends of friends, generally. I met a fair few of you lot irl, most notably Dan Dare and Shorty, too.

 

Never been able to keep in touch with randomers. There are a few in my phonebook that get a text once in a while. I have the adress of a mancurian middle-aged lesbian that I spent the night with (not like that) last year, but generally potential friends have to be 'vetoed' by current friends.

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I find a large number of my friends slowly evolve over the course of time. You lose some, you gain some etc. I presently do have a number of friend 'groups' with some overlap between them as well. When I was young I had school friends, who I still have(tho as I said the lineups have changed), then I made friends with some of one of my friend's friends, and meet more people slowly through them, again rolling in different friend groups, and I also made friends with a guy at work, and resultantly his brothers(one who knew a few of my friends) and resultantly all THEIR friends. I've rarely made friends with an absolute randomer, however, circumstance makes it feel difficult to keep, and I find that a bit...challenging as well? I'm not sure how to explain it, but it doesn't seem so easy to make good friends with a total randomer, having another friend as an 'in' makes you seem less creepy lol.

 

However, I do a lot of my meeting of these people, and hanging with them, by being out in the pub, and if you don't like pubbing then it can be a lot harder! People are there TO be social, it's a perfect situation imo! My only other advice would be the social/activity clubs or college classes you're interested in(killing two birds with one stone!), these days I'm sure there's also cool sites for finding people/making friends, but I don't know of any but it's an option for trying, there may well be people in a similar boat to you!

 

I actually do kind of share your sentiments that having so many people and not enough good/close ones around you can feel kind of lonely, though. Now whilst your friends are sort of drying up(bad phrasing) could be a good time to do any crazy travelling or something if you can do so without much hassle and wanted to?

 

I find one of the biggest things needed in order to make/keep friends though, is to be outgoing enough, you do sometimes need to make sure you see them/invite them places/arrange stuff, otherwise you might just get left behind and forgotten. Can be draining though. Can wind you up being 'the arranger' as well.

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