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    What? You mean none left to put on the shelf? Bad showing if that's the case.

     

    Saying that, a guy on Gaf posted the display in his Game store and it was pitiful compared to the Infinity and Skylanders section.

     

    I'll drive down to the Metro Centre in the morning and see what's what.

     

    Keep me posted :)

    Darlington GAME only has mario/peach/DK/Link/Samus on display. Thought that was poor.

  3. Posted · Edited by tapedeck

    Wow...didn't think it would be hard to find anything Nintendo related this gen. Grainger Games in my town centre gave me a 'who knows' eye roll today when I asked about Amiibo deliveries. Shame, we only have a tesco and looking at their Nintendo relationship is a waste of time.

    There used to be GAME shops and decent GAMESTATIONS. Yeah...the high street is shot these days, but like others have said, there is NO WAY I'll be buying any of these online. Especially as I main Marth hah.

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    I appreciate the advice, and definitely won't take it negatively.

     

    The thing is, I am the nice guy, and I want to keep it that way. [...]

     

    Maybe I'm mistaken, and she is as you say (many girls are), but either way I abhor the idea of "playing the game", and would prefer to find somebody who feels the same.

     

    Thanks for your honesty. In some way initial 'courting' processes are about playing a 'game' as there are rules we can follow to get the best results.

     

    Games aren't always bad. They can be fun! You indicate manipulation and in matters of the heart we see such aspects as wholly negative. They are if we aim to hurt others, which I would never promote. When dating we are presenting a front/manipulating whenever we dress up more or wear new aftershave. It's just we see these things as 'normal' and congruent with who we are so we don't mind doing them. I'm just staying adopt some new techniques which will then become normal to your psyche.

     

    Turning up for dates, telling good stories about ourselves could be construed as a game too. It's about presenting our best selves.

    What I'm saying is more about being the 'best' version of yourself and keeping things fun.

     

    Sounds like she got a bit of cold feet if she was all over you? Who knows. Women are a bit of a mystery hah. I'd just pursue a bit more if you really like her. Put it out in the open that you had a great night and would like more...

    Being 'nice' is also about being honest about how we are feeling. : peace:

  7. Posted · Edited by tapedeck

    Does anybody here fancy going on a date with me and seeing what I do wrong?

     

     

    I don't want you to take this in a negative way - know that I just mean to be supportive and offer some friendly advice.

     

    'Not having time' is her just being nice. And you were too nice saying thanks and give me a call anytime. That's cool...but only if you just want her to know you as 'that nice guy'.

    Ask yourself what that says. It says that she can blow you off (not in the good way) and you'll say thanks, I'm happy to see you anytime - just let me know and I'll make some time for you. It says your time isn't valuable and she can just have you anytime she wants.

    I know you were being nice, your a decent guy from what I read on here. But when it comes to women that alone won't make them want you.

     

    In your text you'd have been better off coming across that she's missing out on some great fun by not making time for you. I always see blow offs like that as a test - a great little way to re-frame the seriousness of it all. Maybe she was testing your resolve/how serious you were about her. Hey, maybe she got nervous from your intelligence/wit or massive man pecs. ;)

    My advice in these kinds of situations generally goes like this:

     

    Hey, (insert random name you've made up for her like 'music chick')

    Funny you text me, I was thinking about grading your date performance and deciding if you were cool enough to hang with me! Seems like you might have realised you weren't cool enough ;) but look, I can see you were just nervous and hey - even I was - that dress was too cute! But I'm willing to give you another chance to hang out with me. I'm free this Thur/Fri eve at 8pm if you can handle fun?

     

    Most people would think that's just sounding like an asshole. It's not. You aren't being nasty. Your presenting a challenge, showing you want her and are also being...fun.

    If you aren't being playful and slightly winding her and up and she's not vibing with you at the early stages, you don't want her. It should be light and just fun at this point. If she's getting all serious in a negative way - back.away.

     

    I don't know you, nor her (and when I've previously given any relationship advice here I've been sarcastically mocked) but I know my stuff. I've had lots of relationships (both short and long-term) and read books/studies on relationships when I was in my mid-late 20's. As an adviser/counsellor I also know how to build rapport with people effectively and quickly to build trust to help them in as few sessions as possible. It helps. I'm not an 'expert' but know what to avoid for the most part. The best thing is all women are different so you need to be socially acute to know what works with that person. You should have a list of what you want in a person and ask them questions around those as well. Qualify her. Many women aren't used to that. IE: what's your favourite animal and why? Do you like animals, I'm looking for someone who is kind to animals...

     

    I digress...

     

    I'll just say that if you aren't pushing any buttons emotionally, it can be hard for a woman to keep interested in you. Often just being a 'nice guy' is boring so you need to add some emotion too - positive is best. That's why you avoid talking about politics/death/money/exes for the most part. Again, I caused debate last time I mentioned this on here as folk thought I was saying don't be a nice person. Again, I'll say - being nice is important, it's just not everything - if it was, bad boys would all be single...

     

    On my dates and online talk I've kept it playful, teasing and just cheeky enough. If a woman hasn't got into that zone with me, I tell her she's too boring for a fun, cool guy like me and that we could just be friends for when I've nothing exciting happening in my life. ;) be funny. If she kicks off tell her she's got no sense of humour. Be cool but be playful.

     

    Why else do women want a good sense of humour in a guy on their dating profiles? It's all about the feel-good. Keep the serious and overly 'nice' stuff for later down the road when the passionate 'just starting out sex' has subsided.

     

     

    My dating with piano girl is going well. Stayed over all weekend second week in a row and it was lovely. Don't want to put too much personal stuff here but she's the kind of girl that makes you smile on a random lazy Monday afternoon at work. The feels!

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    Just a heads up on my dating with piano girl. It is turning into something even better. We've had more piano time together and she taught me to play some chords on the Ukulele last weekend (joyous). Even her adopted cat has an affinity for me. Hnnnng.

    We've had a few 'dates' since (more like 'I want to go to X place on X day, coming?') And from that I've stayed over a few times now. We did an arcade for a date which was fun (guitar hero prowess FTW) and she reckons she can destroy me at Mario Kart on her Wii. I should probably tell her about my 20yr Nintendo adoration soon, right?

     

    I met her house mate last night and got a text later on saying 'thumbs up'. Social proof ftw.

     

    We did have a brief chat about how it's scary how well we are getting on (in a funny, knowing way). It's all good.

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    Had a cracking first date with someone last night. Ended up at her place playing the piano together and talking until 4am. She's cute, intelligent, successful and beautiful. I was floored how well we clicked. Meeting next week for another date. :)

    Off on a date tonight with a 'pre-booked' other girl. Healthy to not dwell too much on one at this early stage me thinks - even though it was awesome.

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    Think I'm in the camp of loving this game more than previous editions. Not sure on the Mii's though - too many characters seems like the structure of the game has made way for variety - for varieties sake. All good fun though.

    I do prefer it even to Melee though. I always thought the models are naff in melee (though at the time, they were awesome) compared to Brawl onwards. Only liked a few stages in Melee too whereas they seem to be much more confident in stage creation these days. It's difficult though as they all have their own merits. Also: Omega versions of stages SAVES this edition.

     

    As Josh says - playing this on the train/bus/at work is just a fab experience and really feels like a fully-fledged home console experience.

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    Yeah was there yesterday and off there this morning. A little disappointed in the large devs not being there. Outside of a couple of AAA games and a strong Konami prescence, a bit flat in new games. PES is brilliant this year though. Played it for an hour straight and the PS4 version feels a lot slicker than the PS3 version. Did love the retro section. Four swords adventures on four monitors and a large TV is godly! Also, melee, Project M tournaments were interesting to watch.

    Was over the moon I could play all my childhood games again in the retro area leaving me and my nephew gamed out. Was a GREAT gaming education for him too. The screenplay section was a bit thrown together so will just do a few things today before heading back to the train station and back home.

    Glad we went but hopefully there is more next year. Also - 45min queue was a bit naff.

  13. Posted

    Well met with my date yesterday. Met in a local McDonalds first to be safe...stranger danger and all that and then went seal watching and explored a forest park I like. Anyway, she looked MUCH older (nearly didn't recognise her!) and had a really old fashioned attitude - nice but totally different. Almost like an old teacher or sommat!

    We had a lot in common but also a lot of differences. Had a nice day out but when we went for food she had a bad stomach which was a bit awkward but handled it smoothly.

     

    She GRILLED me on money, kids, women, life, beliefs, career, health, music, spirituality, relationship with family, psychology, society, war, politics. Was really intense tbf and I told her a fair bit as she was easy to talk to. Did indicate she asked a lot of stuff at one point like! Anyway, she messaged me today saying she was gutted that she didn't feel any chemistry and that we'd be best as friends. Felt absolutely mind raped!

    Tbf I did feel the same way and a little flat as she was clearly way older in spirit than me.

     

    Speaking to a few other lasses. Next! : peace:

  15. Posted

    Update from me: met a random lass who messaged me through a dating app last Sunday for a drink in the afternoon. Her pic was nice but she did look a bit different when she rocked up at the pub. Not my type.

    Anyway, she sent me her number through the app after, saying we should meet up again. Text her through the week but her craic was poor. Just not really into her so not gonna bother texting her anymore.

     

    I did decide to join eHarmony though owing to a fair few lasses on the dating apps not really being my type and being a lot younger than what I was looking for. Anyway, saw a profile on there and she was just gorgeous in looks and personality. A cross between Emily Blunt, Uma Thurman (IMO) professional, late 30's. She lives a fair way away but figured she was worth the travel. So yeah, she liked me too and we shared questions and chatted for ages and had tons in common based around our values, beliefs, views of the world and more.

     

    Anyway, she's asked if she can come see me this Wed for a day out together. Gonna have to get the day off work. No biggie tbf. Either way, she sounds awesome - so... fingers crossed. Just keeping realistic and hoping she turns out as nice as she seems online. If you don't hear from me in a week, call the police. :heh:

  16. Posted

    Gonna wait to see what they patch this year as early adopters seem frustrated by the bugs. Also - PES releases in November and if the demo is anything to go by, it could be the better on-field game this year.

  17. Posted

    I get really bad cramp when playing 3DS. Mario Kart 7 kills my left hand. Looked it up online and not alone. Tons of folk have bought the prongs available and also the wheel add on as a means to cope with the pain. I think it stems from the analogue or something. Either way - unfelt it from a couple of games on this too. Might have to get a grip for the system at this rate.

     

    Either way: picking up both games. Demo has confirmed it. I think it's superb. Stunning graphics for the 3DS too. You can tell it struggles when you press the home button and days pass before it recognises it.

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    Sounds shitty - were they originally your friends or hers? I've always wondered what'd happen in that situation as I'm a fairly social guy, but thankfully most of my friends are either too useless to end up in a proper relationship or otherwise still together/quite sensible about it afterwards. I'm actually better friends with my mate's ex now, though I worried for a while if that was a bit weird for him. There's been a couple small world encounters where people I know end up with other people I know, but those have been fairly all right too. Then the obvious ones where one party just removes themselves from everything, which is a shame cos it's people I don't know/see anymore, but sometimes you kinda wonder why they pull away so hard. I think anyone you 'lose' as part of all this is probably worth losing - did you actually do anything worse than just break up with her?

     

    Mutual friends but mostly girls. I find that girls rally round each other more than lads do. And the lads who were mates always had a bit of a crush on her and are single so it makes sense they would side with her.

    It was definitely the right decision to 'lose' her though. We just weren't meant to be. I just needed a place to vent.

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    Saw this in CEX for £8 so bought it at the weekend. I was desperate for a light-hearted, colourful third person adventure game to go through, so this fit the bill. Haven't played it since owning it for the GC but it holds up really well. Nice presentation and looks nice running through component cables on the Wii. Dolby Pro Logic, 16:9 widescreen and Rare's talent (at the time), makes this a lovely game to go through on these darkening nights.

     

    Shame that the Wii U can't play GC disks though. Digging the Wii out each time is a pain.

  24. Posted

    So, social media is fucked up when you break up with people these days. Never had FB when I've broken up with someone before.

    Just had a massive clear out of people this morning. Kinda fucked up how many of my friends were her friends too and how everyone panders to the 'victim' and is happy to slag me off in a public forum. Also, hate cryptic messages that are obviously placed just for someone to read.

    So yeah, massive clear out. Tempted to just come off it but then it's like being cut off from your social circle (which you need when bouncing back Partridge style).

  25. Posted

    Bizarrely I was playing this yesterday. Gets me emotional, taking me back to the pure gaming bliss of my childhood. It's dream-like in presentation and direction and the lock-on features are brilliant. Overall, Sonic 3 is my favourite in the series (dat music, the double jump power ups and ingenuity at play) but with S&K it becomes even greater. The sum of its parts.

    A special, special game and for me, a special time in the history of gaming.

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